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Feb/March 2023 Birth Club
TeddyBeans · 08/03/2023 17:54
Hello my lovelies! I thought I'd make a post birth thread so we can continue our chats now that our little ones are earthside. Feel free to tap out!
20/1 - botleybump 💓 (due 23/2)
10/2 - Amy1303 💙 (due 27/3)
12/2 - Babynum2 💙 (due 5/3)
12/2 - Cams50 💙 (due 2/3)
13/2 - LizziBee 💙
14/2 - BabyNumber3OnTheWay 💙 (due 28/2)
18/2 - Ubbee 💙 (due 27/2)
19/2 - beatingheartbaby 💓 (due 14/3)
21/2 - suchardchoccy 💓 (due date baby!)
22/2 - muminlndn 💓
24/2 - saltandpepperr 💙 (due 6/3)
24/2 - mrs2022 💙 (due 24/3)
25/2 - JTB123 💓 (due 1/3)
25/2 - Splashh 💓 (due 8/3)
26/2 - GreenIsle 💓 (due 7/3)
26/2 - LaForza101 💙 (due 3/3)
27/2 - EastyBaby19 💙 (due 4/3)
27/2 - Katdemar 💙 (due 4/3)
28/2 - TeddyBeans 💓 (due 26/2)
1/3 - Franklin123 💓 (due 13/3)
2/3 - Thirdtimesacharm3 💙 (due 6/3)
2/3 - allthingssparkly 💙 (due 6/3)
3/3 - Blondewave 💙
3/3 - June628 💓 (due 8/3)
3/3 - Noodle20 💓 (due 7/3)
6/3 - Shep21 💓 (due 18/3)
7/3 - MoronikaFaceache 💓 (due 1/3)
7/3 - Room4onemore 💓 (due 17/3)
DaisyRainbow · 18/03/2023 23:24
I can understand how your feeling. I didn't particularly enjoy pregnancy but feel I wasn't ready for it to end when it did. I didn't get a chance to say goodbye to my bump as daft as that sounds. My due date is still not till next weekend, the 26th, 2 months after she actually arrived.
Good luck getting little one home. It's a surreal feeling finally walking out the hospital with them after weeks of leaving alone.
Happy mothers day to everyone for tomorrow 💗
LifeOfRiley1 · 19/03/2023 05:21
Looking for some reassurance this morning on baby blues. I’ve had a couple of breakdowns now over the past 2 days. I gave birth on Tuesday so Friday would be day 4 and yesterday day 5 (please correct me if I’m wrong on how I’m counting post partum days - should it start day after birth?). Anyway, Friday was awful, couple of times I was hysterically crying for no reason and had to cancel in laws plus my own family from coming round as I couldn’t face anyone. Yesterday was better, I felt brighter all day until just after dinner when the sadness hit again. I started to question whether I’d done the right thing, mourn my previous life, worry that I develop PND and reject my baby etc etc. I have started fearing darkness closing in at nighttime which I don’t understand? I’ve told my midwife and she said at this point she’s not concerned but just want to hear that what I’m feeling is normal I guess
BabyLimey · 19/03/2023 05:40
@LifeOfRiley1 i can completely relate to this and am one day ahead of you, bubba was born on Monday. Allow yourself to feel anything you need to feel, this is such a difficult time and if you want to cry hysterically, do it. I have sobbed to my husband so many times this week, feared I’m not doing ok as a mum, beaten myself up about mistake like leaving it too long for a feed and wondered if I’m properly bonding with him. I also absolutely get worrying that you’re going to develop PND but try and remind yourself that this is all still so new and you’re in a big transition period. That being said, if you get worried at any point reach out midwife for extra support and don’t take no for an answer - you know yourself best. Sending lots of love
Perexi · 19/03/2023 06:01
BabyLimey · 19/03/2023 05:40
@LifeOfRiley1 i can completely relate to this and am one day ahead of you, bubba was born on Monday. Allow yourself to feel anything you need to feel, this is such a difficult time and if you want to cry hysterically, do it. I have sobbed to my husband so many times this week, feared I’m not doing ok as a mum, beaten myself up about mistake like leaving it too long for a feed and wondered if I’m properly bonding with him. I also absolutely get worrying that you’re going to develop PND but try and remind yourself that this is all still so new and you’re in a big transition period. That being said, if you get worried at any point reach out midwife for extra support and don’t take no for an answer - you know yourself best. Sending lots of love
I'm in a similar boat, Thursday was probably one of the worst day's just uncontrollable crying, it's improved but still have flashes of tears.... I'm not worried about not being a good mum (yet) but more something happening to him or letting him down etc.
There's literally no reason for it and we had a lovely midwife appointment yesterday. Hes still losing weight and not sleeping in his next to me crib. Hes fine in the sleepyhead or on me but just wakes up and fusses in the crib but we did manage 2-3 hours overnight for the first time! We have a plan to try and sort out his feeding and get him more on breast milk which helps, I'm very much a planner!
Midwife said all of the overwhelm and fears are fine and totally normal so I'm not worried, just try to keep talking and be easy on yourself.
