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MIL fed 12wk old....

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sleepymama15 · 08/12/2017 18:09

My MIL has watched DC2 overnight a couple of times as he’s a terrible sleeper. She watched him last night and said he’d slept great which is unheard of. She then said she had given him custard before bed. She said she knew we wouldn’t be happy about it but did it anyway. AIBU by being thoroughly pissed off?! Angry

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MissEliza · 08/12/2017 18:10

ShockI honestly don't know what to say. She's a silly bitch.

Tinselistacky · 08/12/2017 18:10

No more overnights then.Simple.

glow1984 · 08/12/2017 18:11

What I would take from that is that he’s usually still hungry at bedtime

And then get over it.

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mehhh · 08/12/2017 18:13

Agree with @Tinselistacky

Horrendous to do that without your permission

dementedpixie · 08/12/2017 18:16

I'd be fuming too. I wouldn't leave them alone with them again

InDubiousBattle · 08/12/2017 18:22

I'd be angry and say no more over nights, or even unattended care tbh.

INeedNewShoes · 08/12/2017 18:23

Bloody hell that's horrendous. In no one's book should a baby that's not even 3 months old be having anything but breast milk or formula!

And I don't agree with glow. Many babies will sleep better away from their mother.

ThatEscalatedQuickly · 08/12/2017 18:26

I'm glad your little one is ok. Not trying to panic you as obviously all was ok but my cousin almost died after being given custard as a baby. Turned out she had a severe egg allergy. My mother, who was minding her, still shakes at the memory of it.

Thankfully that didn't happen here, but it could have and MIL would get it with both barrels had it been my kids (as would anyone else, not specific to MIL's).

FaFoutis · 08/12/2017 18:27

Out of a tin or what?

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sleepymama15 · 08/12/2017 18:30

She will not be watching him again anytime soon. And yes @ThatEscalatedQuickly that’s exactly what we were worried about! And his poor tummy getting hit with something so sweet (and full of goodness knows what) all of a sudden. Shock to the system. My other half has made no secret of how angry he is. Very annoying as she said she “new we wouldn’t be happy about it,” but did it anyway?

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Mumof56 · 08/12/2017 18:32

You child is not a great sleeper because they are hungry (something you failed to realise) . Instead if being angry at your mil for noticing why child was not sleeping put you energy in to remedying the situation with your child.

drspouse · 08/12/2017 18:33

glow If MIL is so insensitive she doesn't think this was wrong, she probably doesn't know how to tell a baby is hungry either.
Custard is not food for a baby this age. It's just a recipe for tummy ache.

ThatEscalatedQuickly · 08/12/2017 18:33

Oh and ignore the GF's telling you your MIL did you a favour. She most certainly did not.

MikeUniformMike · 08/12/2017 18:35

That's terrible.
I expected that she had fed him to the lions.

Buglife · 08/12/2017 18:35

Not being a good sleeper at 12 weeks is fuck a to do with being hungry, babies that age wake up for regular feeds because they still take small amounts or are having a growth spurt. Feeding anything other than milk to a 12 week old is very dangerous!

AssassinatedBeauty · 08/12/2017 18:35

Fgs, her baby is not hungry just because the MIL gave custard and the baby happened to sleep. It's absurd to suggest that the OP wouldn't know if her baby was hungry.

What she's learnt is that her MIL is not able to make appropriate judgements and so not to leave the baby alone with her again.

MikeUniformMike · 08/12/2017 18:37

Was it home made custard or instant?

Seriously, OP, joking aside, your MIL is insane giving custard to a 12 week old baby.

FaFoutis · 08/12/2017 18:37

What did you say to your MIL sleepy?

MagicFajita · 08/12/2017 18:37

No more alone time with your child for her then.

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sleepymama15 · 08/12/2017 18:38

@Mumof56 your answer is very rude! Of course when my baby is hungry I feed him and take care of his needs. It’s judgemental answers like yours that make me not want to post on here. If you have nothing helpful to say then don’t comment.

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Chaosofcalm · 08/12/2017 18:38

It is also normal for a 12 weeks old and even a 12montj old for that matter to wake during the night for milk. No where did the OP say anything which suggests she is not feeding her hungry baby.

TheDowagerCuntess · 08/12/2017 18:39

12 week old babies wake up through the night, and often sleep badly because they're babies.

If they are hungry, the accepted response is to give them milk. Not custard.

Some people on this thread should be left to look after a cactus, let alone a baby.

SandAndSea · 08/12/2017 18:39

She clearly doesn't respect you. I wouldn't leave baby with her alone again.

NerrSnerr · 08/12/2017 18:49

Some of these answers are bonkers, if the MIL thought the baby was hungry she should have given her milk not custard.

MikeUniformMike · 08/12/2017 18:51

My mother was like this. Sugar on a teaspoon to a 4 month old. I hit the roof. Evil witch.

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