Told off by hotel owner for way I disposed of nappies. Was I in the wrong?

[Heidi3333]

Hi there.

This is my very first post so please be gentle!
I'm just looking for opinions as I'm feeling v annoyed about something and I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable by feeling this way.
I'm on holiday in a UK hotel for a few days with my 2 year old daughter. We are still potty training so still have wet or dirty nappies at times.
Late last night - around midnight - she had a dirty nappy. When she's had wet nappies I put them in nappy bags and then put them in the bin in my room. However, I didn't want to do that with a soiled one as it would stink out the room. I decided to put the nappy (wrapped in a nappy bag) in a bin in a communal toilet 2 floors up from as it was the only one I could find.
I never thought anymore of it but this morning the hotel owner pulled me aside and clearly p!ssed off told me off for leaving the nappy where I'd put it. He said I'd stank that floor out and had left on lots of lights behind me. He said he knew it was me as he played back cctv to find out!! I asked where I should have put it and he said outside my room and someone would have collected it. I was raging but apologised and walked off.

The owner has been unfriendly and cold to me and my daughter since we arrived. He has made no effort to chat to me at all and hasn't spoken to my daughter at all. I got the impression right from the start tjT he didn't like me although he seems nice with the other guests.

I rarely leave negative feedback for hotel ratings but seriously contemplating doing just that when I leave tomorrow.

Am I being unreasonable?

I totally agree that he’s being ridiculous about a nappy being put in a toilet bin. That’s where nappies go! I regularly change my DC in cafes, museums, department stores, and nappies always go in the bin provided. But I still think you have unreasonable expectations for him making a fuss of your DC. And you could have taken the nappy outside instead.

You put a nappy in a bag.. in a bin.. in a toilet.
You didn’t lob it out the window.
People need to chill out. Hotel man included.
unless your daughter has the most lethal shit ever known to man

Jesus you have high expectations. I have a nearly 2yo. Doesn’t make me magically interested in the names and ages of everyone else’s.

Funnily enough it never crossed my mind to go out into the street after midnight in my pyjamas to look for a bin!! Especially in freezing weather with a toddler in tow! Perhaps I would have acted differently if I had been during the day.

Really? Flush the solids and then bag it up. I can't believe you did that. If I was the hotel owner I'd be annoyed at you as well.

Absolutely grim. However, when he said you should have put it outside your room, is he talking about a communal hall? Wouldn't that have stunk the hall out too?

Exactly, I'm agreeing with @ButchyRestingFace (for the 2nd time tonight lol)
I thought this thread was going to be about someone flushing nappies down the loo or something and was all ready to be like ya fuckin what?!
A bin's a bin's a bin a bin though. Why is it any better bagged up outside your hotel communal door and corridor than in a bathroom?
Both will be smelly and needing disposing of.

Really theres sanity products in open bins? Not specic sanity bins? If your talking about sanity bins you should not be putting nappys in them.

So does your room only get cleaned every 2 days then dont you think if the house keeper saw a full bin they would you know empty it.

Yes there was a certian amount of logic to what you did i think every ones anazement at least mine is that you knew it smellt, you didnt want it and fair enough, but you thought it was reasonable to inflict it on other people.
Trailling CCTV isnt that odd he wanted to know who the incondiderate guest was, he was probably getting complaints i think it was fair enough he checked tbh.

As for his relative friendliness yes in an ideal world it would be nice if hotel staff did aknowledge children but its not a prerequisite its funny me and a friend reasently gave a hotel a good review for friendly staff because they gave us a map of a running route, and asked us what we were doing in the evening, seems you'd expect this as a bare minuim most of us would think that was fantastic

Yeah but I was putting the nappy in a toilet bin - a place that is smelly at the best of times!! Not in a kitchen or living room bin!

As people have said. Didn't it occur to you to scrap the poo into the toilet and double bag the nappy.
There wouldn't have been a smell then.

No I've never scraped solid off a nappy into a toilet but it's a good idea.

Checking CCTV would take 5 minutes at most if OP had left the lights on, you just keep skipping forward 30 mins until the change in the lights, you don't check every minute.

