Late October 2020 babies - Support Thread

[Mc3209]

Graduating from Pregnancy forum into Parenting one! I feel almost grown up.

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I am sorry if I missed anyone!

We ve got DS some baby blocks and teething keys for Christmas, he won't remember it and it was stuff we were going to get anyway.

Breastfeeding Mums - does anyone know the advice on having a drink when breastfeeding? I find pumping a lot of effort so I’d rather just avoid having a drink if I’d need to pump. Can I have one Prosecco/white wine and feed as normal or not? Maybe a Buck’s Fizz if not? I’m not overly bothered, I’d just like to know just in case

@Sls668 I’ve expressed a fair amount for tomorrow so I can have a few drinks but only because the minute I have a sip of anything he tends to be up every hour in the night!
From what I’ve read, even the NHS, it says that as long as you can safely hold your baby, you can drink as you like. I think it’s the equivalent of a shot glass of alcohol in a swimming pool that actually gets into your milk. (If that makes sense)

You can drink and breastfeed! Have a drink if you fancy one... no need to pump
Merry Christmas everyone !

I may have a Prosecco tomorrow... (and I am breastfeeding). I was told during it NCT course that if you stay under the limit for driving, you should be good. The amount of alcohol getting into breast milk is very minimal. But after drinking any alcohol do not sleep with your baby on the same bed if you are bed sharing.

Merry Christmas everyone! It's been a year but at least we have our bubbas 💕

On a different note, if anyone had an episiotomy, is anyone still healing? Unfortunately my wound has gaped open after 6 weeks and now almost 10 weeks it's still not healed and sometimes when I wipe after the loo, there is spotting 😞 GP is not concerned and just says there is some granulation so will take some more time to heal. But I'm just feeling sorry for myself... 😞

Merry Christmas everyone! Hope everyone enjoys babies first Christmas 🥰🎄🎉

Merry Christmas everyone, it's been a really tough year but we all have our little babies to be thankful for ❤️

Merry Christmas Everyone! Hope you’ve all had a magical day and first Christmas with your little ones and family xx

I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas!

How much tummy time are you doing per day?

I am trying to work our way up to 20 mins per day (we are on 14 mins at the moment, in small chunks). I've read somewhere they should be doing up to 1 hour of tummy time per day! This sounds a bit much for such wee ones, and I don't think i can do that with Rafa tears free 😂

@Mc3209 I try to do it on my chest for a good 10 minutes, I can't say that he likes his tummy time pillow still.

Hi ladies, I have started a separate thread too to see if anyone can help I'll repost it here. DS is 11 weeks old.

I started a bedtime routine a few weeks ago starting with a bath, bottle and bed around 9pm always an hour or more after last nap as I've read... but he always wakes back up! It's been going on for three weeks now I thought he would have kind of got into the routine now, as soon as he'd had his last bottle and burped I put him down but he's awake again 45 mins to an hour later sometimes sooner, so I resettle him, then he wakes back up and we carry on doing this for a good couple of hours. Last night he didn't go to sleep until 12am and then I was in two minds whether to give him a feed as it had been three hours. Sometimes once I do get him off he will have at least a 3/4 hour stretch of sleep. I'm just at my wits end trying to get him to stay asleep when bedtime comes! I think he thinks it's just a nap that's why he's back up again I'm just tired of the constant resettling for a good 2/3 hours.

@Mc3209 I try do 10-30mins a day, so nowhere close to an hour. She hates it though, so we do a mixture of on the floor, bed, and laying on me.

@SamK93 aww, hopefully you get some rest soon, and have some better answers. You may already do some of this, but I always don’t take Paige downstairs after her bath, I give her the bedtime feed in darkness with the tv on quiet, she will start dosing off on me, and then I put her in the next to me. I always have a hot water bottle (which I take out when I put her in), so it’s warm for her, and don’t talk to her. She has a Ewan sheep, and I found the night it ran out of batteries, she was harder to fall asleep. When she use to grumble, I use to just reach in and hold / stroke her hand, put her dummy back in, never got her out, unless she was really unsettled. She has slept through for a few weeks now. She wouldnt go to sleep on Christmas Eve though, though at 10weeks she wouldn’t wait up for Santa. 🙈 They are still young and learning, hopefully he understands the difference between bedtime and naps soon. Hope some of that helps. I struggle with getting dressed and nappy changes, no matter what she will scream the house down.

Does anyone think their baby is teething? Paige has started chewing everything, dribbling lots, there is also an area of gum which seems a bit inflamed and sharp!

