Sons dad fractured 3 of my sons ribs

[lockdownmummax]

Looking for advice,

Long one, on Wednesday morning I noticed my baby was unsettled and had a cut on his ear, he was grunting and I noticed a bruise on his hand, I took him to GP and she called social services, we where referred to hospital for suspected child abuse, I really thought some sort of freak accident happened, I never suspected my then partner ( sons dad ) at the time at all, however scans revealed 3 fractured ribs, on Saturday my sons dad told me he thinks he's done this out of a moment of frustration as he couldn't settle our son... he squeezed him, we told the police, the police arrested him yesterday morning, he is out and waiting to give another statement and charges

However social services have informed me today I am not aloud to be around my 2 children unsupervised, they will stay with my mum, I can't take them home or anything I am devestated as I haven't done this and told the police when my sons dad told me,

I am also struggling to come to terms with this as my sons dad is not an aggressive person and really never suspected this, anyone know what will happen with social services will I get to take my children home eventually

it's standard practice not to allow anyone who had care of the child during the period the injuries were caused to have unsupervised access to all children in the family (even with the fathers admission as some parents can both be abusive or one covers for the other).
This is to allow for Police and children's social care to investigate further and also for the two week period between your sons skeletal survey and the repeat skeletal survey. this is looking for healing fractures that may not have shown up during the first x-rays.
as distressing as this is it is important you and your mum stick to this agreement without faltering.
If the initial enquiries exclude you as a potential suspect the children should return to your care but be prepared that it can take quite some time to establish the facts.
if you and your mum do everything you are asked that will keep the children in your family rather than be taken into foster care.
whatever guilt or remorse your sons father states, ignore it. he will be upset he got caught. his feelings are not for you to worry about. it's for the criminal justice and family courts to decide his culpability and if he has a role in your sons life.
this will be a shock to you and you will likely be confused, angry, numb and questioning so many things. things like this turns your whole world upside down.
i hope your son isnt in pain and can be made comfortable and remains safe from now on.

so sorry, i realise now this is an old thread and you had provided an update.

i'm so pleased your little boy is thriving and you sound so strong and resilient. best of luck for the future!

@SteveMcqueensJeans the OP just updated a thread that is several months old.
She has come out of all that already!
And thankfully is doing really well seen the circumstances.

name change fail - yes i realised and added my apology under this name.
my earlier advice still stands for anyone else experiencing a similar scenario so hopefully not an entirely wasted post 😀

😁😁
i have to say I didn’t realise you were the same poster!

i am a woman of many identities 😉

Lovely update, and thanks so much for posting. Onwards and upwards, with good thoughts heading from here to you x