Blocklynn · 19/03/2023 09:56
LifeOfRiley1 · 19/03/2023 05:21
Looking for some reassurance this morning on baby blues. I’ve had a couple of breakdowns now over the past 2 days. I gave birth on Tuesday so Friday would be day 4 and yesterday day 5 (please correct me if I’m wrong on how I’m counting post partum days - should it start day after birth?). Anyway, Friday was awful, couple of times I was hysterically crying for no reason and had to cancel in laws plus my own family from coming round as I couldn’t face anyone. Yesterday was better, I felt brighter all day until just after dinner when the sadness hit again. I started to question whether I’d done the right thing, mourn my previous life, worry that I develop PND and reject my baby etc etc. I have started fearing darkness closing in at nighttime which I don’t understand? I’ve told my midwife and she said at this point she’s not concerned but just want to hear that what I’m feeling is normal I guess
I’m on day 13 and this has all hit me this week. We were in hospital for the first week so that was a different kind of tough.
You are not alone, definitely talk to your midwife about how you area feeling xx
Clarps84 · 19/03/2023 11:16
Hi everyone! My little one is 6 days old and he hasn’t pooped since yesterday, late afternoon. Reading up on it, it can be normal for formula babies to go 2-3 times a days but the concern I have is he seems to be in discomfort and straining. Any hints or tips on how to help my little man with constipation?
Saltandpepperr · 19/03/2023 14:35
For those that are struggling with mental health/baby blues I was the same. Baby is 3 weeks old now and I mentioned to my midwife she then referred me to the mental health midwife who rung me every couple days. I've now been put forward for some therapy and will be having CBT. I think if it's not passed by 2 weeks definitely seek advice as it becomes more than just baby blues but it is totally normal.
muminlndn · 19/03/2023 20:02
@DaisyRainbow I know what you mean, I feel like there's a bit of grief for the end of pregnancy I didn't get to have, and also for the birth and postpartum experience I didn't get to have/choose.
Did you settle into home well? I'm so looking forward to quiet calm days at home spent doing nothing other than baby care. Sometimes I'm a bit worried that the anxiety/negative feelings of the last few weeks will follow me home but I really hope not
TeddyBeans · 19/03/2023 21:09
Clarps84 · 19/03/2023 11:16
Hi everyone! My little one is 6 days old and he hasn’t pooped since yesterday, late afternoon. Reading up on it, it can be normal for formula babies to go 2-3 times a days but the concern I have is he seems to be in discomfort and straining. Any hints or tips on how to help my little man with constipation?
From what I remember it's completely normal for FF babies to not poop for a couple of days (same as bf babies) and to just expect a bigger quantity when they do go. DD hasn't pooped for a couple of days so I know what you're going through but if he seems to be uncomfortable with it then maybe call triage/your midwife in the morning for advice? I think cool boiled water is recommended but I can't say I ever gave it to DS
DaisyRainbow · 19/03/2023 22:19
@muminlndn I think we've settled in well. I think the hardest bit for me is going from the regimented cycle of obs,nappy,feed,pump every 4 hours to demand feeding. The lack of routine was weird at first but OK now. I did have a massive fear of her not putting on weight and us having to go back in but luckily she's doing super well. I'm getting weekly visits from the Special Care outreach team which I find helps reassure me that everything's going OK. Hopefully you will have something similar in your area.
Shep21 · 19/03/2023 22:23
@Clarps84 My little girl had gone about 30 hours without a dirty nappy. We tried bicycle legs, gentle tummy rubs and time without her nappy on. Also had been told to try wet cotton wool balls on her bum (didn’t need to try this in the end). She finally went at about 8pm yesterday and has been having regular poos every 2-4 hours since😂 I was worried sick yesterday and felt awful for her as she was uncomfortable, but sometimes it will pass on it’s own as baby is getting used to processing their milk!
Hope your little one manages to go soon and isn’t in pain x
ChristmasJumpers · 20/03/2023 05:19
I've just spent nearly an hour trying to get baby girl to burp after her bottle, she just won't bring wind up at night 😣 she's bringing formula back up more often than not at night too so we're going through lots of sheets, grow bags and clothes.
Any tips on how to bring her wind up? I've tried:
sitting her up and patting/rubbing her back
Patting/rubbing over my shoulder
Tiger in the tree hold (first try tonight so might be doing it wrong)
Sitting her upright with my hand in the centre of her back
Noodle20 · 20/03/2023 05:32
@ChristmasJumpers we have this issue too so I've tried laying them down and massaging tummy, bicycle legs and then back to the shoulder hold.
Sometimes tho she just falls asleep with no burp, it always results in a very abrupt wake up less than an hour later aa she has trapped wind.
Im mentioning it to my HV later on today to see what else we can do
TeddyBeans · 20/03/2023 05:57
@BabyLimey lay him on a muslin on the changing mat. You'll have to change the muslin every time he wees but it's pretty effective. Yellow metanium is also excellent for nappy rash
@ChristmasJumpers try rocking her back and forward or bouncing her on your knee. How vigorously are you running? Do you alternate between rubbing and patting?
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