Handhold please - dd in A&E **Content warning** Title edited by MHNHQ

[JackOfGentleman]

TRIGGER WARNING - suicide attempt

She's taken an overdose. And it's my fault, I left my medication where she could find it. Shit, shit, shit.

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@JackOfGentleman have read both your threads. Have been thinking of you all today. My heart goes out to you and your DD. Am sending all my best wishes and love to you both. You have so many people rooting for your DD and giving you a virtual hug

I really don't think Mumsnet should have taken down the other thread. The op might not want to explain the update again.

Thinking of you OP.

No advice except a handhold

I had no idea there was another thread - which has gone by the sounds if it. Oh god is the poor girl okay? How is OP? I cant begin to imagine how worried you must be OP. My thoughts are with you xx

Handhold here too op 💐

Hi all,

The OP had started a second thread as they couldn't find this one. We have closed that second thread to new posts as the two threads running at the same time was causing confusion but it is is still viewable here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4340552-dd-in-hospital-in-itu-handhold-please?msgid=110525025#110525025

[quote RivkaMumsnet]Hi all,

The OP had started a second thread as they couldn't find this one. We have closed that second thread to new posts as the two threads running at the same time was causing confusion but it is is still viewable here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4340552-dd-in-hospital-in-itu-handhold-please?msgid=110525025#110525025[/quote]
Have you made sure the op knows where to find this one? I really think at such an awful time you should have left her other thread open. She needs all the support she can get.

I agree, the poor woman is in shock and struggling, if one thread was going to be locked it should have been this one and left her most recent one open, rather than expecting her to follow links back here.

I agree. Why interfere? What’s the problem? Who is it confusing? Not the OP and she’s the only one that matters.

@lunar1 they've linked it at the end of the other thread but it seems a bit crazy to me as I doubt the OP is reading all the messages and couldn't even find her own thread as obviously her mind is on her DD

Agree. Unnecessary to intervene. It's not fair to shut down someone's post, because it's 'confusing'. We are not all here to gawp at OP , she doesn't owe us anything.

I think it was really insensitive to close the other thread, I contacted MNHQ to say so but I see it’s still closed to new threads.

[quote RivkaMumsnet]Hi all,

The OP had started a second thread as they couldn't find this one. We have closed that second thread to new posts as the two threads running at the same time was causing confusion but it is is still viewable here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4340552-dd-in-hospital-in-itu-handhold-please?msgid=110525025#110525025[/quote]
That's super weird. Why would you close the most recent thread? It's not like it's the first time people have created new threads to update. Seems very insensitive given what's happening to this poor woman right now.

Hope you have managed to find this thread again. Your DD is in the best possible place. ITU keep an incredibly close eye on their patients. Fingers crossed that she makes a good recovery.

Keeping everything crossed for you both. Please remember to look after yourself or I hope someone is there looking after you too. Sending lots of love to you and your dd x

Thinking of you and your lovely DD, OP I’ve been checking back all day thinking about you and sending all good vibes and wishes. Hopefully the induced coma is helping her body heal - and I hope you can get some support IRL. And we are all thinking of you

Can you get hold of a diary/blank book? When DF was in icu we were given one by the staff. We thought it odd at the time but started to write in it anyway for something to do and actually it was really helpful both at the time and afterwards once he came out. Ask the staff if they gave one or perhaps the hospital shop may have something? Stay strong, she’ll have all the very best care there.

Hope someone is allowed to support you.

Oh love, I am thinking of you both too, and wishing you well. The only advice I can tentatively offer is to take care of yourself and tread gently. By which I mean just keep going steadily forward and get through it, as best you can.

@RivkaMumsnet agree with previous posters who have suggested your well intentioned approach may not have been helpful to the OP, who surely has little mental energy for this at the moment.

I am praying for you and your DD

Thinking of you and your dd op.

Dear God, @JackOfGentleman, I'm really hoping you and your precious dd are doing ok.
MNHQ, I really don't agree with what you did here - OP couldn't find their original thread so made a new one - and then you deleted it.a

Sorry for the lack of update. I just couldn't bear to even talk about the situation. Thank you all so much for the messages, I haven't had time to read through them all but I will tomorrow. It means so much to have people thinking about her.

She's marginally improved. She's off the ventilator and breathing on her own. Still sedated, still in ITU, they're going to try and wake her late morning tomorrow.

They were very lenient with us earlier, let 3 of us onto the ward without question because of the circumstances, but as of tomorrow we have to book slots to see her  She'll want me when she wakes up and I don't think I can be there 

I can't sleep in case something happens during the night. Her father (we're not together but really good friends) rang the hospital for me because I'm too scared of hearing what they might say. She's stable, stats still all ok as of now.

I just want her home with me. Nothing else in my life matters apart from having her safe and well in my arms.

I have to look after myself as well. I have bipolar disorder and it's easy for me to spiral. But I have lots of support and I'm going to stick with my sort-of-regime of healthy (!) eating, lots of water, lots of exercise and lots of sleep. I need to be there for her.