Teacher grab

[hibijibi15]

Hello, just wondering, does anyone know whether a primary school teacher is allowed to grab a child to stop him from running if he won't listen?

Yes, in the same way a parent or carer would.

OP there are some excellent parenting courses available that might help you to get your son to listen to you and be less of a handful.
We offer them at our school and they are great.

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Your son doesn't listen to you and you can't control him and yet you expect his teacher to.

You need help to discipline him at home and you expect the teacher to help you with this.

They are bright, lively, happy boys.

You are thinking of complaining because the teacher grabbed your son to stop him doing something he shouldn't. You haven't yet explained what he was doing.

These don't really make sense.

Hi thanks. What is RL help please?
Thebestnamehere the teachers aren't not on my side, they like me and my children, so I'm sure they would help me. People say that if there is an issue with your children, teachers are usually the ones to let you know and help to orient you. Someone who posted earlier made me out to be a right shit for daring to hint at any kind of help of this kind from a teacher.

My head is spinning more than ever!!

Why do people with badly behaved kids always seem to call them 'active'? Just an observation!

Tucancrossing ouch! They keep telling me that my son is wonderful. So steady on.

My word seriously my kids are better behaved than a lot of adults and a lot darned kinder than so many of you on here!

They are not badly behaved. WHO said that?

I am not thinking of complaining. Where did you get that from?
I said that itsgettingweird had understood what I was wanting to say. If my kids are fine like they are telling me, whereas I've been trying to tell them i think they are hyperactive or dyspraxic and they keep saying it's all normal, why the need to grab him.

He was running around the classroom with another child, and didn't stop when she told him, so she grabbed him, and he shouted for her get to get off him, so she wrote in his report that he had an outburst.

The other day, I repeat, after school, she came to me to congratulate me to tell me how clever he was, and lovely, and that I was doing a great job, and that he quite clearly had a great home life, with everything he could need. SO........why grab?

So people stop telling me I have a problem, and that I am being awful to my kids and their teacher and that my kids are badly behaved!

He was running around the classroom with another child, and didn't stop when she told him, so she grabbed him, and he shouted for her get to get off him, so she wrote in his report that he had an outburst.

Running around the classroom, not stopping when being told and shouting at the teacher is badly behaved. He may not be badly behaved all the time but your example shows that he can be.

I think you need to figure out what the issue is. I have just read your posts and you say how they don't listen and you can't discipline them. You then say they're better behaved than most adults. Those two statements don't really go together.

Lovelemoncurd is that or helpful, constructive, kind, or just fanning some flames for some evenings entertainment? Just wondering,

So people stop telling me I have a problem

Op. This is so hard for people to help you.

On one hand you start by asking if the teacher did wrong and state she did it because you’re not assertive
Then you say you habe a problem at home and you can’t control your kids
Then you say you it’s all good with the teacher
Then you tell us you know you have an issue and have been told before
Then you tell us you have no problem

It’s impossible to help you. Every single thing someone says you change the story and say they are wrong.

I’m really not sure what you’re trying ro achieve other than you fancy arguing with people, so want to post conflicting stuff and argue with people when they try to help you.

Just call it a day op. Ask for it to be deleted and hide it in the mean time.

A thread where you just want to fight and disagree with even yourself is pointless.

The other day, I repeat, after school, she came to me to congratulate me to tell me how clever he was, and lovely, and that I was doing a great job, and that he quite clearly had a great home life, with everything he could need. SO........why grab?

Sorry but I don't believe that. Teachers don't usually go out of their way to tell people something like that. Unless their was prior discussion or concern for the children?
Also you have just said she grabbed him because he was running around the classroom, wouldn't listen when he was told to stop, and screamed when she intervened. What does that situation have to do with what you claim she said the other day?

Very conflicting posts from you OP. It's hard tk follow.

No, that's not it but draw whatever conclusions you fancy. I am mentally exhausted from life, and a lot of you seem to be mean and judgemental. What I have heard from school IS contradictory and that is the problem I posted with. They are wonderful and fine but she had to grab them. Or am I just making it up for fun? What?
I said my kids won't listen. People then say they are badly behaved, someone even said assholes, which they aren't. Did she grab the other child? Lots of you have decided that I'm the asshole but that's fine by me.
Posting today was the worst thing I could have done for my sanity, very big OOOOOOPS indeed!

The teacher probably just reacted instantly to head off a situation. She didn't hurt your boy. Just forget it now.

Ehat did you want the teacher to do, ignore that instance of bad behaviour because he is well behaved the rest of the time. Children running around a classroom are not safe.
Nk one here knows if the teacher physically restrained the other child. She may have. If she did you probably wouldn't be informed of it.

What don't you believe glasscase? Do you think I'm just making things up?

Never mind. It is all true, and it's so confusing.

Gosh op, this is so so hard for folks to help,you

I do not know how anyone can make it easier to understand, normal healthy happy kids can sometimes react badly and need grabbed to stop them doing something. No child behaves perfectly all the time. This doesn’t mean something is wrong with the child. In fact it means they are normal.

Give your gp a call in the morning and good luck. But please call them to help you not your children. No one said you were an asshole, what’s being said is you’re stressed and struggling to cope. And that’s understandable. But you need to get some help now. For yourself.

I just asked if it was normal.
What have people decided I have done so wrong in asking this question?
Did I say something bad about her doing this? Or did I just ask if it's allowed?

Why should I hide? I don't believe I should.

Yes it's allowed if the child is in danger or they are putting others in danger.

What is it you find confusing?

And no, I don't think you are making the whole thing up, just the part I highlighted in my previous post. I can't imagine a teacher calling a parent over to say what a good homelife the child must have, and how he must have everything he needs etc. Teacher just don't do that.

Op,

Yes it’s normal
Yes it’s ok
Yes thr professionals are right there is nothing wrong with your kids
Yes kids can be normal and need to be grabbed now and again to stop them doing something
Yes a teacher can do this.
Yes it’s fine to ask.
Yes young kids don’t listen
Yes young kids push their boundaries,

@hibijibi15

Why should I hide? I don't believe I should.

Who said you should hide?