Sons dad fractured 3 of my sons ribs

[lockdownmummax]

Looking for advice,

Long one, on Wednesday morning I noticed my baby was unsettled and had a cut on his ear, he was grunting and I noticed a bruise on his hand, I took him to GP and she called social services, we where referred to hospital for suspected child abuse, I really thought some sort of freak accident happened, I never suspected my then partner ( sons dad ) at the time at all, however scans revealed 3 fractured ribs, on Saturday my sons dad told me he thinks he's done this out of a moment of frustration as he couldn't settle our son... he squeezed him, we told the police, the police arrested him yesterday morning, he is out and waiting to give another statement and charges

However social services have informed me today I am not aloud to be around my 2 children unsupervised, they will stay with my mum, I can't take them home or anything I am devestated as I haven't done this and told the police when my sons dad told me,

I am also struggling to come to terms with this as my sons dad is not an aggressive person and really never suspected this, anyone know what will happen with social services will I get to take my children home eventually

OP it is horrific but thank goodness that he has been stopped before it was even worse, it doesn’t bear thinking about what could have happened x

Ffs people, read the whole thread before making comments that have already been addressed numerous times. Some of these posts however are truly fucking disgusting! Op has done everything a good mum would and should do and is trying her best to protect her children while working with SS and dealing with this horrific situation.

he has clearly fooled you OP and has an aggressive side you don't know about. that is psycho like and scary. please protect your son, yourself and run away. how long have you been together? open your eyes, don't find excuses for him!

@lockdownmummax your experience reminds me of what happened to my little brother when he was about 1.. (this is apparently what happened) His dad had taken him to see his other children which involved them going to the park. Apparently he went down the slide and caught his leg going down but his body kept going. He apparently cried a lot and wouldn’t settle and his dad ignored it and seemingly went about his day!

the trip home was an hr or longer and he cried most of that journey until he cried himself to sleep! This was at a time when he had just learned to walk however when he came home (at nighttime) the next day my mum noticed he wouldn’t stand with pressure on his leg, was in pain and just seemed not right. Nobody was with him the day before except his dad so only he could say what happened and the story he gave us was what was put above.

my mum took him to the hospital where x-rays revealed he had a spiral fracture which they said was consistent with someone putting their hands on his legs and twisting it! SS was called and they found it even more suspicious nobody could vouch for what had happened as we wasn’t there! My mum called his dad to come to the hospital and speak to the consultant and SS and he refused, giving all sorts of excuses! My mum even explained they were planning to take my brother away if he didn’t come and explain what happened but he still refused!

weirdly enough the whole situation was dropped, SS didn’t seem to bother do their job that day and he came home with the story of the slide situation but it never sat right with us as his dad was so blasè about the whole situation and even when he cried in a way he never did before and for such an extended time (until it made him go to sleep) he still went on like this was normal and nothing to report back to my mum about it until the next day when she noticed he wasn’t walking!

we still don’t know the truth, if the slide was it (even though his half siblings that was with him couldn’t vouch for the slide incident) or if he actually physically broke his leg himself but the difference between the two stories is that your sons dad actually owned up (my brothers dad didn’t), you called the police as soon as you were made aware (my mum never called the police even though everything about it was suspicious especially with him refusing to come to the hospital and tell them what happened), you have said it’s over between the two of you for your children’s safety (my mum was so selfish she waited for their relationship to naturally break down, instead of ending it there based on all the factors given!)

I commend you for taking all the necessary steps a caring and loving mother would (or should) make! Your more of a woman than my mother was! I don’t know if it was because my brothers dad never owned up and we never got to know the truth however the way everything unfolded for me would be a done deal!

Im sorry you and your son are going through this, but I’m glad it came out now instead of later where it could have been much worse! I’m glad to see SS actually doing their job in this case to ensure your children will actually stay safe! Everything you done was right and the steps your going through to get them back as much as it feels wrong and bad, it’s for the best and will help you keep them safe from him in the future even though he showed no signs of aggression etc. I have every faith that the right thing will be done and your kids returned to you once their investigations complete providing the father is actually kept away until SS say he is allowed contact.

wishing you all the best!

Well you don't get to decide, so jog on.

I get why posters have reacted in shock. We all know in our minds that these dreadful things happen, but it's hard to read first-hand, and must to hell to deal with as a mum in this situation - and for your mum as a mother to you and gran to your little ones.

Why so many posters have personally been vicious towards you @lockdownmummax is difficult to comprehend. Don't these twats realise how much you're already dealing with, god love you?

You come across as a very young mum (could be wrong!) and very vulnerable too. You need to harden your heart against this POS in every way. Firstly there's his abuse of his own baby son. Then there's what he's done to you - put you under suspicion and having to prove yourself, separated you from your children and caused you unspeakable distress. Plus, how he must have watched your worry and concern for your tiny baby when he was so unsettled, knowing damn well that he was to blame!! He only admitted what he'd done too when he knew he was being found out. Cornered like the fucking rat he is. WTAF squeezes a baby to settle them? Lying bastard.

