Why do poeple get dissappointed about having another boy??

[LadyTophamHatt]

Yes, I know I was upset about ds4 not being a girl but I found out so I could get it straight in my head. I knew I wouldn't feel sad for long and I didn't but it really comes up such a lot on here.
I don't think I have ever seen a thread when someone is dissappointed with the sex and its a girl.
Ever, not in over 4 years as a MNer.

If you were referring to my post, I didn't say that Dropside. Perhaps your should re-read it.

There are some people who are a bit loopy about either sex though which tends to rub those with all of one up the wrong way.

My mother is boy daft for one. Classic quote from a neighbour recently who has a boy about 5 months and an older gril.

She was looking at her boy on the floor with my two girls and her girl.

"oooh he will be like a king among all these pretty girls" WTF?

Or a child minder I was considering(she didn't know that though)
"i would rather have 100 boys than two screamy girls"

Actually (ranting now lol) On dd1's card from DH work some twat had written out a wee story about making a billycan out of a tin which basically said any numpty can bang a hole in it but it takes a real man to put a spout on it. I can only presume that he thought we had had a boy surely no one would be deliberatly offensive like that?

As a mother of 4 boys I actually feel abit insulted that boys aren't the desired choice more often.

How mad is that?

Oh, and forgot to add, I actually think I am going to feel lonely in my older age, when DH goes off with the boys to sport, the pub whatever....

AND I worry about who will look after me if DH dies before me... I watched my own mother selflessly nurse both my Nana and Aunt through terminal illness ....I don't think sons would do this (but that's not a good reason to want a daughter is it )

I don't think it's mad, LTH
I think boys get a pretty bad press on the whole.
Which is sad - because they're lovely!

You wouldn't think boys were not the desired choice if you had two girls and were pregnant with a third

I do think boys get a bad press

at my M&B group when the boys steam about BEING NORMAL BOYS there is a lot of tutting from other mums as their girl is BEING NORMAL sat on the floor playing with dolls

fgs

does it matter ???i seriously dont get it!!!when pregnant i didnt care,so long as healthy.i have girl and 2 boys.love them all the same,theyre individuals.

Yes boys do get a bad press, but on the whole they are edible.

With this baby when I found she was another girl (3rd) I was disapointed as I felt she was a he and I know she is my last child, I felt as though I would never get the "mummys boy bit" but am chuffed as punch now that I will have 3 girls.

I agree with Gameboy. I think a lot of it is to do with identifying with your dd, recreating (or creating) the mother/daughter relationship you had/ wish you had.

I find my dd much trickier to deal with than my ds though.

i am pleased i have a boy & a girl, sure, & they get on really well BUT i bet 2 boys would have had such a ball together. my 2 nephews plus ds are such a gang, it's fab.

pretty much very perosn who asks who many boys I have says "ohhh you must be mad/gluten for punishment/sad noto have a girl"

I wonder if its the same for all gilrs.

speccy

Agree with gameboy.

I think this is a gender thing. I bet if you asked a group of men, they'd want boys - I think it's partly about imaging a child doing what you did as a kid and having a wonderful time (assuming you did); partly about feeling that a girl 'stays' yours, whereas a boy becomes someone's else's husband; partly about the desire to have a doll to dress....

Luckily I had a very tom-boy based childhood, so always imaged my children (of either sex) up trees/throwing gooseberries etc etc.

BUT I did feel a different type of bond with dd when she was born - that sense of 'God, you're going to go through all the 'girl' stuff I did' - starting periods, dealing with sex, maybe having a baby of your own one day...

Ds is more like me in temprament than dd will ever be (I suspect) so this isn't about feeling closer to one or other - but I do think there's a different type of connection.

Yes it is.

"Is your Dh disapointed you only have girls?"

"are you going to try again?" while holding dd2 at a few days old.

Hoxtonchick - yes - when I look at my two boys getting on well together it makes me smile - they are SUCH good mates really, and I am pleased they will have each other throughout life.
I don't have a very good relationship with my (much) older brother...

yes it is the same for all girls

who cares anyway

boys do better at uni than girls, and earn more cash when older - so the perceived 'anti-boy' thing evens out in the end.

While I would have liked a boy I have to confess a sigh of relief when DD2 was born. I suspect the grannies (both of them) preference for boys could have made things a bit fraught.

My nephew is in another country though so it takes the edge of a bit.

I have a ds and am having my 20 wk scan for this one this afternoon, I am hoping for another boy, will have to hope he/she is playing ball and will let us see. I have two nieces that I spoil already and would like another boy to even things out a bit. (not the only reason btw)

Oh and LadyTophamHat your boys are GORGEOUS!

There's something about having same-sex sibs, from a childs pov, I think. I'm one of 4 girls and there's something v special about the bond we have.

I did think 'oh god all that effort for another girl' after I'd finished panting dd2 out

but I didn't give it any more thought that that

and I was off my tits on gas and air and meptid at the time

I have one of each and wouldn't swap either obviously. I feel privileged (can't spell it tho') to have the experience of parenting both sexes... I do wonder though , if when they are grown up they will not be as close as same sex siblings.
I would have felt disappointed if I had not had a son though.. have crappy feeling that dh really wanted a son.. I don't think that boys are 2nd choice at all.