madeleine mccann was not abducted because she was left in a hotel room

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ok, i'm probably going to regret this - but i am dismayed to see the same old arguments coming up again and again about whether the mccann's were irresponsible to leave their children unsupervised in a hotel room.
it seems to be the same people posting too.
if they had taken her with them she could have still been abducted while running around while they were having their meal. i doubt they could have watched a 3yr old every second and she could have been snatched while out of sight, as happened to jamie bulger.

the person responsible is the one who abducted her, and if, sadly, it is anything to do with paedophilia, then all those people who support the industry in child porn by watching and paying for the stuff also bear some responsibility.

www.forsarah.com/html/sarahslaw.html perhaps we could all be doing something to try and stop it.

'Would you not leave your child with your Sister for a day or two?'

I would, but unfortunately lots of people on here have family from hell.

No I wouldn't, not in those circumstances. If my child had been abducted I would be terrified to let any other children anywhere out of my sight.

Well you see we're all different, I personally wouldn't have taken any child of mine on that trip.

The children will be playing in the pool & living as normal a life as they can at this horrid time.

and for how long. If the mccanns travel round Europe will it be inappropriate to take their other children with them then? As the children get older and the mccanns travel to countries to follow up potential sightings will the twins be left home then? There will come a time when the twins will be old enough to understand what it's all about. They can't be left out of it all for ever, because it will affect their lives too.

Another scenario:

When my Bosses father died, she was inconsolable with grief.

Do you think she was wrong to have asked me to work with my Charge the following weekend?...She thought it'd be better for her not to be with her when she was on the verge of tears every minute of the day?

to be honest I'm not sure the mccanns are being given sound advice. I think the pr people they are being consulted by are focussing on keeping Madeleine in the media, and I'm not sure the other children are being thought of in all this, and the mccanns are currently too caught up in all the publicity to think straight about the other two, and I don't think that will do their publicity any good in the long term.

FurReal nobody thinks so long term at such an awful time, I'm sure if there are ever any sightings of Madeleine they are not likely to be every month!

Many children are left at home whilst their Parents go on holiday, I doubt you could raise an arguement to say it'll cause them serious damage!

but your boss's dad had died. she was able to grieve, able to attend the funeral, and able to gain some closure. Her children would only need to be sheltered from this for a period. Madeleine may never be found. There may never be closure. The twins can't be sheltered from that, how ever hard you try.

Hopefully none of us will ever find out exactly how we would react in such a situation!

I think some may react differently to the way they say they would!

I'm sure they will come to terms with it sooner or later, it's still pretty raw let's face it!

My Mum's Sister died at 16 & my gran grieved for about 3 years (my Mum remembers it well, she was 19 at the time)...We are all different!

Actually 6mths later my Boss is still not herself & it is affecting her dd!

been avoiding these mccann threads for a while as soon as you say i wouldnt leave my dc you seem to get jumped on for not being sympathetic to the mccanns and for being 'wholier than thou' etc which is'nt true
but all this visiting the pope, organising benefit concerts etc leaves a nasty taste. There are probably quite a few children missing at the moment who arent in the media spotlight, because they dont look right?, the parents dont have enough money to hire pr, dont fit with a comfortable brand of parent that people can relate to.
I do feel sad that money these days seems to buy a nation's grief aswell as everthing else.
its too early to say this isnt it... I hope all this pr does work and they find her.
i also hope other parents find their missing dcs too while im at it to even it out.

Be prepared for the lynch mob, blond. Of course, if you'd been on another thread and show so little 'support' and 'sympathy' to a mother who bottlefed by choice, then you'd be cheered by the braying masses.

i know i was feeling brave. might regret it later. i do have sympathy for them btw. I just also have more sympathy for other parents who arent in the spotlight right now, even though i dont know who they are

Sorry for the slight hi jack but having been away last weekend, was there any update on the 11 yr old girl that went missing in England?

Don't recall having read ANYTHING about a missing 11-year-old girl in England, Mhamai .

Yes expat it was featured on Sky news.

Sorry my mistake she's 13, Shona Bennett from Nottinghamshire but she was found ok two days later. sorry hi jack over.

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I agree with you there, Aims. I believe it gave whoever it was watching a golden opportunity.

Sad, but true.

Don't usually post on these threads but this one has really got my back up.
So what some of you are saying is that the Mccans were wrong for leaving their children in the apartment and are now wrong for travelling to Rome without the twins. FFS CAN'T THESE POOR PARENTS HAVE A BIT OF SYMPATHY!! Their little girl is missing and they may never see her again and i know exactly what that feels like.
You are right fiofio it is like bereavement and untill you are in the same situations you shouldn't comment on how you think you would act as you have no idea!!!
PARP!!

There's plenty of sympathy around.

But I don't see where it's not permissable to express the opinion that leaving her alone unattended in a ground floor apartment was wrong.