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Breast milk jewellery- cute or wierd?!

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wildmoon · 10/01/2023 05:32

Okay.... so I can't decide if this is cute or WIERD.

But..... I am currently bf and drawing to the end of the journey- maybe another month or 2. I feel really sad about giving up but I know it's time.

I saw some breast milk jewellery where they use resin to make a pearl looking stone out of breast milk.

I thought maybe this would be a cute keepsake... if not to wear then maybe just a little heart shaped one to keep in a special box.

Thoughts on this? Cute? wierd?

Also- do you know of any other ideas for breastfeeding keepsakes/ souvenirs?

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RampantIvy · 10/01/2023 07:47

Mine tingled as well @Choccolatte, but I didn't find it bonding, but I had no problem bonding with my baby anyway. It was no more bonding to me than changing a nappy or bathing her.

She was a very slow feeder. Looking back, I think she had a weak suck, and every feed would take over an hour. I used to watch TV or read while she was feeding.

Choccolatte · 10/01/2023 07:59

RampantIvy · 10/01/2023 07:47

Mine tingled as well @Choccolatte, but I didn't find it bonding, but I had no problem bonding with my baby anyway. It was no more bonding to me than changing a nappy or bathing her.

She was a very slow feeder. Looking back, I think she had a weak suck, and every feed would take over an hour. I used to watch TV or read while she was feeding.

The enforced TV/reading was my main motivation for bfing tbh 😁

BunchHarman · 10/01/2023 08:02

I personally find it gross and don’t find it any different when people preserve their placenta or umbilical cord (Rochelle Humes got her cord dried and used it to spell the word ‘love’.).

You wouldn’t get your lochia turned into a necklace would you?

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tirednewmumm · 10/01/2023 08:02

I have a ring, o don't wear it much and you wouldn't know from looking at it. It's a keepsake from a difficult and wonderful stage of my life and I look at it fondly. The only person who knows is is dh. Not sure how I'm being smug and narcissistic 😂 some people get so weird about breastfeeding

BunchHarman · 10/01/2023 08:03

some people get so weird about breastfeeding

Yes, arguably those who want to spend lost of money turning their milk into ‘jewellery’.

familyissues12345 · 10/01/2023 08:15

A friend showed me a necklace her partner had bought her for Christmas- made of breast milk, placenta and hair. Looked pretty, you wouldn't have known its contents, but I thought it was a bit weird. She was thrilled with it, so I guess that's what's important!

BunchHarman · 10/01/2023 08:27

familyissues12345 · 10/01/2023 08:15

A friend showed me a necklace her partner had bought her for Christmas- made of breast milk, placenta and hair. Looked pretty, you wouldn't have known its contents, but I thought it was a bit weird. She was thrilled with it, so I guess that's what's important!

Yikes.

TeddyRuxpinstiltskins · 10/01/2023 08:29

That milk, placenta and hair necklace makes me think of a tiny malformed parasitic twin. 😑

ImustLearn2Cook · 10/01/2023 08:35

I like art. And art can be weird, out there, different. So, I think that it is an interesting idea and not disgusting at all.

newnamethanks · 10/01/2023 08:36

I know of someone who kept the unwashed manky sheet and nightdress she was wearing when her first baby arrived 30+ years ago. She went on to have another 7 children. Don't know whether their arrival was treated similarly. By comparison, a breast milk pearl sounds eminently sane and reasonable, but for most of the rest of us, yuk.

SunSandAndLotsOfGin · 10/01/2023 08:43

I've just looked at some online and some actually look really pretty. If you want one, get one. Better to get one and never wear it than not get one and always wish you had just because some MNs thought it was weird.
You don't have to tell people what it is, and wear it with pride knowing what it is.

Threesmycrowd · 10/01/2023 08:45

Weird. Agree with pp, why not buy yourself some nice jewellery instead I bought myself a really nice lingerie set when I'd finished feeding dd1. A treat for myself and something I'd not been able to wear while bf. Less commemorative though.

