Dd in hospital in ITU - handhold please

[JackOfGentleman]

I did have a thread running yesterday but I can't seem to find it.

Basically, she took an overdose, we went to A&E, she was triaged, kept on the ward and I thought she'd be discharged today. Got to hospital this morning to find her back in resus after having multiple seizures with an abnormal heartbeat. She's now intubated in ITU in an induced coma and I am so scared I don't know what to do with myself. Do I sit down? Do I drink tea? I'm cold, do I put a jumper on? I'm just standing still in the relatives room staring out of the window.

I'm so sorry Op, I remember your thread from last night. She's in the best place for her. Handhold and hugs from me.

So sorry, OP. Really hope she is OK. Getting yourself a cup of tea sounds like a great idea. And yes, put something warm on. You need to take care of yourself in order to be able to help your dd.

There's no right or wrong thing to do here. I would say maybe try to eat or drink something to keep your strength up. Is anyone with you?

I’m so sorry, what a horrible situation to be in. Do they know what she took? Do you have someone who you could call to sit with you?

Oh shit Jack

Ask for cups of tea from doctors, nurses, any staff about, keep chatting to them, tell them you don't know what to do, let them support you.

Thinking of you, your dd and your family, best wishes for a good outcome short and long term

I'm really sorry you're going through this. Both of you. Put a jumper on, have a cup of tea. Tell yourself she is being taken care of by dedicated professionals at the moment, and so you must take care of yourself so that you are strong enough to take care of her yourself xx

I read your other thread. This is not your fault. Do you have anyone who can support you?

You do wgatever you need to to get you through. Post on here, scream, cry, drink tea. Whatever you need. Your daughter is ill mentally and physically. As hard as it is you need to be strong- mental and physically -and if there is no one you can have near we'll be it through Mumsnet to support you

Handhold here, I was reading your other post earlier and my heart goes out to you.

I think sweet tea is always good for shock or extreme stress.

I hope your dd makes a speedy recovery

I'm so sorry, I read your thread yesterday. Your daughter is in the best hands and they will do everything to help her x in the mean time, try to eat and drink something if you can. Thinking of you x

I was just looking on your previous thread for an update. I’m so sorry it’s not been good news for you today.
Try to eat and drink something. Wrap up warm. Look after yourself. You need to keep your strength up.
Have you got anyone to support you? Sending you lots of hugs xx

Hand hold here

I read your other thread and wondered how things were going at the hospital.
As I am not in this particular stressful situation, though I have been in other hospital stressful situations I can maybe think a bit more calmly at the moment. I think you should check out where you can get a cup of tea for the present and also check out where you can get food for later. Also hunt out toilet facilities in the vicinity. If there are shops nearby perhaps buy crisps chocolate biscuits and soft drinks. Maybe buy things like baby wipes to freshen yourself in case you are outside for hours. A few magazines and newspapers too.
Make sure that the department of the hospital that DD is in have your telephone contact details and that they should keep you updated on DD's progress.
Sending best wishes for you and DD

Sending love OP xxx

Sending love and well wishes x
There's always someone on here so please just chat if you need to x

Do you have anyone you can call to be with you?

Tea sounds good to me op, will warm you up too

Here’s your other thread, there’s been a lot of us thinking of you x

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/parenting/4339985-Handhold-please-dd-in-A-E-Content-warning-Title-edited-by-MHNHQ

I’m so sorry op.
But yes - do put a jumper on. And do drink tea. Preferably with sugar. Or eat a chocolate bar. Either way - Keep your sugar levels up.
Think of you. She is in the best place.

Write things down that the drs say to you especially any results and times. Sometimes if there is a shift change you are a quick source of information.
Also make sure you have a phone charger lead and plug.

Cup of tea first, then jumper. See if you can find a vending machine for snacks. Keep talking to the nurses and ward staff, write down what they say if you can, that always helps me to process things better. Does she have a favourite stuffed animal from when she was younger? An old jumper of yours? We use familiar smelling objects to comfort loved ones in comas.

I saw your thread too this morning, I’m so sorry your daughter is still so poorly.
There will be a hospital Chaplaincy team, maybe you could reach out to them?
You don’t have to be religious to speak to them. I had a long talk with one years ago when DC was a baby and in hospital.

Oh, OP. I was hoping it would be better news today. I'm so, so sorry.

Hopefully the induced coma will give her body the time it needs to recover and you time to think and pursue the kind of support you're both going to need. Please make sure you get some food and drink into yourself.

We've been through it with a niece. Hang in there ... focus on the positive: she's still here for you to help her get what she needs to turn this around.

We are all thinking of you, try and sit down with a warm drink and something sweet like biscuits or chocolate. Is there anyone you can call to come and be with you if its allowed.

I'm sorry, I was keeping an eye on your other thread hoping for better news.

I think you should do, I don't know, whatever you feel you need to. Is there anyone who can be with you, or is that not allowed?

So sorry to hear that. I don't have any advice but here with a handhold