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Sons dad fractured 3 of my sons ribs

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lockdownmummax · 27/03/2023 13:57

Looking for advice,

Long one, on Wednesday morning I noticed my baby was unsettled and had a cut on his ear, he was grunting and I noticed a bruise on his hand, I took him to GP and she called social services, we where referred to hospital for suspected child abuse, I really thought some sort of freak accident happened, I never suspected my then partner ( sons dad ) at the time at all, however scans revealed 3 fractured ribs, on Saturday my sons dad told me he thinks he's done this out of a moment of frustration as he couldn't settle our son... he squeezed him, we told the police, the police arrested him yesterday morning, he is out and waiting to give another statement and charges

However social services have informed me today I am not aloud to be around my 2 children unsupervised, they will stay with my mum, I can't take them home or anything I am devestated as I haven't done this and told the police when my sons dad told me,

I am also struggling to come to terms with this as my sons dad is not an aggressive person and really never suspected this, anyone know what will happen with social services will I get to take my children home eventually

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Anonhopingforbaby · 27/03/2023 14:11

Leave him. Now. Move out. There is no excuse. Your partner has hurt your baby and I can't blame SS for taking him off you.

berksandbeyond · 27/03/2023 14:11

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BritishDesiGirl · 27/03/2023 14:12

He lied which is even worse. Leaving your baby is pain for days.

gkhg · 27/03/2023 14:12

Why on earth would you want to allow ANY access now OP?

davegrohll · 27/03/2023 14:12

That poor baby, absolutely disgusting excuse for a man

Inkpotlover · 27/03/2023 14:13

I am hopping the police will be able to get the full story and I will know the truth of what has happened

Your partner squeezed your baby so hard he broke three of his ribs. Not sure what 'truth' you want to establish, or why. If you leave him out, someone else will end up raising your children.

HealthyFats · 27/03/2023 14:13

How terrible, your poor baby. You must permanently leave your partner or SS will (rightly) not let your children stay with you.

gamerchick · 27/03/2023 14:15

What kind of 'advice' are you looking for OP?

Thesearmsofmine · 27/03/2023 14:16

Is this the same man you previously split up with? You posted in December saying he gambled and was abusive and good riddance to him.

BoredZelda · 27/03/2023 14:17

I will leave my partner.

Will leave? On being told my partner had broken my baby son's ribs he would have immediately been ejected from the home. What are you waiting for?

OneFrenchEgg · 27/03/2023 14:17

Your partner squeezed your baby so hard he broke three of his ribs. Not sure what 'truth' you want to establish, or why. If you leave him out, someone else will end up raising your children.

She was replying re the bruise on the hand
I think you need to accept op is processing a lot of information if this account is accurate, and her world has crashed down.

Newuser82 · 27/03/2023 14:17

HealthyFats · 27/03/2023 14:13

How terrible, your poor baby. You must permanently leave your partner or SS will (rightly) not let your children stay with you.

Yes, totally this!

Anoisagusaris · 27/03/2023 14:17

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How is this the OP’s fault? How could she have known that the father was going to do this?

davegrohll · 27/03/2023 14:18

Sorry only just noticed you said IF he doesn't get arrested and he wants to see them it can only be supervised... omg protect your children and do not allow this man near them ever again. He is a child abuser

Thesearmsofmine · 27/03/2023 14:18

Your previous post ……

  • literally 5%, I done the night feeds, meal cooking, days out, nappy changes everything, he worked and gambled all his wages meaning I had to work full time and be a full time mum, he played football 3 times a week, darts 1 time a week and went out drinking at the weekend
  • he said he wanted full custody and threatened it multiple times,
  • he does not see my daughter, he was abusive so I said supervised contact with his mum, he never showed however still wanted to call the shots and threaten me with full custody, told him to go through a lawyer and haven't heard since

good riddance to him my life is so peaceful without him

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lockdownmummax · 27/03/2023 14:18

@TrainersAltonTowersWontKill

Hi sorry I think there has been a misunderstanding I'm not planning access for him, I am just saying if he was aloud to see baby which I don't think will be for a very long time but might be a possibility eventually as I have spoke to a lawyer then it would have to be supervised

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MissyB1 · 27/03/2023 14:19

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Yeah that’s it blame a woman for a man’s crime 🙄 Oh and try reading properly, as soon as OP suspected something was wrong with her baby she took them to the Dr.

