Husband pushed 4 year old over who fell and banged his head

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Not sure this is the right page, but i really don't know what to do. Husband has a bad temper which mainly results in shouting and some hitting of our 4 year old. Today was the worst, my son fell and banged his head, he now had a large lump on the back of his head.

I told my husband that this is physical abuse of a child, which he ridiculed, saying it was just an accident. I told him I have to protect our son, so he's said that he'll kill himself and be out of our way.

I'm currently breast feeding a small baby and feeling incredibly unwell, I don't know what to do...

I have a 4 year old with challenging behaviour at times and I would never ever hit him or sit by if DH did or try to reason with someone that assaults a child. I feel really really sad for your poor son you are meant to protect him by removing the person that is harming in from your lives. Please call the police before it's too late, before you ending up on the tabloids as another case where the whole nation sobs and forgets about carrying on with their own lives.

I reported this thread shortly after she first posted as really wanted mods to help her. Hopefully they have and will comment soon. Hope she and her children are OK and get help and support and he never gets unsupervised access to them again

Get out. Get out now. This is not parenting, this is abuse. And it will get worse.

Sorry to be brutal, but there is no way you should allow your child to stay with this man.

God, I really feel awful for you and your poor children OP. I heavily judge anyone who hits their child, but a four year old?! Jesus.

I echo what everyone else is saying - get you, your baby and your soon down to the hospital ASAP. Ask them to help you call the police and take the next steps. I know it's scary and won't be easy, but I really think it's what you have to do.

I’d happily go to prison for what I’d do to anyone who abused my child, and I’d smile while they took me down to the cells.

The OP might not be able to just pick up her car keys and go to A&E or feel safe enough to phone the police with an angry and aggressive man in the house. She might need to get help without making it obvious that's what she's doing. It's easy to make demands on the OP when we aren't living in fear of an abusive volatile man.
OP are you able to go to the gp surgery or ask for help at the school or nursery tomorrow? Or does your partner work giving you an opportunity to ask for help when he's not in the house? I know its scary but there must be a way you can discreetly get help? Xx

I hope you are all safe ❤️ please just do what you can to get away xx

Completely agree with this. How alarming. Protect your children

Take your child to hospital (even if you don't think the injury warrents it.) Tell them what happened, ask them to call the police and help you. If he insists on coming with you, write it down and hand it to receptionist or a nurse.
They WILL help you.

You have a better life ahead of you.

I've had a response

Hi and thanks so much for getting in touch.

We understand why this is causing concern.
We will deal with this one off the boards.

Very best wishes
Lily MNHQ

Unfortunately they never do kill themselves, sigh.

Please be strong op x

Same

This has actually made me feel sick. That poor poor child. I hope he is protected and quick.

I understand that when you are in the thick of it you may have lost sense of what is normal/acceptable and what is not.

This is not normal. This is horrific. It would only take my husband raising his hand once in temper for me to leave him with our children, let alone actually hitting them.

You need to call the police and tell them he hit your child.

OP I agree call the police or go to A and E + say what has happened.

However, also not sure if this page has any helpful advice:
www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-abuse-how-to-get-help

Good luck and take care of yourself and your children. Abusers are often most dangerous when they think you are going to leave, so I wouldn't let him know. Just get yourself and your kids out and seek help probably from the police but if you don't want to speak to the police then some of the other sources of support in the link.

Also your son probably need to be checked for a potential head injury. The police can help to arrange this I assume or A and E (but take both kids with you).

MN must believe the OP is genuine as this would have disappeared a long time ago if not.

Your husband literally abused your child in front of you and you "don't know what to do"?!
You take your child to be seen at a hospital, you phone the police, you protect your children at all costs.
Otherwise, you risk losing them too.

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A&e
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If this post is real that is.....

You have got to get away from this monster. I’ve got a 4 year old. I can’t ever imagine hurting him. Ever. They’re so small at this age.

For once, I hope this isn’t a true thread 😞

Please call woman’s aid.

One of my good friends is in a really bad marriage. No physical abuse, but they hate each other and constantly snipe. Im so sure that their only child (currently age 10) is going to leave home at 18, hate them both for the trauma and never go back I’m sure. I’m appalled that my friend lets her child grow up in that toxic atmosphere. Don’t be that mother. Get your babies away from the monster you live with!!

Omg 😲, in the words of fellow mumsnetters LTB

Absolutely police will escalate if she or staff report it. They’ll raise a MERLIN and inform social services for safeguarding the child

Can I just point out that while that alerts the operator to the fact you need help it doesn't tell them where you are

Worrying about this little one

That poor poor boy. Please just tell us he is okay as well as yourself and dc

Leave or it will be taken out of your hands when your poor son discloses that he is being physically abused at school. Why the hell would you stay?