@SamK93 no advice here, I am afraid. At 9 weeks I am still pretty much baby led when it comes to routine. He is finally settling into 2 short naps/day (on a good day, on a bad day still no naps) and bedtime around 11pm. We tend to wind down for the day and head upstairs between 9-10pm with bath-book-boob routine. Once upstairs it's quiet environment with dimmed lights, no telly. He usually cluster feeds himself to sleep (I started doing something a wee bit controversial - I don't burp him once he is asleep at the boob, he goes straight into his Next2Me. Can get away with that with breastfed babies, don't know if this is applicable to formula fed little ones. I find not burping him before putting him into his bed disturbs him less and he isn't bothered with trapped wind ). This suits me fine at the moment as his cluster feeding time is now my quiet 'me time' where I get to poke about on the phone in peace 😂

@DressingGown87 @1990shopefulftm I managed to get him to 24 mins of tummy time yesterday! Feels like an achievement 🤣 I do it on the floor or on the floor with my banana shaped pregnancy pillow as support. I have to say that pillow works a lot better as 'tummy time' pillow than pregnancy pillow!

@DressingGown87 teething, how exciting! Rafa is quite drooly now but he seems quite content and no evidence of teeth cutting through.

Thank you @DressingGown87 I think I'll try the hot water bottle idea. Otherwise I'll just have to keep sticking it out unfortunately! Cant believe now time flies though he will be 12 weeks on Thursday. I've definitely had a lot of drool too last few days, never had drool this early on with other two so I don't know if it is due to teething, they got their first teeth around 6/7 months so who knows!

@Mc3209 thank you! I can't believe Rafa can go a whole day without a nap! Noah only lasts around for 1-1.5hours before he's desperate for a nap. You sound like your doing great though it just goes to show how every baby is different.

Hi ladies, I've been using the tommee tippee anti colic bottles and was wondering if/when I can stop using them? They're such a pain if I'm honest 🤦🏼‍♀️ she's on the aptamil pepti 1 now all the time and I think with the cmpa that's where most of the problems were.. would it be safe and okay to change back to the normal tommee tippee bottle?

@samk93 I think if you stick at it, he will hopefully grasp it soon. I know time is flying, Paige is 11 weeks this week. I’m dreading 4 month sleep regression. My niece cut her first tooth at 3 weeks! Buy my other niece was 8 months. So they are all so different. Hope your other two DC are loving their little sister.

@Mc3209 that good you got 24 minutes. I think I got about 5minutes out of her yesterday. Glad the pillow is coming is useful!

@ChlOeWh I’ve used the anti colic and the normal ones, and alternated between. I think my problem was solved with other forms, rather than the bottles too. I’ve also changed to size 2 teats now. I don’t think there is any harm in trying.

@DressingGown87 I think I'll give it a try! I'll try her with a normal tommee tippee bottle for her next couple of feeds and see how we get on.. I'm thinking of also starting to use my prep machine now as the midwife and hv wasn't keen but now she's drinking more 5/6oz and it's taking longer to cool down in a jug of water (having to change the jug water as the bottle warms it up)

@ChlOeWh My HV told me not to use it too. But then every MW was like ignore her, they are safe, if they wasn’t they wouldn’t be widely used. They had younger DC too, where as the HV was more old fashioned. I have to do the kettle bottles when I’m out, I’m always so scared it’s not going to be at the right temperature, or cool it too much. It will
Make your life so much easier, hopefully she takes to the bottles too x

@DressingGown87 Ah I think I'm defo gonna give the prep machine another go then! Thankyou for that, you've totally put my mind at rest about the prep machine xx

@ChlOeWh we ve been using the prep machine since coming home from hospital and never had any problems, DS screams within a couple of minutes if he doesn't get his bottle and as he is having up to 7oz on demand now there's no way we could manage without the machine it's a real life saver.
I m assuming DS will stay on 7oz now as it's the highest amount the milk has instructions for, he's 14lb 8 and no sign of slowing down though.

@SamK93 I was thinking, have you tried an earlier getting up time with Noah? Apparently the way to make bedtime earlier is to make a wake up time earlier consistently (getting there in gradual 15 mins increments). That's my plan for when I will need to adjust Rafa's get up and bed times.

We had our first really rough night last night (7 weeks in so not bad!). Baby was up from 12-5 screaming non stop. I can only assume it’s tummy ache. She’s a lot better today but not 100%, I can feel her belly bubbling so wonder if it’s something I may have eaten that’s not agreed with her. Poor little egg, she’s exhausted today but that awful exhaustion where they’re over tired and can’t fully settle

@Sls668 I hope you and your little one got some rest. Is she feeling better now?

Sending you lots of strong coffee.