Husband pushed 4 year old over who fell and banged his head

[Wishbub]

Not sure this is the right page, but i really don't know what to do. Husband has a bad temper which mainly results in shouting and some hitting of our 4 year old. Today was the worst, my son fell and banged his head, he now had a large lump on the back of his head.

I told my husband that this is physical abuse of a child, which he ridiculed, saying it was just an accident. I told him I have to protect our son, so he's said that he'll kill himself and be out of our way.

I'm currently breast feeding a small baby and feeling incredibly unwell, I don't know what to do...

'Some hitting' That isn't normal OP

Take him to A&E. When they ask what happened you tell them. It's then taken out of your hands and you don't have to 'report him'. You will have just told a DR the truth.

Please go to A and E.

Take your phone and a charger and bank card etc. So that if you are there a while you have supplies. Snacks.

But do go to A and E. Get him checked out.

And yes when they ask you how it happened. Please tell them. Let them take the worry from you about making decisions - tell them. There will be someone who can help. Honestly.

Oh snap seagul!

Make sure you tell police of all the other times your child has been assaulted by his father as well as today.
After his arrest he should be prevented from returning to your house and children, making them able to be safe in their own home.
Then you need to make sure you have no further contact with him.

I wouldnt challenge him or confront him, from now on you are acting so as to keep him quiet & buy time to escape.
It sounds as if he is predatory and has been triggered into escalating because the new baby is taking attention away from him and you are vulnerable.
To call him a pig is an insult to pigs.

You don't know what to do. That's just it though you know exactly what do you sever all ties with this brute. What's happening to your son is not discipline its cruel wicked barbaric abuse. You say you have a baby well what happens when he/she cries and cries and cries.
. I bet he'd have no problems keeping his temper with a 6 foot tall 4 foot wide bloke.

Police and social services need to be involved

Just 2 things to do right now.
Go straight to A&E.

And on your way there call the police.

Hospital @Wishbub so what he did is fully logged and you can prevent him from having unsupervised access to your LOs.

Make it clear to the hospital and police that obviously this relationship is OVER. That way they won't mistrust your ability to protect your DC.

Take your babies away immediately, things can be replaced, your children can’t. Let him kill himself (he won’t). Go to a&e, tell the police, stay in a hotel if you can’t stay with anyone.

As a first action, OP, you need to take your son to A&E to get him checked out.

Can you do that? Taxi to A&E?

When you're there, tell them exactly what has happened.

They will help you.

Hitting the back of the head is really quite dangerous, you must get your 4 year old checked over.

You leave, right now! This isn't even the first incident, are you waiting for him to kill your son before you do anything?

Exactly this!

I know we want the child to be protected but this might put OP off reporting.

@Wishbub, the police won't have you in any trouble if you report now. It's not too late to make things right.

But if you allow it to continue, trouble will follow from police and SS

start by calling the police and ask them to remove him . That’s abuse , him threatening to kill himself is just abuse too . Please listen to all the red flags . Your children deserve to be kept safe hun , you are their mum it’s your job to protect them

Your poor poor little boy, your husband is a grade A cunt, assaulting a 4 year old, dear god. You've been given good advice OP, please take it, stand up for your son.

Call the police asap

Your child needs medical attention following a knock to the head, however it occurred. If you can't take him to a&e at least call 111.
If your dh won't let you do that call the police. Report him for assault.

Well done for posting for help and realsiijg its wrong.
He needs ti be taken to hospital, where if your DH goes with you you find a way to speak to anyone you can get their attention privately and ask for help and the police. Or better still phone the police and say you need help and cant leave and need to get to hospital. The force of being pushed backwards by an adult i promise you needs a hospital review. Tell him you need to get him checked before school/nursery tomorrow. The threat to kill himself is control.

Who cares how far away your family or friends live, if you phoned me or messaged me id deive through the night. If i only have you on the class whatsapp group and we’ve never hung out and you messaged saying you were in danger and needed help to leave the house, i wouldn’t hesitate. This isn’t for you to hide. Hiding things like this involves SS as you’re not protecting your son. You reporting him means they dont.

You know you have to protect your child. We’ve all read the news, children who have died at the hands of a parent, a head injury can be really serious in a child.
Go where he cannot hear you, call the police, tell them your child has been assaulted and you need to get out with the children.
Alternatively go to A&E, tell a nurse or dr this is a non accidental injury and you need to get your children away from an abuser.
It’s essential you do this before one of yoyr children is seriously injured or killed.

Tbh you should call the police anyway but getting child checked would be my first priority.

"this resulted in some hitting", are you for real in wondering what to do? This isn't some silly play fight gone wrong. Leave him before he does something worse to any of you.

Please, please do this OP. Your babies deserve so much more - be strong for them and do the right thing.