Going out in pyjamas

[Jolie12345]

I often do the school run or pop to the local shop in the evening in my pyjamas. And I wouldn’t be ashamed to turn up to a friends or families house without putting on proper clothes. I’ve always been more interested in being comfortable than looking my best. I work from home so even if I do get dressed I come back and put pjs back on. Is it just me? Do you judge people who step out in pj bottoms with trainers?

@Darbs76

I do as I really hate it. I find it incredibly lazy, I mean how long does it take to get dressed? I feel sorry for kids with parents who turn up at the school dates in PJ’s.

I don’t get why you would feel sorry for them. Adults are judgmental, kids not so much.

@Jolie12345 you can get really awesome thick leggings from H&M, Zara etc that don't show what you had for breakfast 🤣 it's just finding the right ones. But if you genuinely don't care what others think then that's good I guess? I just think it's not the "norm" and as others have said, we'd assume something was seriously wrong if you casually walked about in Pjs. I'd really re think of showing up the kids school in them. If you're not getting out the car fair enough, but if you do then I'd reconsider what you wear even just for the school run x

I do the school run in "athleisure" wear because I then go straight to the gym, so I'm in no position to judge as I too am a school-run-couture dickhead.

I would still judge you though 🤣

[quote Chestofdraws]The thing is op you could easily find light weight jogging bottoms in that style thay are self coloured and don’t look like pyjamas.

There is absolutely no need to go out literally wearing pyjamas and looking like it.

Here’s an example, and many cheaper options exist if it’s a financial problem.

www.hush-uk.com/lindsey-washed-joggers-black/000768-0456.html[/quote]
This is kind of my point. You’re suggesting I go and buy trousers that look and feel like pyjamas, that aren’t “literally pyjamas”. If it walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck… from what yours saying the only difference is marketing and price?

im much the same as you op . i dress for comfort .not to please the rest of society with what they feel is appriote. i couldnt give a monkeys about some randoms judging me if i go to the shops in pjs as i generally dont care much about other people's opinions anyway

I live in quite a rough area and am the last person on earth that could be called a snob but I do judge people who wear their pyjamas on the school run. I love my pyjamas and am always in them if I don't have to be anywhere but I'd never leave my house in them. The woman a couple of doors up from me usually leaves for the school run at the same time as me and 9 times out of 10 she's in her pyjamas and sliders and occasionally she does the pick up still wearing them. My 10 year old says to me the other week if I ever do that she won't be walking with me .

Whenever I see someone out in their pyjamas all I can think is that they must stink. However I sweat a lot in my sleep so always need to get washed and changed in the morning and I know that I'm probably a bit abnormal and a lots of people don't sweat or smell as badly as I do .

This is kind of my point. You’re suggesting I go and buy trousers that look and feel like pyjamas, that aren’t “literally pyjamas”. If it walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck… from what yours saying the only difference is marketing and price?

No, the difference is appearance, there is a world of difference between the link to the hush joggers I posted, and the pyjama bottoms you posted. The difference is not just marketing and price, it’s how they look. You look like you’re in your pyjamas. Because you are.😂

If it’s a budget issue then you can pick up other options much more cheaply

tuclothing.sainsburys.co.uk/p/Black-Patch-Pocket-Joggers-/140439269?istCompanyId=07cf3c1d-7207-477f-aab0-212732e114dd&istFeedId=03391e81-6312-4095-9322-96087f0115ae&istItemId=prprllrpi&istBid=tztx

And not look like you’re wearing your pyjamas.

But oddly it feels like you really want to wear actual pyjamas and for everyone to think you wear pyjamas out. Like it’s a Rebel thing to, when honestly it just looks slovenly, people are judging you and your kids will come of an age to be embarrassed by it. 🤷‍♀️

This is kind of my point. You’re suggesting I go and buy trousers that look and feel like pyjamas, that aren’t “literally pyjamas”. If it walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck… from what yours saying the only difference is marketing and price?

As this thread has demonstrated it's all about optics. There's nothing wrong with pyjamas and leisure wear.. it's all about how it looks (in the posters head.. as they all have an already preconceived notion that then translates in the lovely adjectives on this thread)

I'm more curious why you post on here for people to judge you if you are not bothered

If someone called at our house unexpectedly, they would probably find me in pyjamas because they’re my warm go to in our old, cold house.
Wouldn’t go out in them, though. Why would anyone?

In the nicest possible way, OP, I wouldn't be able to scrape together two fucks about what you were wearing. I wear my loungewear to drop or collect DS18 from the bus stop where I'm not required to get out of the car. Otherwise, I wear proper clothes of highly questionable taste and MNers would say I looked like an overgrown toddler with no class or taste. But I couldn't care less what other people wear to go about their business if it's not doing anyone any harm.

If you were my friend or someone I saw regularly and you were presenting differently from usual, I might be concerned that things weren't okay with you, but otherwise crack on.

