My mother in law has been feeding my baby behind my

[Lisburnlane219]

So I’m going to keep this short. I would like your honest opinion on how you would react or cope with someone feeding your baby before you have started or wanted to start weaning your baby yourself? My babies first food was a rusk and she’s been being fed rusks for the last 5 weeks without me knowing. My baby has just turned 6 months old and I’ve been waiting until I thought she was ready or if not until she turned 6 months

The lies and the secrecy are a big issue, I would find it hard to trust her after that.
But just so you know, current research supports starting solids between 4 and 6 months to reduce risk of allergies, not waiting until 6 months, the NHS just hasn't caught up yet.

Surely someone of an older generation looking after grandchildren would have the sense to do a quick read up of current guidelines?

Surely someone of an older generation looking after grandchildren would have the sense to do a quick read up of current guidelines?

That appears to very rarely be the case. Even my own mum has read up and does follow the guidelines but still talks wistfully of how she never used car seats, and was told to sleep us on tummies, and life was so much easier and we were all fine.

I can't believe that she doesn't even use the products you buy.
I understand that you're saying you dont want to affect the relationship but this isn't going to stop. She doesn't just think she knew best she's actually carrying out what she thinks.

I haven't used J&J due to the skin issues it caused babies I know. I used aldi nappies then cloth. I used waterworks at the beginning.

Its not like you're asking her to buy the stuff you have provided it but she still think she knows best.

Show her a picture of her poo and video her being fussy. State that this is what is happening.

I also disagree with grandparents in general plying children with sugar and treats and it being must accepted. I don't understand why unhealthy habits, promoting obesity, associating high fat/sugar/processed food is seem as a reward. A treat can be a day out to the zoo or park, making arts and crafts. And when they are 6 months you can do messy play at home there's plenty of free things that don't even cost anything.

We need to get out of this culture of 'naughty nanny and granddad' and 'we did it and you turned out fine'.

I’m shocked you are putting a quiet life for you and your MIL’s feelings above your baby’s welfare.
Why exactly did you post here? At least 80% of respondents have said they wouldn’t leave their baby with her.
It’s not “Nan minds the baby” or Nan never sees the baby, it’s quite normal for grandparents to see their baby grandchildren with their parents, you know, - as a family.
My mum didn’t put a foot wrong and didn’t have my DC until they were around two. My in-laws from around 4 (MIL wasn’t a baby person).
Paid childcare follow your preferences insofar as they are manageable and in line with H&S guidelines.
You know you can’t trust MIL but you are going to hand her over anyway to avoid her tears and your partner’s aggro.

I would be fuming. Absolutely not her decision and horrible of her to take away that ‘first’ from you.

My in laws did this too but at 4 months. I was so angry but didn't say anything (apart from showing surprise to which they said "well, he's four months!" all defensive). Can't believe I didn't say more but as they had already done it I didn't see the point in causing a row. It was rusk too- so basically a sodding biscuit!