Husband pushed 4 year old over who fell and banged his head

[Wishbub]

Not sure this is the right page, but i really don't know what to do. Husband has a bad temper which mainly results in shouting and some hitting of our 4 year old. Today was the worst, my son fell and banged his head, he now had a large lump on the back of his head.

I told my husband that this is physical abuse of a child, which he ridiculed, saying it was just an accident. I told him I have to protect our son, so he's said that he'll kill himself and be out of our way.

I'm currently breast feeding a small baby and feeling incredibly unwell, I don't know what to do...

I won’t derail the thread any further, but I really hope that you’re safe and seeking support OP x

350 replies to a post that lacks any information and OP commented twice on.

Needs deleting

And you posted just to say that? Just report it. I presume MNHQ have their reasons for not having done so.

Stop being a heroic saviour you don't need to offer rooms or stage intervention. It’s reckless and unsafe for you,your family and @Wishbub for you to get involved. Well intentioned but risky and stupid
Leave this to statutory services who manage risk and actual know what to do

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I don’t think they are. Let’s beg to differ.

He could have killed your child!

So you husband hit your little son hard enough to knock him over and he hurt his head. Take your child to A&E to get checked out and tell them exactly what happened. You have to protect your son or eventually husband will kill him.

You are his mummy, his protector in life, why are you even questioning what to do? Look down at the new baby in your arms and know he will do the same to that one too. Traumatic, please get them to safety

I said I would happily go to prison if SOMEONE (physically or otherwise) harmed my child in my presence. You have assumed I mean their father. Why is that?

Presumably because that's the context of the thread @LilLilLi

Sorry your unwell and????? Where is your instinct to protect that little boy immediately, very clearly its not the first time by your own words and your sat there doing nothing and then have another baby with this person wtf is wrong with you wake up and get that little boy away. I could be half dead and I would do anything for any of my 4 kids..3 are toddlers and woe to anyone who tries to touch one! I would rather bundle them into my car and sleep,live in a car than let anyone hurt my babies seriously!!!!

Animals don't behave like this piece of shit

I said I would happily go to prison if SOMEONE (physically or otherwise) harmed my child in my presence. You have assumed I mean their father. Why is that?

If it was the father, would you or wouldn't you? You said someone- does the father get a free pass? I don't want to pile on but pp was right

You can't backtrack now and say your real life DH would never so err actually you wouldn't have to

I do kind of agree that comments about 'I'd do XYZ and kill the perp' aren't helpful and rarely are they played out in real life.

Really hope OP has done the right thing but these kind of statements don't add any value, they don't empower op either

But she says SOMEONE. We often talk more generally about our own experiences when responding to specific topics, don’t we? I don’t understand why this person is being given such a hard time. I would rather reserve my criticism for the man who pushed the child.

Agreed

I think the question is unfair because I suspect most people don’t even want to contemplate this scenario, which is why I suspect you won’t get an answer. And I don’t blame them. The thought of a partner hurting their own child is unimaginable.

Honestly, this has gotten a bit ridiculous now.

I made a comment to another poster, not the OP, in agreement that I would hurt someone who physically hurt my child and be happy to take the punishment. You don’t have to agree, others might feel differently, and I’m really not in competition with any other parent.

My children’s father has never so much as raised his voice to our children (one teen, one pre-teen) so no I won’t answer the “but what if he DID” questions. No I’m not backtracking, it’s literally there in what I wrote - if I witnessed someone hurting my child of course I’d intervene physically and take any potential punishment. If my child came home and had been physically hurt, or worse by another adult then yes I’d want to physically hurt them - where’s the backtrack?

Posters are so up in arms about what I wrote TWO DAYS AGO that it’s completely detailed the thread and one has even gone back and found another comment I wrote and quoted that too when I didn’t respond to the first time they quoted me 😂.

I gave the op advice that included going to hospital and calling the police before anything else was said.

Thanks for the support @LuluLehman, it baffles and amuses me in equal measure how worked up people get at comments made by complete strangers on an internet forum. Like you say, maybe that should be reserved for the man who actually abused a child rather than a comment about a completely hypothetical situation.

Clearly the OP won’t be back so I’ll leaving the thread now, have a great day all!

@LilLilLi you keep posting about it so it rises to the top, we'd all be furious and upset but it's just not helpful to op, we should empower her to get help not make her feel like she's useless for not doing enough. And you were a bit inconsistent in your point.

Don't mean to have a go at all, don't think anyone does. Someone else just picked up on what you said.

I blamed my mother more than my father for his abuse, because I loved her and expected her to protect me before herself. Also, because I had asked her to divorce him and she wouldn't face up to it. He was a psychopath I hated and I expected no better of him.

Really harsh.

People post for advice, which they get. No one owes you the outcome or a response to feed your need for drama whilst you wait the next episode of your daily soap fix. So what if the OP didn’t post again, she would have had everything she needed.

Hope the poor kid is ok. This thread will haunt me for days

Been thinking about this lady. Hope you are okay x