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Told off by hotel owner for way I disposed of nappies. Was I in the wrong?

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Heidi3333 · 05/11/2018 23:18

Hi there.

This is my very first post so please be gentle!
I'm just looking for opinions as I'm feeling v annoyed about something and I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable by feeling this way.
I'm on holiday in a UK hotel for a few days with my 2 year old daughter. We are still potty training so still have wet or dirty nappies at times.
Late last night - around midnight - she had a dirty nappy. When she's had wet nappies I put them in nappy bags and then put them in the bin in my room. However, I didn't want to do that with a soiled one as it would stink out the room. I decided to put the nappy (wrapped in a nappy bag) in a bin in a communal toilet 2 floors up from as it was the only one I could find.
I never thought anymore of it but this morning the hotel owner pulled me aside and clearly p!ssed off told me off for leaving the nappy where I'd put it. He said I'd stank that floor out and had left on lots of lights behind me. He said he knew it was me as he played back cctv to find out!! I asked where I should have put it and he said outside my room and someone would have collected it. I was raging but apologised and walked off.

The owner has been unfriendly and cold to me and my daughter since we arrived. He has made no effort to chat to me at all and hasn't spoken to my daughter at all. I got the impression right from the start tjT he didn't like me although he seems nice with the other guests.

I rarely leave negative feedback for hotel ratings but seriously contemplating doing just that when I leave tomorrow.

Am I being unreasonable?

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WontonSoupForTheSoul · 05/11/2018 23:21

Yes, you were unreasonable.

Why didn’t you just wrap in several bags, and leave in the bathroom of your own room until you could dispose of it properly the next morning.

Leaving a shitty nappy in a toilet for others to happen upon is grim.

Theyprobablywill · 05/11/2018 23:23

Really?

MyDcAreMarvel · 05/11/2018 23:24

Why didn’t you triple bag put it in your ensuite and shoot the door.

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bloated1977 · 05/11/2018 23:25

YABU. You should have double wrapped it and kept it in your room. Why should other guests have to experience the smells from your child!

Backinthebox · 05/11/2018 23:26

Erm, you don’t want to smell your baby’s nappy but it’s ok to inflict the stink on other hotel guests? Grim.

NC4Now · 05/11/2018 23:27

Hmm, it’s not good form really. If you didn’t want it in your room, I’m sure others wouldn’t want it either.
I’d say it’s an outside bin job, or as PPs said - triple bag and put in your own room.

BritInUS1 · 05/11/2018 23:28

Yes YWBU

chemenger · 05/11/2018 23:28

You didn’t want to stink out your room but thought nothing of moving that stink to another part of the building. Not very considerate. Surely once you had flushed the solids the nappy could have been double or triple bagged and would not have smelled?

Kintan · 05/11/2018 23:29

If you only wrapped it up in a single nappy bag that wouldn’t contain the smell you are definitely being unreasonable!. Why was it ok for you to stink out a communal toilet, but not your own room? I can see why the owner was annoyed about that, it does seem a pretty selfish thing to do. As for him being cold towards you in general, I think that’s a bit of a red herring in this instance as he’d most likely have been pissed off with any guest doing that!

BackforGood · 05/11/2018 23:30

I do agree with others. Not sure why you thought the smell was too bad for you, but OK to inflict upon other guests.

Why not ask the hotel where you could dispose of them, if you were there for a few days, you'd know it was something you'd need to find out.

Erm - why do you think a hotel manager would need to talk to a 2 yr old ? Confused

BlowPoke · 05/11/2018 23:32

That’s grim OP. Why wouldn’t you dump the poo in the toilet before bagging up the nappy? We always did that and never stunk anybody out. Even pretty soft poo will peel right off the nappy lining without you having to touch anything. A nappy with poo can be bagged in 20 layers and still stink. Not a nice present to leave in a communal toilet.

everydaymum · 05/11/2018 23:33

If you weren't staying there, the public bathroom bin would be ok, but you chose to use that bin instead of your own because of the smell, so that's not OK.
Also, why should the manager talk to your child?

