Going out in pyjamas

[Jolie12345]

I often do the school run or pop to the local shop in the evening in my pyjamas. And I wouldn’t be ashamed to turn up to a friends or families house without putting on proper clothes. I’ve always been more interested in being comfortable than looking my best. I work from home so even if I do get dressed I come back and put pjs back on. Is it just me? Do you judge people who step out in pj bottoms with trainers?

they can only make assumptions based on what they see in front of them.

This is not true! You can do better if you choose to.

You don't have to make lasting assumptions based on what you see in a split second. You can re-think, you can make the choice to not make a snap judgment, you can use other information that you have (e.g. you now know from this thread that at least some people wearing PJ's have put them on clean that morning, have successful careers, happy marriages and well adjusted kids).

Fascinating thread! Read all 12 pages 🤣

You wear what you like Op, but people will judge you on going out in pyjamas. You say its about comfort, but I'd feel the exact opposite of comfortable going out in my pj's. I don't even like going to the bins on answering the door in them! It looks like you can't be arsed , and scruffy. The very most I've done is throw a hoodie over my pj top and leggings when going to get petrol in the late evening. Even then I didn't like it at all.
And yes IMO leggings look much better. Good quality ones, and you can get comfy lounge wear sets from anywhere from John Lewis to Boohoo.
But I'm not really a casual kind of girl, I enjoy getting dressed up regularly so I'm sure you won't care about my opinion

@NuffSaidSam in passing, in the street there is neither the opportunity nor often the inclination, to ask someone in their jammies whether they have issues, what their situation is, did they sleep in the clothes they are wandering about in etc. So, an initial assessment - yes, judgement - is made and then people get on with their day. Opinions aren't wrong per se, they are a point of view, whether you agree with them or not.

[quote Bobbins36]@NuffSaidSam in passing, in the street there is neither the opportunity nor often the inclination, to ask someone in their jammies whether they have issues, what their situation is, did they sleep in the clothes they are wandering about in etc. So, an initial assessment - yes, judgement - is made and then people get on with their day. Opinions aren't wrong per se, they are a point of view, whether you agree with them or not.[/quote]
Absolutely, I'm not suggesting that you quiz everyone you pass in the street for their life story. My point is this, your assumptions are based on the information you have. Having taken part in this thread you now have new information i.e. that the lazy/depressed dirty assumptions are not true, at least not in every circumstance. If you continue on with this assumption, it shows a lack of learning. The new information you have has not been integrated. Or maybe it has? Next time you walk past someone in the street maybe you will be capable of keeping a more open mind and not making a snap judgment.

With regard to opinions, I agree things like 'that looks scruffy' or 'I hate the way that looks' are opinions that absolutely can't be wrong.

Things like 'she must be depressed' or 'her kids must be upset' or 'she must not have a job' are not opinions, they are factually incorrect (in the OP's case) assumptions.

There is a difference. I hope you can see it.

The thread was initally asking "Do you judge people who step out in pj bottoms with trainers?" not whether the OP was justified in doing so and whether or not everyone else has to ponder her reasons for it.

This is one thing that really conflicts me. Part of me thinks don't judge them, they're not harming anyone, it doesn't affect you at all.. but then another part of me wants to scream at them to have some self respect.

I feel bad enough when I nip to the shop in my comfy trackies, never mind PJs!

@Bobbins36

The thread was initally asking "Do you judge people who step out in pj bottoms with trainers?" not whether the OP was justified in doing so and whether or not everyone else has to ponder her reasons for it.

Exactly, that's why it's such an interesting thread. It's not really about the OP and her PJ's, it's about the snap judgements people make, why they make them and how resistant they are to changing them. It's fascinating.

And the choice of PJ's as a question is great because had the OP chosen tattoos or a disability or some element of cultural dress people would be falling over themselves to claim they never make any judgements or assumptions. Here, people are falling over themselves to defend their right to make baseless judgements on people, to claim it's human nature/they can't help it, to say 'well if you go against social norms what do you expect', to claim they won't change their assumptions going forward even in the light of new information.

It's a wonderful thread. It should be in classics really.

I guess we just have to accept that people do form judgements, it’s natural human behaviour. Those judgements are usually (not always) based on past experiences.
I’m all for people wearing whatever the hell they want. But part of that is accepting that it’s likely others will form a judgement of you based on that, whether it’s true or not.

@ShallWeTalkAboutBruno

I guess we just have to accept that people do form judgements, it’s natural human behaviour. Those judgements are usually (not always) based on past experiences. I’m all for people wearing whatever the hell they want. But part of that is accepting that it’s likely others will form a judgement of you based on that, whether it’s true or not.

Exactly this.

@ShallWeTalkAboutBruno

I guess we just have to accept that people do form judgements, it’s natural human behaviour. Those judgements are usually (not always) based on past experiences. I’m all for people wearing whatever the hell they want. But part of that is accepting that it’s likely others will form a judgement of you based on that, whether it’s true or not.

Perfect supporting evidence there 😂

FFS It's not wrong to form a first impression. No-one needs to reassess theirs because the object of that first impression disagrees with it. Equally no-one needs to give a stuff about what people think of them. If its important to you then maybe you pay attention to what you think their assessment of you will be - otherwise wear your jammies on the school run and enjoy your day.

FFS It's not wrong to form a first impression. No-one needs to reassess theirs because the object of that first impression disagrees with it.

It is wrong to make baseless judgements about people.

And you should always reassess in the light of new information.

Would you honestly being arguing the same if the OP was talking about doing the school run in a Burqa, for example?

I thought this was going to be about a toddler not wanting to get dressed.
I would definitely think that you’re struggling with mental health if wearing pyjamas past your property border.