Told off by hotel owner for way I disposed of nappies. Was I in the wrong?

[Heidi3333]

Hi there.

This is my very first post so please be gentle!
I'm just looking for opinions as I'm feeling v annoyed about something and I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable by feeling this way.
I'm on holiday in a UK hotel for a few days with my 2 year old daughter. We are still potty training so still have wet or dirty nappies at times.
Late last night - around midnight - she had a dirty nappy. When she's had wet nappies I put them in nappy bags and then put them in the bin in my room. However, I didn't want to do that with a soiled one as it would stink out the room. I decided to put the nappy (wrapped in a nappy bag) in a bin in a communal toilet 2 floors up from as it was the only one I could find.
I never thought anymore of it but this morning the hotel owner pulled me aside and clearly p!ssed off told me off for leaving the nappy where I'd put it. He said I'd stank that floor out and had left on lots of lights behind me. He said he knew it was me as he played back cctv to find out!! I asked where I should have put it and he said outside my room and someone would have collected it. I was raging but apologised and walked off.

The owner has been unfriendly and cold to me and my daughter since we arrived. He has made no effort to chat to me at all and hasn't spoken to my daughter at all. I got the impression right from the start tjT he didn't like me although he seems nice with the other guests.

I rarely leave negative feedback for hotel ratings but seriously contemplating doing just that when I leave tomorrow.

Am I being unreasonable?

And now that I think of it, particularly as a nurse, you really should know that the smell of shit stinks.
I was in one ward, where an elderly lady was feebly shouting for commode, so I echoed that cry as I was nearest the door.
They told us to be quiet.
Lady shit herself.
Nurse (two) had to clean her and the bed and stop me from vomiting.
Nurse tuts at me as if to say 'old people'. I replied, you would have saved yourself a lot of shit if you had come when we called!

They were all just sitting at their nurses desk chatting btw. Not ran off their feet. In the end, I got to vomit, and they spent 20 minutes cleaning up shit.

Fabunt - I'd paid for the accommodation up front! I couldn't afford to just up and leave because I was unhappy. Not made of money. Plus I very much doubt he would've refunded me any money!

I personally used to lob them out of the windows

@Wazznme are you s nurse?
You are very immature sounding and it’s really insensitive to talk about an elderly lady that way.

@Heidi3333
Hardybthe crime of the century, true. But a smelly, unpleasant for everyone situation caused by your selfishness.

Let's go over the facts one more time.

Your child did a stinker. Rather than a) keep the Nappy in your room b) call reception and ask how to dispose of said smelly Nappy, you chose to leave your DC and go up two flights of stairs, and dump it in a communal toilet.

When the B&B owner told you off about it, you are failing to see the error of your actions, take any responsibility for even recognize that leaving a bag of poo might cause any of the other of the other guests an ounce of discomfort. To top it all off, you are threatening to leave a bad review because the B&B manager hasn't laid out the red carpet for you.

And now you are minimizing by saying its hardly the crime of the century and asking if he has the right to have cctv.

You are being unreasonable. You have been an unpleasant guest. You need to grow up and be responsible for you causing other guests discomfort by leaving a sack of shit to fester and stink.

Even if you didn't know about flushing solids from a Nappy (euuugggh), you do now. An apology along the lines of 'I am so sorry, I just didn't think.' Or something similar would have dissolved this situation.

Prancing about like an entitled and rude princess, claiming you feel 'under attack' when most posters tell you YABU, only reinforces this impression.

Go and apologise. Consider others when dumping bags of poo in closed spaces. And stop BU.

Sorry Rainbow totally disagree with you there. And I think you'll find that quite a few posters agree with me. When I told a few of my friends the story today they were shocked and one of them even said she would have walked out the property there and then.

Anyway, think it's time this thread was laid to rest. I think every
Point has been covered now.

Don't all hotels have a phone to reception?

If you had nowhere to dispose of it you should have asked their advice as to where you could put it.

Nope there was no phone in my room and reception was closed. I would have called if it had been during the day or taken it outside with me to dispose off - I've done that in the past.

Tbh i cant believe you have a toddler and it hasnt occured to you to shake the poo into the toilet first?! Do people really jist fold up poo!!!!!????

TBH I think a hotel/guest house/B&B that advertises as child friendly SHOULD have nappy disposal bins like they do in cafes, shopping centres, supermarkets etc. I don't think guests should have to keep used nappies in their room. Poor service imo.

But Heidi - just think of the economics of that for a moment. A supermarket may supply 1- 3 nappy disposal units (for arguments sake - certainly not one in each cubicle) but has many hundred/thousand shoppers passing through each day spending £1000 per day.

A B&B will have say 10 rooms - 6 ensuite and 4 with shared facilities - are you expecting each bathroom to have its own nappy disposal facility? I've never seen a nappy disposal unit in any ensuite bathroom in any hotel I've stayed in let alone a b&b - and I'm guessing the B&B profit margins are a lot tighter. I can't actually see there being much of a market willing to pay an uplifted rack rate for a room with nappy facilities.

"family friendly" doesn't mean nappy disposal units for all. Oh and you weren't expected to keep used nappies in your room - your bathroom was for that. What was unexpected was you patrolling the B&B and dumping used nappy in a shared bathroom that was being used by other guests.

Thanks rainbow quack. You sound like such a lovely person yourself.

Can’t say I’ve ever attempted to scrape off a squashed mushy poop out of a nappy . Never crossed my mind

Previous posters a bit harsh I think. I can see how horrible it would be to share the room with it. You could have bagged it up better but I'd have done the same. Surely if you were visiting the hotel you'd have to leave it in the bathroom?? His suggestion is just gross imagine if someone stepped on it. I suppose in an ideal world you would have phoned reception to ask what to do with it....but I'd have done exactly the same as you.

Chucky - calm down. You too sound delightful 😘 I reckon about 1/3 agree with me, not 1/10. Perhaps you're the stupid one?

Sorry I completely missed that there are 10 pages I only saw the first one. Yes maybe time to put this to rest.

Having a difference of opinion doesn't make me stupid!!

I'm going to ask for this thread to be closed down now as some of the comments are becoming quite abusive ☹️I'll finish by saying that I did leave negative feedback (as well as some positive) as I think the hotel owner deserved it and I wouldn't want other mums to have to face the same as I did.

Heidi I don’t think you’re stupid. Entitled, precious, a drama queen, selfish, childish yes but stupid, no.

Just accept it was shitty to dump your child’s nappy in other guests bathroom (not a communal toilet) apologize to anyone you offended and leave it at that

I hope you were entirely honest and explained to other moms not to dump their kids shitty nappies in other paying guests bathrooms

I'm surprised there wasn't one of those special bins for sanitary products in the bathroom. Should be able to use one of those for a nappy too.

Maybe he could have been more polite but I have a feeling you're being a bit sensitive in general and perhaps he wasn't actually as rude as you perceived him to be.

YABU about him not talking to your daughter though, I don't expect employees where I go to oooo and ah over my PFB daughter and neither should anyone else.

If he had taken an interest in your toddler, would he have been a suspected ‘creepy old man’?