Why do poeple get dissappointed about having another boy??

[LadyTophamHatt]

Yes, I know I was upset about ds4 not being a girl but I found out so I could get it straight in my head. I knew I wouldn't feel sad for long and I didn't but it really comes up such a lot on here.
I don't think I have ever seen a thread when someone is dissappointed with the sex and its a girl.
Ever, not in over 4 years as a MNer.

Ah no you can get the same ampunt of points awarded by the Granny Jury if you have one boy such as DS1 behhaving whilst looking angelic in a blonde curly halo and speaki g very nicely in a posh accent as he does.

Course everyone who is a MN regular knows DS1 can be a complete nightmare and that the accent is bizarre as I dont have it, but it still gets approving looks!

(as opposed to when i then take him in tescos and he plays up something chronic)

It is yes- a good one though LOL! At least he's always guaranteed ajob at the dubious employment agency near us that has a sign in it that says (honestly)

Wanted: receptionists who can speak proper talk

PMSL!

We do love that sign! Ds's are rather when we go past it in hysterics!

my friends just found out shes pregnant with a girl after 3 boys.after 2nd and 3rd she went into deep depression and didnt bond properly with babies.she found out with each at scans and was depressed from then in.now i worry what effect having a girl will have on her already not great relationships with her sons.i begged her not to find out so sh would enjoy last few months of pregnancy but she did,luckily for all of us she got answer she wanted.

i have 1 girl and 2 boys and didnt find out with any.if i had 3 girls or 3 boys i wouldnt care,i love my babies for who they are not what sex they are.

I did initially with my second child because I have no female blood relatives and it would have been lovely to have one. I had a very close realtionship with my mother and grandmother. I couldn't have imagined caring what gender my first child was. I felt like that even though I had had a miscarriage and fertility problems inbetween my two boys. I felt stupid for feeling that though. I never had one comment about it being another boy though.

no, I would be happy just to have a healthy baby but I've only been lucky enough to have one!

I have two DSs.

We had a couple over yesterday visiting with their "gentlemen's family" (nearly 3yo son, and 1 yo daughter) and the husband asked me 'so you not wanting a girl then?' I said 'no, quite happy with my two healthy children, thanks. And to be honest, just the other day one of my close circle of friends just found out the previous weekend that her SIL had a little girl, but sadly she was stillborn. Makes the gender of a child quite irrelvant really....'. He went all quiet and changed the subject quickly...

I wasn't aware of people being upset by having boys. I was convinced I was having a boy and had named it in my head and everything. I was excited at the idea of a boy (but then, after an HG pregnancy I was pretty damn excited to get the thing out of me). I had to work really hard at imagining having a girl just in case. Then when I was in labour I just knew it was a girl. Delighted now but can honestly say would have been delighted with a boy - and really wouldn't mind next time around either - there's pros and cons of one of each or two the same. I remember an episode of OBEM though where she was having number 5 - she had 1 boy and 3 girls and was desperate for another boy - it was a girl and she was gutted, would barely look at it. Awful. Also, worldwide boys are still the popular option - in India and China thousands of baby girls are aborted every year

Run run from the zombie thread...

In the western world I've noticed boys are seen as 2nd rate somehow but as Tolly said in India and China they love and very much want them. My dream is one boy!.

Who cares if it's a zombie thread?? It's still relevant today and many people get this shoved down their throats about 'oh poor you, it's a boy' attitudes. Nothing wrong with bringing it back to the surface.

I have three boys and when DS3 was born I had a number of people ask if we were going to try again for a girl. I got so sick of it I started saying "is there something wrong with boys?"

Fuzzymum you'd think people would comment and say something positive rather than ask 'so you trying for a girl then?' type comments. Utterly stupid thing to say to anyone, it's not as if you have crystal ball and can tell what gender of child you can create. It just happens as it happens, and no one can alter it. Am sure your boys are a lovely bunch and more than anything - they are individuals!! :)