Husband pushed 4 year old over who fell and banged his head

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Not sure this is the right page, but i really don't know what to do. Husband has a bad temper which mainly results in shouting and some hitting of our 4 year old. Today was the worst, my son fell and banged his head, he now had a large lump on the back of his head.

I told my husband that this is physical abuse of a child, which he ridiculed, saying it was just an accident. I told him I have to protect our son, so he's said that he'll kill himself and be out of our way.

I'm currently breast feeding a small baby and feeling incredibly unwell, I don't know what to do...

FGS. And leave your child with no parents 🙄
OP has had plenty of great advice about how to extract herself and her child from this abusive situation. Hopefully she is taking note of the sensible replies.

Sorry but it’s just not a good enough excuse that you don’t have family or friends nearby. So what? You can access real life help right now. Even if you called Women’s Aid and spoke to them in terms of the next steps.

You really have to protect your son, he’s only four! This post made me so sad. What an awful person your husband is. Fucking dick

You and your children need help.

Really? No one needs the competitive I’d do anyfink for my kids rhetoric
pipe down it’s inappropriate

If I knew of someone in your position and I knew they were not getting this man away from the children and reporting him, I would report them myself. The awful reality is that much as I sympathise with your position, if you don’t protect your children from this man then you are allowing them to be abused and possibly killed. This is a matter of life and death, it is an emergency.

As for his suicide threat, we should be so lucky but I wouldn’t hold your breath.

Do not put yourself at risk offering your details and/or place to stay to a random stranger. Well meaning but unsafe.

I’ve given plenty of sensible replies. I work in SS. This was in response to another poster who was speaking about the rage she would feel if someone hurt her child, maybe read everything else I wrote before you start with the eye rolls.

OP please let us know you are all ok when u are able to

OP pick your child. Always pick your child. In any situation but especially this one. Nothing else matters but you keeping those children safe. How utterly terrifying for your son, this is heartbreaking.

He is abusing your child and YOU are allowing it.
You can get prosecuted as well and your children will be taken away from you!

OP hasn't been back since her first couple of posts has she? Or have I missed an update?

I'm concerned about all of them. I hope her 'partner' hasn't somehow found this. I can't understand why you would come on asking for advice and help then dissappear, unless she thought people would tell its OK.....not likely!

They all need help....can this be reported to get them

If posters have concerns please report to MNHQ. Hopefully they have a procedure.

You may end up losing your children if you stay with him and he hurts them again. Please leave now and do not read or reply to any of his texts or calls to you . He will try to manipulate you into returning.

Glad to hear it's being dealt with thank you mnhq

My generation never had an issue with a smack on the bum but what you've described is abuse, pure and simple. Leave and leave now.

Leave. None of what he does is bad temper. It’s abuse and lack of control.

LEAVE NOW. DONT WAIT UNTIL NEXT TIME HE DECIDES TO TAKE HIS TEMPER OUT ON YOUR LITTLE BOY. IT COULD BE THE LAST TIME FOR YOUR SON.

You cannot continue to let this happen. Do you want to be one of those awful cases we read about where you nip to the shop or go to work or go visit a friend and come home to an unresponsive child or get a phone call from the bollick to say the child isn’t well (because he injured him). That’s reality and it’ll only get worse not that you have the stress of two kids in the house. It’s hard but please look after your babies and yourself and get away from him.

PP who have said you risk losing your children are correct. If your son has a large lump on his head he needs medical attention. Be honest about how he got it so people at the hospital can help you.

Call your child’s school tomorrow and explain the situation. Ask them to make a referral to SS for you (they’ll have to anywAY). They wont come and whisk your children away but will come and speak to you and your husband and insist this child is being safeguarded, which will mean your husband being asked to leave (as you cant safeguard him, seeing as he is being hit whilst you are there). You may find that easier than upping and leaving on your own. BUt please do SOMETHING.

Leave. Thai isn't going to get better

I do hope you’re getting help right now. :(

If you don't report him. Others will report his injuries , he could get taken from you.

You need to be on your child's side here

What a Arsehole your Pathetic abusive man child your so called husband 🙄 is,

Please find a way A.s.a.p to leave this man As soon as possible,
It will get Worse trust me on that,

Report your husband to relevant Authorities about him,
Protect your son,

When I saw this all I could think about was baby teddy from 24 hrs in police custody…

Please do the right thing and find a way to leave this vile man before the unthinkable happens.

your children are relying on you to protect them.

If you have to get on your knees and beg strangers for help, do what it takes to get your children away from him. Do you have any conception of the immense, life-long psychological damage this is doing to them??