@watchingrnfire
I understand but at the same time his behaviour is not fair and acceptable towards teachers and class mates.
There's a couple of kids in my children's classes who are under the headline of anger management problems. These particular kids hit, punch, push, other classmates on a regular basis, my children have been victim of this. I can't tell you how angry it makes me when my child is poked in the eyes, punched in the stomach, thrown to the ground because they have anger issues. I don't care. I have told my children to defend themselves, I will not tolerate children with anger issues getting away with vile behaviour, because that is essentially what is happening. It's absolutely no excuse. Their parents need to get them professional help, you can't expect the school to deal with it. If it means children and teachers are protected by them not being in school, then so be it.
What's anger issues then? You think a child, for no reason other than it's a Tuesday, thinks, I'll just wander over to that child, and hit them in the eye.
Do they have additional needs, that the school are doing nothing to assist the diagnosis process, or putting in measures to help the child? Do they need medication to help with the condition they have, but won't receive it for another two years, because that's how long it takes the parents to fight the school and GP to get a costly assessment. Has it ever crossed you mind what life is like for this child, living with a medical condition that no one helps them with. Parents of the other children furious and labelling them the "vile" angry child.
Is the child witnessing such behaviour at home, and thinks it's the way to respond to anything they don't like? All sorts of measures need to be taken in the circumstances. "Vile" eh?
Is another child, a bully, but sneaky and crafty. The teachers don't see little John whispering to Fred that he's scum. They don't see little John creep into the classroom at break to tip water all over Fred's bag. They don't see little John quietly chanting "your mum is a pig" three places behind Fred in the dinner queue. But boy, do they see little John screaming and crying to them when after a week of this, little Fred has whacked him. "Vile" eh?
It's not ok that other children are on the receiving end of Fred's anger, wherever it comes from No one's suggesting that at all. But as a society, the solution isn't throw Fred out of education, because then "I'm ok Jack".
You have a problem with the "vile behaviour" of children in your DC class. You understand that it is a legal requirement that these children attend the school they have been placed in? Just like yours. So instead of name calling, get on to the school. What are they doing about it? If they aren't going to help the child exhibiting this behaviour, do they think you find it acceptable as it's detrimental to your DC. So are they going to help this child or not. Because not, and the consequences for you DC are not acceptable. So they either put in adequate measures for the other child, properly, or if they plan on always doing nothing, they ensure your children are safe.