MIL booked a weekend away

[poppet85]

My mother in law has booked a weekend away for her birthday for the family. Though she's booked it a good 5 hour drive away from us on a weekend term time .
For the rest of the family is about a 2 hour drive so easy to go up after school and their children are all much older . We have a 5 year old and 3 year old so traveling long distances isn't excatly straight forward.
I don't drive so my husband has to do it all ,he thinks we should take our son out of school on the Friday to make it easier and gets very defensive if I say otherwise. It would also me taking time off work
I really don't want to ,he loves school and we put alot of time getting him there etc .
I just feel it's very unfair on us she could have picked a half way place to make it easier or around the holiday time . She didn't check with us she just booked it .
I feel pressure to take my son out of school even though we've been put in this situation

If you're considering taking your son out of school on the Friday, why don't you travel up Thursday evening? Put the kids in their PJs in the car. Make an adventure if it. Either stop half way or do the full journey.

My DH and us, we did 6 hour journey up north and he has done France twice, to be fair our two are older, by yes totally agree it is adventure and you will be desperate to get out of the house and area to keep your sanity and get easy from everything..😄😄

Away 🚗🚗

Just because MIL has booked an all expenses weekend away for everyone it doesn't automatically make it a "nice thing." I would never go away with my inlaws, even if they paid me to go with them having paid for the holiday too.

You have choices and in this instance you need to be assertive and say no.

DH can go alone.

My inlaws want to pay for a 4 day trip overseas for us and DCs with them. I am not going and DCs won't be going without me. The impact on my mental health would be too great.

However, DH is going alone.
Is this an option?