Should I leave DS with his uncle so he can finish A-Levels here?

[ConflictedMummy]

Hi all. I have a dilemma, DH has found a new job in the middle-east where he’ll receive almost triple the salary he’s receiving now. DS, who’s 18, is currently doing his A-Levels and he will stay with his uncle if we go. The reason we can’t take him is because he has another 2 years of A-Levels and if we take him with us he can’t get student finance to go to uni. We are bringing our 2 DDs but they are still in school

For many many years I was a Sixth Form tutor and I know some students have a lot to deal with because of their home lives. Your grades are fine. If they got you into uni that is what you needed them for. Don't assume the grades you go into uni with will influence the grades you leave with. Many students are pampered at home and don't lift a finger to look after themselves. At uni they struggle with doing a loaf of washing or cooking meals. You have already done the having to learn to stand on your own 2 feet before uni so you will be able to go us entirely on your course. I have had students who had terrible home lives come back 3 or 4 years later and tell me they got a first. At uni you can make friends for life. Pick carefully and your friends will be there for you when you family isn't. You have done so well not to become bitter and your Mum should be very proud of you.

@caringcarer what a lovely reply and very true.

Congratulations, you should be very proud of yourself.

Just read the update and wasn't expecting this to be a reverse! Well done on getting decent grades and into a uni to study.

It sounds like your Step Dad is horrible & doesn't have your best interests at heart. It's all about the girls by the sounds of things.

I think actually you're better off not going with them. To be made to feel second best to the girls.

Does your Mum work? Is she helping you financially? Or does Step Dad only agree to help the girls out?