' Chronic overparenting'......is it something MNers recognize ?

[mozhe]

...and by that I mean the persistent/long term/almost obsessive preoccupation with providing ' perfection' for their DCs....

Do you think this is something you are prone to ?

Is it more likely to occur in parents of first/only children ?

More likely in previously high achieving SAHMS ?

And what do you understand by the term ' benign neglect ' ?

but i was fine, honest, i never used to squabble mum. that psychiatrist over there started it. really.

Excellent. I knew I was studying psychology for a reason. I love a good barney.

meandmy... - well, try to avoid developing a pet theory that you apply willy-nilly to all human problems - psys love that - they all seem to want to be the person that finds "the reason" behind human troubles.

Mozhe thinks she's got the answer in paid employment . It's her fave prescription.

squabbles = need to distract
what do you think of mummy lit?

No. Don't spoil my fun. I am determined to be as dogmatic as I can. I have been an open-minded scientist too long...

mummy lit? Haven't read much - I Don't Know How She Does It, a few years back, and an extract from Slummy Mummy the other day.

Can't really be bothered to read lots of modern fiction on same theme.

meandmy - so what's your dogmatic pet-theory one-size-fits-all solution to every last human dilemma? . The one that will make you the Freud of the 21st century?

Mummy lit bores me rigid.

Which is odd really, considering I spend so much time on here.

Okay
can we used the scientific method to reject
Mozhe's Hypothesis
that work is answer to everything?

I haven't quite got it yet Anna. Still studying. Will probably come up with something blindingly obvious and give it a fancy new name, or disguise my personal prejudice/insecurity as a psychological theory. Seems to work...

NOW GIRLS - play nicely

Anna - i have to say, i dont agree with many of mohze's opinions but your post is a bit scathing and personal IMHO

Ah, Lucy - now that's not a message I shall give my daughter .

If other people are bullying you, for starters understand their insecurities and work out what's driving their behaviour...

lucy - so you think mozhe should be free to bully all and sundry on MN?

why not? you are

No, I don't bully others. But I do defend myself and others when bullied.

stick up for ourselves yes, i'll always fight the SAHM corner, i do enjoy a battle and at least mohze doesn't hijack threads like others i could mention. but to find out someones insecurities and then lay them out for everyone else to judge isnt kind. I thought the comment regarding her mother was cruel to be honest. I have always wanted to please may father, now he is no longer here it influences my life a great deal but i dont think i should be villified for that.

I just think that we should stick to the arguments. To be fair though, ive only skimmed this thread and if mohze has made personal attacks on other mn then i will slap her wrist

lucy - be careful of taking sides when you've only skimmed the threads... or cross threads

Anna. Below the belt I think.

oh i don't know child birth does not make us completly numb down there...

Mozhe does below the belt, all the time.

I really don't understand the attitude on MN that bulliers get away with it. Sometimes I read threads started by truly distressed women, and they get bullied, and no-one sticks up for them. Why, why, why?

"But she did it to me!"

People were standing up to her. Was anyone lying down and blubbing?

You went too far. You must see that surely?

meandmy - well, I was responding to witchandchips. Which doesn't absolve me of the responsibility for what I wrote, but it explains what got me started.

Actually, I think what I wrote is a quite a good working hypothesis of why Mozhe has to "have a go" on MN all the time. It is interesting to speculate why people come here. Some come here and are very self-evidently looking to understand particular issues in their lives - they are looking for help and support to get through difficulties. And MN is excellent therapy.

Some are here for much less healthy reasons... and I think that's Mozhe's case. She doesn't help others, she provokes them, and that seems, to me, particularly unpleasant given that she is a mental health professional.