my MIL slapped my child + told me

[hermykne]

they were spoilt.
not in material goods but in how i treat them.

its one day later and i am still quite hurt about her saying this to me and for slapping ds. DD got very upset when she did it to ds.
i was out food shopping.

basically she said a good sla p would stop the antics of a nearly 5 and 3 yr old.

i feel i can withdraw or send her a note, as a friend suggested. not good face to face.

My God MP! What is she going to do when they smear poo on the wall? If I wasn't already a parent of 4 I would be quaking to read that. Surely the when should be replaced by if?

And for the record, if any of my children smeared poo on the wall, I would completely lose it.

honoria i would have thought i didnt need to say dont smack my child as shes observed me over these past few years and seen my approach, that she has no informed me , is "spoiling" them .
obviously she doesnt respect my approach and with them getting older I DO Need to step in and inform her along with DH how we think they should be disciplined if shes looking after them.

lucyellen thanks for your support too, i was terible upset this morning the day after, but now after this thread feeling more confident in approaching her.

LL my mother would be the same,

Hermykne - sorry to interupt - what paper had the article re anger?

Hope you sort things out with MIL btw.

mcnooodle - the irish times, its not online, subscribtion only.

Thanks - and bugger

( the poo-smearing was a reference to another thread today - somewhere there did say something like "ooh yes alll children smear poo" - I must admit I have not had any poo-smearers either. I was merely trying to differentiate between NAUGHTY behaviour and sock-refusal)

mc noodle i may be able to copy it and paste it not sure, will try later tonight.

I dont think all parents who smacked become grandparents who smack.
My dad used to smack me when I was younger, and my gran used to smack her kids (on my mothers side) but they were shocked when I gave my dd a tap on the hand for throwing a paperweight for the third time running!

How did it go last night hermykne? Is everybody happy again ?

well dinner didnt happen, & i havent had the chance to discuss my feelings directly with her. my mum is heading away for a months hols so i have been there, school next week - books uniform etc, so we ll see her before the wkend as she haeds off too for a month on hols!
anyway dh sees my side and agrees with it but she is his mum! he does know how she operates thou.