My feed
Premium

Please
or
to access all these features

For free parenting resources please check out the Early Years Alliance's Family Corner.

Parenting

there are many threads here preaching a 'holier than thou' message, and I want to say.........

294 replies

Psychomum5 · 01/03/2008 23:00

......I am not perfect, I am not the greatest mum ever (altho I really would like to be able to say I am), and I am also not the best person to ask for advice on feeding kiddies the 'perfect' diet........

there are many threads here stating how we feed our DC's, treat out DC's, raise our DC's, and for the most part we all agree....

but surely.....(and I speak a lot for myself here)

sometimes we also LIE!!!



I have my standards, and 75% of the time I try to stick to them, but 25% of the time I either fail, or take my time remembering and so parenting cana be a little slack in these periods.

BUT

when there are threads here, I give advice and sometimes realise that I have 'twisted' the truth somewhat in my favour......

I don;t give my kiddies as much veg as I claim at times....or at least...I find I offer said veg, just they refuse it and it ends in the bin. (Altho that is not the post I would add at times)'

I offer fruit each day....only 3 of them eat with any enjoyment, and the other 2 have suplements.

I give them chocolate every day, and icecream, and pudding (well, that comes under the icecream TBH), they have crisps too most days...........

I have smacked them (altho sinse being here more, I haven;t and even DD1 said the other day that she can;t remember me ever smacking altho I still threaten it for the 'count to three' threat. It works, as I have never got to 3...!

I even allow a take-away each week.....

Oh, and as for chicken.....no idea where it comes from, altho that will be changing soon as the taste is definatley different as I have tested

and...............I drive to school......

please tell me I haven't confessed all and am now going to be pelted with stones....

OP posts:
Report
Bumdiddley · 04/03/2008 12:05

I fed my dcs spam fritters...

Report
OrmIrian · 04/03/2008 12:42

I say yes to my DCs most of the time. Which often appears to be the cardinal sin of parenting. I know parents who beleive that 'no' should be the default response. To anything.

Report
maxbear · 04/03/2008 13:48

Hello, can I join in?
I weaned ds at 15 weeks, (he was desperate), When he started having formula (bout 8m) made it up with tap water . Have never sterilised anything apart from the breast pump (well not with ds, sterilised everything with dd!) Am always giving him stuff that says not suitable under 12m. (he will be 1 next week hurrah!) Have been giving him cows milk for the last month or so since giving up bf. Dd infront of telly at mo so that I can come on mumsnet(nothing wrong with that though!)

Report
Rochwen · 04/03/2008 16:22

here are my confessions.

DD (2 and a half) is still in her cot because I'm scared my sleep will be disturbed once she's in a bed she can get out of.
DD is still in her nappies because I really can't be bothered with the hassle of potty training and having to worry about finding toilets whenever I go out.
DD sometimes doesn't wear a hat when we are outside because I can't cope with the tantrums.
DD doesn't always wash her hands before she eats because of aforementioned tantrums.
Also, I have no consistent discipline procedure and sometimes I put dd into her cot just to have peace.

There I said it, I'm a lazy parent.

...but she does eat her fruit and veggies !

Report
Spaceman · 04/03/2008 16:31

75 percent is still an A+ isn't it? Or is it just an A? It'll earn you a first if you were taking a degree anyway.

Well done.

Report
Spaceman · 04/03/2008 16:31

75 percent is still an A+ isn't it? Or is it just an A? It'll earn you a first if you were taking a degree anyway.

Well done.

Report
Spaceman · 04/03/2008 16:32

sorry about the double drop

Report
Psychomum5 · 04/03/2008 18:06

my day is complete!!!

I get an A for parenting, and also, my thread gets to be on the front page!!!!

OP posts:
Report
Psychomum5 · 04/03/2008 18:10

and just to top it off.........

I bought some lovely new shades for my bedroom today. FINALLY. after 2yrs of waiting for the exact right colour!

DH went to fit them......and broke the light fitting. Shades are fine, just no light to be able to show them off now.

and plus.......the shade now goes too close to the door to prevent it from closing properly....

arrrrrgggggggghhhhhhhhh

(not that this has any bearing on parenting of course, but more of a mini rant)

OP posts:
Report
sophy · 04/03/2008 18:25

Have only skimmed this thread but you lot all appear to be perfect parents compared to me.

I shout at my children. Especially when I am tired, which is most of the time.

