Theodoresmummy, I shall be delighted to enlighten you
I am a better mum of 6 than of 1,2, or 3 because:
I haven't got the time to worry and stress about things that I did when I only had three.
I, like many mums would worry about (for example) how much so and so had eaten, I would stress about aspects of their development, should they be doing this and that, should they have reached this developmental milestone, be speaking fluent spanish and french and giving cello recitals (get my drift?)
Now I don't sweat the small stuff. Big issues get dealt with and I know from experience that things mostly work out fine without fuss and worry, for example dd2 (3 1/2) still wets herself once a day and is still in nappies at night. If I had fewer children I might be tempted to do something about this. Now I know it's not worth the stress it will cause me and her and that it will see itself right soon enough. Ther are lots of examples like this.
Because there are alot of children the children have to take responsibilty for themselves in a way I wouldn't have insisted on had I had fewer.
They have to tidy up after themselves (Well I keep trying!!)
They have a responsibilty to keep the house in reasonable order and to help me out. I think this sets them up better for life than having a mum who does it all just because it's quicker for her to do it.
When I tell them to do something they HAVE to do it, otherwise it's chaos. I think I would have let them get away with a lot more had there been fewer of them.
Sorry, I've rambled in a rather incoherent way, screaming newborn has done me in .
Basically I have to run a tight ship.
They get more freedom also from not having me focus on them all the time and what they are up to. They get to chill out and just relax as I'm not in a position to 'stimulate' their minds, and do all the extra curicular stuff many mums feel impelled to do now.
Well, I've made no sense I fear. I know what I mean though!!