@littlebilliie

I'm more curious why you post on here for people to judge you if you are not bothered

This is getting old

@willithappen

Those pictures are not loungewear, they are pyjamas. 100% you will be judged going out like that on the regular

Also, 'what's gross about sleeping'. You are in those for around 8 hours, maybe more. In one space where the body is likely sweating, shedding skin cells. It then questions if when you say you get up and showered for the day - you are then putting on the same clothes you just slept in?

What on earth do you think happens in the daytime? You know, the clothes you're in the other 16 hours of the day? Why would you be more likely to sweat lying down asleep than you would be moving around awake, for example?

The lack of logic in some of these arguments is quite concerning.

Yes I would judge you.
Just seems lazy and grotty to me.
But if you're confident that it's perfectly fine just keep on as you are.
( I've seen teenage girls do it as a bit of a gag going on a MacDonald's run late at night but I would have been pretty surprised to see someone in pyjama bottoms at school drop off).

I'd assume something was wrong.

But then I'm reluctant to nip out to the bins in my dressing gown.

I'm pretty slobby overall and I have been known to pop to the local shop in my jammy bottoms in the evening. There have also been many days where I've wfh with jammy bottoms on the lower half and something more presentable on the top half for teams meetings.....

But, I don't think I could bring myself to do the school run in them!

But equally if I saw someone doing it, I wouldn't turn my nose up

@Jolie12345 thank you! I have lived in my PJs all my life since I was about 7. I did embrace comfy jeans etc for school, and I wear comfy stretchy office pants and comfy top (mostly what I used when pregnant as its loose and all).

I am on the spectrum and I very much identify with "wear whatever and don't be judged". I also tend to wear mismatching socks (for about 15 years now way before it was cool back when it was just weird). I also wear yoga pants everywhere (also for way longer than it was trendy). But most importantly when I am home I am in PJs and I go to shop downstairs in PJs and no I do not find this weird. I have a fancy City job btw, and I have been wearing black trainers instead of heels all my life. I have been judged.

Most importantly my friends when we were in high school came to my place in PJs and vice versa and we all had a lot of fun (we were a group of weirdos, yes). Still friends 25 years on tho.

Honestly, yes I'd definitely judge you. I would die of shame if anyone I know saw me in pjs. Maybe it comes from not being allowed to wear pjs out of the bedroom as a kid as I certainly don't put any effort into how I dress and like to be comfy rather than look good.
I also wouldn't wear leggings out of the house either but mainly as I'm sure my fat arse would show through them.

I'd think it very weird if someone turned up at my house in pjs and would assume there was an emergency or they needed my help so desperately they didn't have the time to get dressed. I don't wear pjs when working from home either, it just seems really lazy.

All of those pics look like someone has just rolled out of bed. Slovenly. Would totally judge someone on that first impression.

@Bobbins36

All of those pics look like someone has just rolled out of bed. Slovenly. Would totally judge someone on that first impression.

It’s interesting because I would imagine those “outfits” have actually been styled for that “slovenly” look. Probably took them quite a while to get ready 😂

Essentially it boils down to how you want to be perceived. People do, rightly or wrongly, make snap assessments based on first impressions. If you don’t care then fine, cut about in your jammies. No one but you will know if it’s fresh PJs or you’ve slept in them and just rolled out of bed but most won’t assume you’ve changed into nice PJs to go out the door.

I would hate to be perceived as a lazy slob which is what I think it says about someone who does this. I think it’s sad to see a mum in PJs rocking up at the school gates. I’d feel sorry for her kids.

I would hate to be perceived as a lazy slob which is what I think it says about someone who does this. I think it’s sad to see a mum in PJs rocking up at the school gates. I’d feel sorry for her kids.

Hopefully this thread has done something to educate you and your fellow judgemental Julies then, as the OP doesn't fit that stereotype at all. Maybe you'll pause a second before jumping to an incorrect assumption? You never know!

No, not really. I see someone in the street in jammies and I’ll have an opinion about it. OP is perfectly at liberty to not give a shit about my opinion but let’s not pretend to her that people don’t have them. She did , after all, solicit them by posting on here.

There are certain social norms that people adhere to. Technically you can break most of them without major consequences (i.e you won't be arrested), but it doesn't mean that people won't judge you. If you don't care then fine, but it makes your whole thread pointless. Do what you want, just don't be surprised that people will think of you in a certain way - they don't know your life, they can only make assumptions based on what they see in front of them.

@Bobbins36

No, not really. I see someone in the street in jammies and I’ll have an opinion about it. OP is perfectly at liberty to not give a shit about my opinion but let’s not pretend to her that people don’t have them. She did , after all, solicit them by posting on here.

Of course people have opinions. They have wrong opinions, as we've seen here. Generally, people update their opinion when presented with new information, that's called learning. Of course you're absolutely entitled to continue with your factless, wrong opinions though. I just feel sorry for kids with parents like this!