Best wishes @lockdownmummax - I hope things work out for you and that none of you have to ever see the scrote again x

Maybe because she can't bear to think how her baby has suffered? Did that never enter your tiny little mind?!

@GreenFingersWouldBeHandy

she's NOT with him anymore.

she's waiting to find out if her 11 week old baby sustained these injuries from one event or if there's signs it's happened previously.

she doesn't have X-ray vision, so yes, it US up to others to find out.

@letthemalldoone
Thank you for your post, I am a young mum I'm 23,
You hear this stuff on the news but never think it could happen to you, just feel in complete shock

You need to shut up and fuck off now.

I am so sorry this is happening to you and your kids.

well done for reporting him.

Please read the thread.

She has said she is leaving him! The dcs are safe and she has no intention of the dad being in contact with the dcs.
She is co operating with the police and SS, and actually it’s HER who told tte police about what dad did p!!

And the OP is worried that he might have done that more than once. Wouldn’t you be worried too? Wouldn’t you wish it wasn’t real? Wouldn’t want to know the truth?

Instead if putting a mum who has done the best she can, what about helping her instead?

She's not with him and she can't stop him having contact with the children if he's not found to be a threat, so yes, she does need them to find out the truth.

Stop being a dick. This is a woman who's found out her 11 week old baby has been assaulted by its father, and who is not allowed to just have them home with her.

I’m so sorry this has happened. It sounds like your boy will recover though, thank goodness. It could have been a lot worse. Stay strong OP

FFS. How about you WAKE UP and read the thread. Jesus christ.

Please stop abusing the OP. She needs everyone to support her through this living nightmare.

What good will it do to get this thread shut down; or to drive her away?

She is doing everything she can and must be in terrible distress and shock.

@lockdownmummax you mentioned your mum being worried about you. And the fact you might need help too.

I think that’s a very reasonable point. I suspect it get worse. I’m sort if expecting emotional pressure from him (I’ll never do it again, I’m feeling so bad etc…). Plus pressure from SS and investigation.

You say you are young. You’ve been very levelled headed in your responses. Many ‘older’ mums might not have had that type of response (and from some of the answers, many people just did nit expect such a reasonable responses either).

But you also have your dd’s father to deal with and I think you need to have much support in RL as possible. From a counsellor (go private if you can!), WA, etc… reach out to people.

There should be a trigger warning on this. An utter animal hurting a tiny infant. That little baby. Abused and broken at a few weeks old. My heart goes out to that baby, and what he was born into

Well done OP on getting your baby medical treatment & informing Police on your partner. You are a good Mum, ignore the cruel trolls on here.

I work in child protection and so I can advise that you need to do everything social services say. Most importantly, do not let that man anywhere near you and the kids ever again. If social services even get a sniff of you starting to rekindle anything with him, you will find yourself losing those children. We need to be really clear about that.

Why would squeezing your baby in a moment of frustration help the baby calm down and go to sleep? Were you around in the home on the Tuesday evening when this was done? Are you breast feeding so you would have noticed or bottle feeding ditto?

Is your mum helping.

Good luck OP to you and your children.

sons dad is saying he squeezed him in a moment of frustration...

You are completely blindsided and it's natural that you're searching for reasons and explanations because your brain can't currently accept that someone you trusted could have done this. Your image of him doesn't yet marry up with his actions. It will take a little time to sink in. Just be careful in the meantime that this doesn't venture into attempts to minimise or excuse.

Babies are frustrating. So are toddlers, preschoolers and children of all ages. As proven by your ex partner, an attack does not need to be sustained in order to cause great damage. A "moment" of violence really is all it takes. He could have killed your baby. It doesn't matter whether it was "a moment of frustration" or something else. It was enough to break your beautiful baby's bones and there's no reason to trust that it wouldn't happen again.

This must be awful and I really feel for you. Social services need to be seeing that you are done with this piece of shit. That means all his belongings/photos everything out of that house, show them that you are angry and that you want justice for your tiny little baby.
What have your husbands parents had to say about this, It must be awful to know that you've raised a monster.

Oh sweetheart, you're a similar age to my DDs, I've literally tears in my eyes. I can't begin to imagine what I as a mum would want to do to that bastard!!! Sending big hugs.

You've done nothing wrong at all - you've just been young, innocent and unfortunate with the men you've chosen to be with. Please, when you get your babies back, and get whatever therapy etc you need to put you back together again - do something for you, get yourself independent and strong, and don't so much as look at another man for the foreseeable. Concentrate on you and your babies.

I hope both of your exes rot in hell.

Well done for going to the police. You will be very shocked. Take care and try to get support.