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 05/11/2018 23:34

Hang on - you didn't want it in your room because it smelt yet you think you were reasonable to put it somewhere else so anyone else but you could smell it????? And your asking wether you were unreasonable??? If you didnt want to smell it did you actally think any one else would want too?

That said surely putting it outside your door like the owner said would have stunk your coridor out so im not sure that was a reasomable solution either.

Seems that PPs have the best idea of double/triple bagging it and closing the door.

Surely you must see if you know ots unpleasent enough for you not to want to smell it you were unreadonable to make anyone else smell it

monkymoose · 05/11/2018 23:34

it was midnight she clearly just wanted to get back to bed, i'm sure you all would of had your strict midnight nappy action plans out but she did what she thought was best. i think putting it in a bathroom loo is better than leaving it outside your door. leave the next one outside his office as a treat before you leave.

Happytea · 05/11/2018 23:36

YWBU

Witchesbritches · 05/11/2018 23:38

Was there a baby changing facility in there? If not, then it was pretty selfish wasn’t it. You should have doubled bagged it & left it in your bin OR phoned reception to ask if there was somewhere else you could put it.

Maybe he’s frosty because he doesn’t like children. This won’t have helped.

WontonSoupForTheSoul · 05/11/2018 23:40

I rarely leave negative feedback for hotel ratings but seriously contemplating doing just that when I leave tomorrow

He probably already lost business from bad reviews from your fellow guests complaining about the smell of shit.

JeanPagett · 05/11/2018 23:47

I would have popped down to reception and asked about an outside bin if I really couldn't face keeping it in my own bathroom.

Finding somewhere else in the hotel to stink out seems a bit grim.

Leaving a negative review in circumstances when you were in the wrong seems very unfair. Please at least tell the story as you have here in the review so people can form their own views of who was in the wrong!

rainbowquack · 05/11/2018 23:47

That is disgusting. YABVVVVVU, inflicting the smell on everyone else. You haven't disposed of the Nappy, you merely moved it to a communal area.

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 05/11/2018 23:50

it was midnight she clearly just wanted to get back to bed

So instead of staying in her own room, going back to bed which you say she wanted to do. Which she could have done if she'd done what everyones suggesting of double bagging it and left it in her room. Instead she (from the story with the two year old still in it) searched her floor and the next floor up for a communal toilet found one on the second floor up, turned on a load of lights which she then didnt switch off. Dumped the poo in a bin for every one else to smell and then went back down two flights of stairs

leave the next one outside his office as a treat before you leave.

Well what a mature response. OP only do this if you want to come accross as a total idiot not some one who made an error of judgement

ButchyRestingFace · 05/11/2018 23:52

He said I'd stank that floor out and had left on lots of lights behind me. He said he knew it was me as he played back cctv to find out!! I asked where I should have put it and he said outside my room and someone would have collected it. I was raging but apologised and walked off.

Absolutely grim. However, when he said you should have put it outside your room, is he talking about a communal hall? Wouldn't that have stunk the hall out too?

KittyPerry77 · 05/11/2018 23:52

I don't understand why you're getting such a hard time. Surely a bin in a bathroom is an acceptable place to leave a soiled nappy in a nappy bag. Leaving it outside your room, like he suggested would be vile.

Letsgetreadytorumba · 05/11/2018 23:52

I don’t think you were being unreasonable, you left it in a bin in a toilet. It’s not ideal, but leaving it outside your door as he suggested would have been worse. I feel I should add, I don’t have children.

Pasithea · 05/11/2018 23:55

And people complain that some holidaymakers don’t want to be in the vicinity of young families. You sound lovely.

StoppinBy · 05/11/2018 23:55

So the manager thinks it's ok to leave the poop in the hallway but not a shared toilet? Now that is weird!

Personally I can't really see the issue, assuming most guests had their own toilet in their own room why would they need to go to the communal toilet anyway? If the door to the communal toilet was closed then the smell would be trapped in there and not stinking out the whole floor right?

As for the lighting that is definitely mean on his behalf, the hallways should be lit up anyway so that people don't need to turn on lights as the go through them.

Surely the same cleaning personnel who would have removed the nappy from the hallway would have cleaned the toilets first thing and taken away the rubbish?