Dinneronmybfpillow · 10/01/2023 08:46

PortiasBiscuit · 10/01/2023 07:29

Does anyone want to invest in my start-up company making saliva jewellery to commemorate couples’ first kiss?

Also working on something around losing your virginity…

A friend of mine got her DD as a keepsake of losing her virginity 😬

ProserpinaProserpina · 10/01/2023 08:52

I’m still breastfeeding my 2yo (so very much the target demographic) and find it fairly revolting.

thefamous5 · 10/01/2023 08:52

I think they're beautiful

Once my daughter has stopped feeding I will be getting a ring made. I've bf her so far for 3.5y and it's been tough going at points. I give up a lot of things when they get hard so I'm incredibly proud that I've stuck with this even when it's been difficult.

BubziOwl · 10/01/2023 08:56

I loved breastfeeding and that time of our lives was a special one. But I'd definitely not want breast milk jewellery, I find it a bit weird tbh and I do agree with the PP who said it can come across a bit self-congratulatory

ChocoFudge · 10/01/2023 08:56

Some of the pieces of jewellery are pretty but it's not for me. I know some women seem to build their identity around breastfeeding though and if it makes them happy then that's really up to them.

merrymelodies · 10/01/2023 08:59

It's fine. I kept my DD's umbilical stump in an envelope for years.😂

RandomCatGenerator · 10/01/2023 09:04

SunSandAndLotsOfGin · 10/01/2023 08:43

I've just looked at some online and some actually look really pretty. If you want one, get one. Better to get one and never wear it than not get one and always wish you had just because some MNs thought it was weird.
You don't have to tell people what it is, and wear it with pride knowing what it is.

I think this is really good advice. Personally I find it really weird and gross, but I’m not you!

RandomCatGenerator · 10/01/2023 09:05

merrymelodies · 10/01/2023 08:59

It's fine. I kept my DD's umbilical stump in an envelope for years.😂

Oh man the umbilical stump was something I just couldn’t deal with. Didn’t find any amount of poo or mucus or snot gross but I just could not deal with that stump.

Kindofcrunchy · 10/01/2023 09:07

My first breastfeeding journey was really difficult. My husband bought me a beautiful breastmilk necklace as a way of saying well done for getting through it. It means a lot to me.

My friend has a breastmilk ring from her experience pumping for her premature baby who spent a traumatic time in icu and couldn't feed properly. I imagine that ring means the world to her too.

Everyone saying it's weird can go swivel on it quite frankly. Who the hell are you to judge what's meaningful to others? Shame on you all and OP too for shitting on others, you have no idea what people have been through.

WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 10/01/2023 09:14

Well as someone who had to "emergency wean" my 13mo in three days because I had to have a mastectomy due to fast growing, and (thankfully) quickly diagnosed BC, I would have loved, in hindsight to have made a piece of breastmilk jewellery.

It might be "eew" or "ick" or "disgusting" to some, but for some people, it might be a lovely keepsake of a lovely time.

I got terrible false letdown after I had my breasts removed - still do very occasionally after 6 odd years. Yes, it's natural, but for some it's a special sacred time that they might want to commemorate in some way. Absolutely no need for the derision shown by some posters. Might not be for you, but no harm if it's for others.

Suziesz · 10/01/2023 09:15

Weird. I really don’t get it.

It’s like putting toenail clippings or discharge in a necklace. 🤢

thatshowirolllandchips · 10/01/2023 09:15

Surprised at all the comments saying it's weird. I have a ring, I love it. It's a pretty shape, the breastmilk "pearl" is fine, not anything special but I know what it means. I guess you could get any piece of jewellery and if it means something to you then that's what matters.

belimoo · 10/01/2023 09:15

I find it so strange that people think breast milk is gross. How can the thing that their baby drinks be so gross? I bet most of them drink cows milk too. If you've ever been in a milking parlour you'd think that was a lot more gross.