I argue with DH in front of them and don't always support his discipline.

I let them watch TV and play computer games for hours on end.

And unsuitable dvds. DS2 (6) is allowed to watch cert 12 unsupervised.

I use food as a bribe and have managed to turn mealtimes into battles of will. Which I usually lose.

I spend hours on the computer when I should be reading with my children.

I let them drink fizzy drinks when we are out at the pub. And eat crisps.

In fact I cannot thnk of anything I do well. Other than buy organic food and try to be green/ethical.

So there.

Report
WestCountryLass · 04/03/2008 21:08

My issue is not that I concern myself with what other parents think, but I am my own judge and jury. Most of the time I feel happy with the way I parent, the things I let the kids do and eat etc and how I discipline them but I sometimes end up screaming like a banshee at my DD and afterwards I remind myself that she is 3 and I am 34 and I should know better.

What to do, what to do....

Report
MaLopez · 04/03/2008 22:43

Hmm.
Today, my DD had rice crispies for breakfast, cookie crisp for elevenses when Mr Tesco delivered the shopping, an apple, 2 innocent smoothies, a bag of crisps and then pizza for dinner.

Have had the flu bug from Hell, second time in 10 years and that is my excuse.

I do not drive, too lazy
I take buses and if it's too cold, I take taxis.
DD was in our bed from day 1 and left when she was about one and only moved to her room when she was almost 4.
My DD eats loads of fruits but hates veggies apart from the cleverly hidden ones in Marks and Sparks Kiddies meals.
I have never been to a mother and toddler group or playgroup, I hate going to parks and when I am too tired to read a bedtime story, I put on an audiobook or lullabies on the CD player.
I do raise my voice, alright, I shout sometimes.
I hide in the loo for peace and quiet.
DD learnt all her Spanish from Dora the explorer.

I do need to learn how to drive before September as DD starts school and I need to drop her so if anyone wants to take on a neurotic learner, I am your girl.

Report
Psychomum5 · 05/03/2008 07:28

well.....I am not gonna be my aim of a good mummy today!!!

the children bought home yesterday, letters re-book day, and now need outfits..

I am not happy, and there is ranting.........

real RANTING!!!!!!

garrrrrrrrr

OP posts:
Report
bergentulip · 05/03/2008 14:53

My DH is German, and sausage for breakfast, or nutella is quite the norm,.... I have to admit I would have preferred the weetabix and fruit to continue, but my son is now 3yrs old and these days he just wants to eat what Papa is eating..... (yes, fully grown man also enjoys his Nutella bread!)

I think I'd be a bad parent NOT to allow him these treats.

Report
bergentulip · 05/03/2008 14:59

And if I'm allowed to add - -
I too spend waaaay too much time on the computer, we don't go out to the park enough, I negotiate too much with a 3yr old - to the point that his favourite phrase at the moment is 'is that a deal?' (!), .... and now my 3mth old is gurgling in a charming way on the floor next to me, and I am continuing to type this.........
In fact, what am I doing???

Report
Psychomum5 · 05/03/2008 16:31

see......come frm a different culture/country and nutella is not considered bad/odd/evil.....tis considered normal and good for you.

so good in fact that MEN eat it!!!!!

I think we should therefore adopt a different countries breakfast choices at least once a week to encourage full understanding of cultures from around the globe.

Now THAT would make me damn near perfect as my kiddies mummy then now wouldn't it....

OP posts:
Report
missorinoco · 05/03/2008 19:35

jumping back, potato factory, my ds eats so much petit-filous that his burps smell of them.
(sorry, grammar issues there i think)

Report
Psychomum5 · 05/03/2008 19:40

ah but petit filous is healthy, socan;t count......

unless of course the sugar counts them out

OP posts:
Report
KatieScarlett2833 · 09/03/2008 16:55

I let my kids eat chocolatey cereal every day, while I attempt to salvage my conscience with fresh fruit juice and fish oils and multivitamins.

I am not a stranger to the local takeaway emporiums.

I turn a blind eye to my kids spending most of their allowance on sweets and fizzy drinks and pretend that my house is a stranger to pepsi (since I don't buy it!)

I wildly extend the hours I'm meant to be studying to DH, DD and DS so I get to spend more time on Mumsnet.

I have not used an iron for over 2 years, having perfected the art of my fantastic drier (although I lie and say I mostly line dry to my MIL).

I often do not bathe or dress on weekends, if I can avoid it.

Report
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.