Going out in pyjamas

[Jolie12345]

I often do the school run or pop to the local shop in the evening in my pyjamas. And I wouldn’t be ashamed to turn up to a friends or families house without putting on proper clothes. I’ve always been more interested in being comfortable than looking my best. I work from home so even if I do get dressed I come back and put pjs back on. Is it just me? Do you judge people who step out in pj bottoms with trainers?

@Bobbins36

It’s skanky. Wandering round in shops or on the school run in clothes you’ve slept in? Gross. Shows a lack of self respect and respect for those around you.

I sometimes wear a t shirt I've slept in out the house. I didn't realise that I didn't respect others or myself because of that. Who'd know? Who'd care?!

@cocktailclub

I think it's unhygienic to come home and go to bed in clothes you've been out shopping in and likewise to go out in clothes you've been to bed in. That's what really bothers me not so much the look (which I don't like personally but doesn't impact me).

But why is it unhygienic?

If it's ok to wear clothes in your house, on your sofa, to sit on the carpet and stroke the dog, play with the kids, pop to the toilet for a poo etc. etc. and then go out shopping in those same clothes why would pyjamas be different? If anything, I think pyjamas you've only worn in bed would probably be cleaner than the clothes you've been wearing in the daytime.

Or do you put clean clothes on everytime you go shopping?

And vice versa.

Presumably, you wear clothes in Tesco and get all the associated germs on them and then you wear them in your car and then in your house and you sit on your sofa and hug your kids and eat your dinner in those same clothes. Is there really a massive hygeine difference between all of that and bed?

I can't see it myself.

Or do you strip naked everytime you get back from Tesco for hygeine reasons.

I'm not sure it makes much sense.

I’m 100% certain of that as I don’t know anyone who wears pyjamas on the school run

But you don't know the clean underwear status of anyone on the school run right?

So actually, you agree with the OP. It doesn't actually matter to you, from a washing standpoint, what the OP or anyone does in respect of their underwear does it?

The story of my username, OP! Went to drop something off at school that DD had left behind not expecting to get out of the car, forgot I was wearing pyjamas and walked into reception…

I did it by accident but I have to say I felt judged and embarrassed for days after - I don’t know if anyone judged me but I know it’s not usually socially acceptable so I felt awful for doing it. DD didn’t even notice, never mind being mortified (and she is bang on mortifying-parents-land being 12!).

All that being said, I’m not sure if I’d notice if someone was wearing pyjamas bottoms if wearing a hoodie and trainers. The full dressing gown + pyjamas + slippers, probably. I wouldn’t judge either I think but then again I’ve got a bigger than acceptable collection of loungewear trousers from Uniqlo .

Just get dressed. It’s not hard.

@NuffSaidSam

I’m 100% certain of that as I don’t know anyone who wears pyjamas on the school run

But you don't know the clean underwear status of anyone on the school run right?

So actually, you agree with the OP. It doesn't actually matter to you, from a washing standpoint, what the OP or anyone does in respect of their underwear does it?

I never said I didn’t agree with her though. I haven’t expressed an opinion on her clothing choices either way on this thread! If I had expressed an opinion, it would be that I don’t give a shiny shit what other people wear and when. I was mildly interested in whether she washes and puts clean underwear on before putting her pyjamas on in the morning, that’s it. Honestly you are way more ‘bothered’ about this than I am .

And now I’ve put way more effort into answering you than I did in wondering whether she was wearing clean knickers.

Honestly you are way more ‘bothered’ about this than I am

I'm not that bothered either. It's also raining here 😁.

@NuffSaidSam

Honestly you are way more ‘bothered’ about this than I am

I'm not that bothered either. It's also raining here 😁.

Raining here too. Just nipped to the shop (in actual clothes) to get some baking bits

This is super confusing

So you shower, do hair, face etc but then put on clean PJ's after?
There are plenty of clothes out there that fit and feel like pj's but are a bit more presentable that you could have. Joggers can be comfortable and feminine

If you had next to no time at all to change clothes and get yourself sorted and went out in your pj's I would perhaps understand, but the fact you get up and washed and put on a new clean pair of them it's very strange.

And I think posters are discussing your children because if their friends see you in your pyjamas all the time you (and your children) are going to be mocked for it. That's a huge way as to how it will affect them

I'm really sorry but I'd judge you. What I find odd is you say you don't care what people think of you and you are very mocking of the responses yet you've started a whole thread about it. I suspect deep down you do care. I think it says a lot about you and none of it is good. But who cares what I think!