If the lights on that floor were off then is it possible that nobody was staying on that floor or that it wasn't a communal toilet but a staff one?

Personally I'd have dealt with it in my room, but you did nothing wrong. You disposed of it properly in toilet facilities. That's what they are there for. The nappy had to go in a bin somewhere. I don't believe for one second that he would rather you litter the hallway with it. He's an oddball

I would leave a bad review if I was spoken to like that. A simple request would have been sufficient.

I think next time if you don't want it in your bathroom than just ring reception and ask what to do with it.

I think a bin in a toilet sounds fine, but people should definitely scrape off poop from a nappy, even for babies but especially for toddlers. Get a handful of toilet paper and scrape it into the loo and flush. It stops bins/nappy pails/wet bags from getting stinky. I used mostly washable nappies and it is just common sense to scrape and flush poop. It also helps the baby or toddler learn where poop belongs if you have them watch while you do it.

Also, a proper wet bag that shuts tight and keeps in odors is useful for situations where there is no immediate place to get rid of or wash a nappy.

PP wondered if the Op lived in the U.S. because she was expecting the guy at the check-in desk to want to get to know her and her child. I live in the U.S. and have never had a hotel worker try to get to know me or my family. OP expected him to ask ages and where did they come from etc! Here it would be considered intrusive - nosey. Not everyone enjoys small talk either.

Leaving a shitty diaper two floors up & leaving all the lights on is as rude as hell. OP expected the hotel clerk to treat her as a long lost relative and she left all his lights on all night AND stank up his bathroom.

I don't believe the clerk told the OP to toss the dirty diaper into the hallway. I think she misunderstood, or maybe he was being sarcastic at that point. OP should have been better prepared to keep the diaper in her own hotel bathroom.

Still amazes and appalls me that people think the way to deal with poo in a nappy is to triple bag it and hope for the best. Flush the poo away ffs. Poo belongs in the sewer not in communal bins and then landfill!

OP you are very unreasonable on all counts. Why on earth do you think a hotel owner should be getting to know you and your toddler, it is just weird. I have never had any interest in getting to know the hotel manager when i go away.

As for the nappy, well you are selfish and disgusting, sneaking around a hotel at midnight to dump a stinky nappy. Jeez.

When we stayed in a hotel we double bagged the nappies and put them in our own bin. We would tell reception to please empty our bins daily because of nappies and they did. I wouldn't put them in an open bin in commual loos.

i wouldn't try to "get to know" anyone's kids either.... firstly even though i have some, i don't actually like children and have no maternal need to gush over some strangers children and secondly he is a MAN,( a random stranger man) and if he had just suddenly decided to chat with your child and get to know her, out of the blue, eyebrows would have been raised, motives for the chatting would be explored, conclusions might have been made, things might be said, and things could go nasty.... FOR HIM.... the non chatty man is a wise man

TBH, I would have bagged up and shut it in the bathroom and then gone down in the morning and asked for an outside bin. I cannot imagine leaving any nappy in the room for a cleaner to remove, wee or poo!

but I will be saying I found the owner cold and unfriendly

Of course he was

You were completely unreasonable and left your child's shit in a bathroom which wasn't yours and then left lights on which was totally thoughtless

You should NOT be leaving a review at all , definitely not a negative review

Op, I’m with you all the way. You put a nappy in a bag in a bin in a loo. Which is completely reasonable.
The hotel owner is just plain weird. Telling off his paying guests is rude, and using cctv in that way would have me wondering what else he used it for. Definitely creepy.

The fact that he didn’t acknowledge children is one reason why people go abroad on holiday. It seems to be a UK thing. Children in Italy, Spain and Greece are generally welcomed and included in conversation. Definitely leave a bad review.

Yanbu OP but also definitely this:

Still amazes and appalls me that people think the way to deal with poo in a nappy is to triple bag it and hope for the best. Flush the poo away ffs. Poo belongs in the sewer not in communal bins and then landfill!

Please don't bag up poos in nappies which are already very slow to degrade.