MyriadOfTravels · 27/03/2023 14:19

@lockdownmummax I’m not sure if posters have actually read your posts….

You’ve done the right thing.
You’ve been to see the GP and seek support as soon as you noticed the issue.
You’ve gone to the Police as soon as your DH told you about what he did.
You’ve separated from your DH too, before SS told you it was that or the dcs.

The best you can do is to follow the SS advice.
Yes it’s hard to not be able bring your dcs back home. Prob even harder with a newborn. On the other side, they are with family. You can see them and they are safe!
Theyll need time to investigate and To establish who is it isn’t involved in your ds abuse. In the mean time, remember your dcs are safe and loved!!
It will settle down.

HoranTheHawk · 27/03/2023 14:20

Why are so many posters having a go at the OP? What a shock and horrific situation for you and your children - I hope you’re ok. Work with SS, they want to keep your DC safe as do you.

And yes, I can see why you want to understand/make some sense of the situation, it must be really distressing that your baby’s father could do something so awful and seemingly out of the blue. I would say right now you just need to concentrate on your DC and working with SS though, more may come out. I hope you have people around you in RL who are supporting you.

QuertyGirl · 27/03/2023 14:20

lockdownmummax · 27/03/2023 14:18

@TrainersAltonTowersWontKill

Hi sorry I think there has been a misunderstanding I'm not planning access for him, I am just saying if he was aloud to see baby which I don't think will be for a very long time but might be a possibility eventually as I have spoke to a lawyer then it would have to be supervised

Hopefully, he'll go to jail and neither you or your kids will ever, see him again.

Why are you thinking in terms of access, when the man nearly killed your baby???

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lockdownmummax · 27/03/2023 14:21

@Thesearmsofmine
That post was regarding my daughters father

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Shitty, goady comment, ignore it OP.

shieldmaiden7 · 27/03/2023 14:22

OP is it possible for you to start the process of a restraining order to show SS you're children's safety is in your best interest and you refuse to have him anywhere near you. I don't know how it works or if that's even possible but it's something would push for in your position.
If you go back to him or allow him access your children will be taken from you for sure.
Your poor baby. What a vile human being.

Pinkplasticbathcup · 27/03/2023 14:23

You’re getting a bit of a pile on OP and I’m not entirely sure it’s justified. People (rightly) get very worked up very quickly about child abuse. And your partner has very obviously abused your child.

But as far as I can tell you’ve acknowledged that, taking what you’ve said at face value. You told the police/hospital immediately he told you what he’d done, is that correct? You’ve told him you don’t want him to have access (ignoring the bit where you’ve said about SS supervising access later, I don’t know why you thought about that but maybe someone else said something about it) and you’ve got the house keys back via the police so he can’t come in. Have you told him the relationship is over?

SS need to investigate fully. Ultimately the injuries to your son happened while you were living with him so they and the police need to be sure you were not involved. That’s why they are keeping your other kids away. Cooperate fully with the investigation and allow the process to run its course.

This must have been a horrendous shock and I’m so sorry for you and your family. I hope your little boy recovers fully and you can rebuild your family away from this monster xx

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lockdownmummax · 27/03/2023 14:24

Sorry everyone just want to clarify

my sons dad is not in my house ( that is my house) when I said I want my babies back home I want them back home in my house with me and my kids only

Saturday was the day my sons dad told me what he done, when he told me I called the police

My sons dad told me on Saturday that the incident happened on Tuesday, I took my son to the GP on Wednesday

I am not excusing him at all, I am very angry and annoyed but I am also feeling quite confused and I feel like I am in some sort of shock, I haven't eaten since I found out what he done...

My children will stay with my mum and I am aloud to stay there thank god, I am very greatfuk given the circumstances but I want to work on getting my children back in their own house with me and only me

I really don't know about the law and parental rights, I don't know if he will have parental rights now? I'm confused, I have spoke to a lawyer who said he will be able to see son again in the future and I am saying this must be supervised

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