Honestly, I’d think there was something wrong if I repeatedly saw you in pyjamas, either slovenly or maybe some sensory or mental health issues.

I don’t understand why you can’t buy day clothes that are comfortable? It’s very easy to do, loose wide leg elasticated waist trousers, shirts, jumpers etc, there is no need for day clothes to be uncomfortable.

So yes I’d judge you but more with concern for you. Not once or twice, but if I saw you never got dressed and only ever wore your pyjamas, I’d be concerned for you,

@willithappen

This is super confusing

So you shower, do hair, face etc but then put on clean PJ's after?
There are plenty of clothes out there that fit and feel like pj's but are a bit more presentable that you could have. Joggers can be comfortable and feminine

If you had next to no time at all to change clothes and get yourself sorted and went out in your pj's I would perhaps understand, but the fact you get up and washed and put on a new clean pair of them it's very strange.

And I think posters are discussing your children because if their friends see you in your pyjamas all the time you (and your children) are going to be mocked for it. That's a huge way as to how it will affect them

I am absolutely sure my kids friends don’t give two shiny shites what I am wearing. Honestly. I wouldn’t do anything to negatively impact my children. I also don’t think it would be us with the problem of other kids we’re mocking though. That’s on their parents and their choices.

Yes I judge them. Just another example of dumbing down in standards in this country.

@flossletsfloss

I'm really sorry but I'd judge you. What I find odd is you say you don't care what people think of you and you are very mocking of the responses yet you've started a whole thread about it. I suspect deep down you do care. I think it says a lot about you and none of it is good. But who cares what I think!

Again. I was asking if anyone else does it and if you judge. Not “what do you think of me for going out in my pjs”. It was actually prompted by an article about a school who made it a rule that parents must be properly dressed. Which I find far too subjective and also entirely ridiculous.

Op do you have a partner or are you single? So they also mostly only ever wear pyjamas?

I have to be honest, I’d be really uncomfortable if my husband really just wore pyjamas and went out in them. I’d not like it at all

Sorry OP, I'd judge you. I'd assume that you hadn't bothered to get washed or dressed that morning (although apparently you would have done so - but your appearance would suggest otherwise) , and that would make me think that you were lazy and slovenly.

But I know you don't care what I think!

I think its nasty. When you go out in PJ's do you then get back into bed with the clothes that have been outside?

Also, why would you wqnt to embarrass your children? I'd be pissed if my mum came to the school gate in pajamas

@Chestofdraws

Op do you have a partner or are you single? So they also mostly only ever wear pyjamas?

I have to be honest, I’d be really uncomfortable if my husband really just wore pyjamas and went out in them. I’d not like it at all

Yes I’m married. By husband is mostly in his work clothes during the week (typical tradesman getup) and joggers and hoody’s when he comes home. If we go out somewhere together we both dress nicely. I am only wearing pjs at home, for the school run, nipping to the shops, to see friends and family (if we are just lounging going around). It’s not like he never sees me looking nice

Wonder what posters would say about this. Still dirty,slovenly,lazy or possibly mentally ill? Or does fame and a Prada tag change things?

Two more

Are your friends and family in their pyjamas when you visit them? Or are they able to get dressed?

I really don’t buy the argument you can’t buy day clothes that are comfortable, I’m sorry. If you can find comfy pyjamas you can find comfy day clothes, even if it’s maternity wear.

Of course it would be a problem for the children mocking, bullying is never okay but ultimately I think your children will be mocked/bullied by others because their mum is always in pjamas. How you present yourself and come across has a huge affect on your children

@ldontWanna

Wonder what posters would say about this. Still dirty,slovenly,lazy or possibly mentally ill? Or does fame and a Prada tag change things?

I’d think they did it for a photo shoot and normally got dressed. They are hardly candid shots are they 😂

It's likely to affect your kids lives sooner or later. They might be teased, or bullied. Or asked if Mum is okay, which will raise the question for them. Or quietly checked on as possible young carers. Doors may be closing for them socially, because other parents will wonder or worry or judge. (Or opening, from other parents who live outwith social convention.)

Just something to be aware of. There's most often a cost extracted for doing our own thing, stepping outside the norm. It may be not be right, or fair, or the way we wish it to be - but it is the world we live in, so it's wise to factor it in, especially when our choices affect others.