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partner does not accept daughter

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Dom1990 · 16/01/2023 17:35

need some advice my girlfriend who was great with my daughter at first does not want to be around my daughter, her words are i want to be with you does not mean i need to be involved with your daughter.

when i have my daughter ( twice a week ) she used to stay in the bedroom or go out now she's will just watch tv and create an atmosphere.

she does not agree with way i parent and says I baby my daughter acts a bit babyish for her age, may be true i'm
not sure, my daughter has no behavioural issues and i have only received good comments on her behaviour from family and school can not speak any more highly of her.

my parter gets jealous if i sit in my daughters bedroom with her and play and says she always comes first,

there was a time she come out the bedroom and didn't even acknowledge my daughter was here and once she left i questioned her and she said well" she didn't say hello to me either"

when i ask my daughter what she thinks of my daughter she said she likes her she does not notice that she does not enrage with her yet but i'm sure she picks up on the atmosphere.

my daughter is turning 8 soon.

anyone else experience similar situation, my worry is this will get worse not better

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Floomobal · 16/01/2023 17:37

I would dump her, because she sounds like a bitch, and your daughter should come first. She’s 7

Nimo12 · 16/01/2023 17:38

I'd ditch the girlfriend. Being jealous of an 8 year old is ridiculous and of course your daughter comes first. Don't let her be treated like that

samsonthecat · 16/01/2023 17:38

Get rid of your partner. Your child should always come first.

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Comedycook · 16/01/2023 17:38

That's absolutely awful. I'd end the relationship.

Itsvalentino · 16/01/2023 17:39

LTB. This will only get worse.

ModeWeasel · 16/01/2023 17:39

Sorry not experienced this but this would be a dealbreaker for me. Being jealous of an 8 year old is ridiculous. It won’t get better, personally I would end things with partner.

Magenta65 · 16/01/2023 17:40

My dad had girlfriends like this, trust me your daughter notices she’s probably too nice to tell you. I hated them and resented him for
making us put up with the attitude and behaviour. You and your daughter are a a package deal, she needs to accept it or more on

Thedaysthatremain · 16/01/2023 17:40

Why are you even still with her?

WhineWhineWINE · 16/01/2023 17:40

She sounds awful. I couldn't be with someone who was jealous of a child.

RoseThornside · 16/01/2023 17:41

Clearly your partner is jealous of your daughter. Unfortunately, given that your partner is an adult, and your daughter is a child, your partner is definitely not behaving well. I think it will only get worse and you should think about ending things. If you remain together and perhaps have a child together, it will be a million times worse. These are red flags, so take heed.

MissingMoominMamma · 16/01/2023 17:41

Get rid. Your daughter absolutely should come first, and your girlfriend is a twat.

Ihatethenewlook · 16/01/2023 17:41

Your partners an abusive shit and a vile excuse for a human being. What has your daughter done to deserve being treated like this in her own home? Why are you accepting this? She’d have been out on her arse the second she showed such nastiness and jealousy towards a small child, purely because she gets a bit of her fathers attention just twice a week. How is this ok?? Your daughter is going to become damaged by this.

Aurorabored · 16/01/2023 17:41

Your ex partner, surely? This is very simple.

watchfulwishes · 16/01/2023 17:42

IMO this person is toxic for your child. In your situation I would end the relationship and focus on my child.

Judgedbycats · 16/01/2023 17:42

This is horrible and if I'm honest, you shouldn't have to ask what to do.

Your poor little girl.

Sandra1984 · 16/01/2023 17:43

Your partner sounds horrible and pathologically jealous of your daughter. If a new partner doesn’t accept your children you get rid of said partner. Your children come first, always. She is not dating a single person, she’s dating a parent with a young child, it comes with the kit. If she doesn’t understand something that simple she’s a selfish prick and you and your daughter deserve better. Do keep in mind that if you stay with her is just going to get worse.

StrychnineInTheSandwiches · 16/01/2023 17:43

she's a cow

dump her

WhatNoRaisins · 16/01/2023 17:44

This just makes me think of the Maya Angelou quote, when someone shows you who they are believe them the first time. This is not going to work out and for the love of God don't have more children with her.

minopd · 16/01/2023 17:45

You need to end the relationship now.

misssunshine4040 · 16/01/2023 17:45

Dom1990 · 16/01/2023 17:35

need some advice my girlfriend who was great with my daughter at first does not want to be around my daughter, her words are i want to be with you does not mean i need to be involved with your daughter.

when i have my daughter ( twice a week ) she used to stay in the bedroom or go out now she's will just watch tv and create an atmosphere.

she does not agree with way i parent and says I baby my daughter acts a bit babyish for her age, may be true i'm
not sure, my daughter has no behavioural issues and i have only received good comments on her behaviour from family and school can not speak any more highly of her.

my parter gets jealous if i sit in my daughters bedroom with her and play and says she always comes first,

there was a time she come out the bedroom and didn't even acknowledge my daughter was here and once she left i questioned her and she said well" she didn't say hello to me either"

when i ask my daughter what she thinks of my daughter she said she likes her she does not notice that she does not enrage with her yet but i'm sure she picks up on the atmosphere.

my daughter is turning 8 soon.

anyone else experience similar situation, my worry is this will get worse not better

Do you even have to ask?!
Get her in the bin yesterday. Your daughter deserves more than this and a grown up should not be jealous and creating a scene over a parent spending time with their child.
How can you find anyone with this attitude to your child ok?

Ihatethenewlook · 16/01/2023 17:45

Magenta65 · 16/01/2023 17:40

My dad had girlfriends like this, trust me your daughter notices she’s probably too nice to tell you. I hated them and resented him for
making us put up with the attitude and behaviour. You and your daughter are a a package deal, she needs to accept it or more on

I had this too with my dad. I stopped contact with him when I was 15. I’ve not spoken to him in over 20 years, I still suffer from anxiety and depression from that bitch who treated me like a second class citizen in my own home. There’s absolutely no need to treat a child this way. You don’t have to love your partners children. But you don’t have to treat them like shit either! Her dad is just as bad, if not worse for allowing this to happen to his own daughter. This behaviour will escalate and no doubt she’ll put her foot down when it becomes unbearable and refuse to go to him anymore.

ComfortablyDazed · 16/01/2023 17:45

I can’t believe you have to ask.

Your partner has to go.

Don’t you find it pathetic that she is jealous of a 7YO….?

HappyNewYear2023 · 16/01/2023 17:45

You get this women out of your child's life.

Vile women.

drpet49 · 16/01/2023 17:46

Floomobal · 16/01/2023 17:37

I would dump her, because she sounds like a bitch, and your daughter should come first. She’s 7

This. You still to end the relationship asap.

HaggisWurst · 16/01/2023 17:47

Put your daughter first. Your partner is a twat