Our new baby is left out

[Baby2023]

Hello

we have a 4 month old boy together and he has twins who are 3 from a past relationship. We are saving to moving in with each other. When he has his kids at the weekends he then at his. However our little boy is left out when they do stuff at the weekend. For example they are going swimming tommrow with nanny and they haven’t invited me and my son to go along with them. He would never think about leaving one of the twins and only taking one of them but is fine about leaving our little boy out. I am really cross and feel this is very unfair to our boy. Am I over reacting about him being left out. Yes I know he is only 4 Months but he hates being away from his dad and as he grows up he will see he is being left out

Wow. So OP you’re a student, working, have two children and a four month old baby and are getting zero help from the baby’s father (or previous partner) at the weekends? You must be exhausted. Hugs.

Clearly, this isn’t about swimming. This is about two things:

1. When is your baby’s father going to do some actual parenting of his baby, so that he can bond with his new child and more importantly you can get a break?
2. What is your baby’s father’s plan for his mother and his other children bonding with your baby (and you) so that you can begin to blend as a family?

Maybe swimming would be a pain but there’s no reason he couldn’t invite you and let you decide.

You are not needy for expecting your baby’s father to help look after his baby. And don’t let anyone tell you that you are!

Sorry so many Mumsnetters have been so rude to you. 😔

This ! Hope you are okay OP.

He is never there right now. He doesn’t have anything to do with the baby during the week, and the 2 weekends he’s been there I bet he lies in and is treated like a prince amongst men. Do you actually believe he does anything with the baby or gives the OP a break from childminding.