MIL fed 12wk old....

[sleepymama15]

My MIL has watched DC2 overnight a couple of times as he’s a terrible sleeper. She watched him last night and said he’d slept great which is unheard of. She then said she had given him custard before bed. She said she knew we wouldn’t be happy about it but did it anyway. AIBU by being thoroughly pissed off?!

She gave a 3month old custard?! Full of sugar and allergens like eggs?! That is absolutely batshit so glad your baby is ok

I used to feed my baby home made custard at bed time, it did work he slept all night but he was older than 12 weeks and a terrible sleeper

I feel your anger OP.
DS’s grandad gave him fucking gravy at 16 weeks old. I was incandescent with anger.

oh no, she tried to kill your child.

Silly woman watching him so that you could sleep.

allergens like eggs?

There's no egg in any of these c ustards from tesco's

www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/shop/food-cupboard/desserts/custard/all

I'd never have left my 12 week old baby with anyone.

My youngest is 9. I have 3 kids. Not one of them lasted to 6 months before introducing something else. I appreciate your mil shouldn't have done it if she knew you weren't happy, and obviously mum's wishes trump gets, and also, the sleep thing is a red herring but Babies are not all made equal and the 6 months thing is a guideline based on an average for All babies globally.

Hope you manage to come to a resolution OP

12 weeks is still far too young and I don't believe custard is a standard first weaning food! My youngest is 11 and I weaned around 23 weeks. Dd (14) was 16 weeks but looking back it was too early and I found it stressful

It doesn’t matter that OP let someone take her baby over night.
It doesn’t matter that her DS is a poor sleeper.
It matters that MIL did something which she knew OP would not like. I’m going to assume that OP’s DS is unable to hold his head properly and still has tongue thrust reflux. It’s dangerous to feed a baby at that age. Custard or anything else.

Apart from breast milk or formula obvs 😂

Custard is made with egg - if it hasn’t got egg in it it’s not custard! Seriously if it was a well known instant custard substitute it contains just sugar and cornflour, plus the milk you add and yellow colouring. Many babies were raised on less nutritious food not that long ago for those that think it’s dangerous. Still pretty shocking though, but possibly acceptable in her time?

I have not been sleeping well myself lately, thanks for sharing the custard trick, I will try it tonight myself and if it works I’m going to write about.

Look out for my book ‘The No Cry Custard Solution’ in all good bookshops next Christmas.

As for your mil, she can’t be trusted so I wouldn’t let her look after the baby again. Good luck and thanks again!

Wow there's a lot of judgement on here! OP, it is shocking that she would give custard to a 12 week old, that's bonkers! Especially when she admitted to knowing you wouldn't be ok with it. I would have hit the roof! You're doing a great job

OP while I agree with otgers No overnights with someone who doesn't respect your wishes for your child. I had Dd1 in 2000 the health professionals advice at that time was to wean at 12 weeks which is what I and everyone else did.

She is fine as are all her friends.

This isn't a an AIBU thread, but it seems to have attracted some unpleasant and confrontational posts.

Weaning age debates aren't relevant. The baby is 12 weeks old. It is very widely and well known in 2017 that 12 week old babies need appropriate food which is either breast or formula milk. Nothing else.

It is of course lovely that the MIL offered to have the baby for the night. However she rather ruined that by giving the baby inappropriate food. As a one off hopefully it won't have long term effects for the baby. But the MIL has destroyed trust, especially with the admittance that she knew the OP would be upset. If she knew that, presumably she knew why, and chose to do it anyway.

"horrendous", "very dangerous", "evil witch"??? It's custard. She hasn't taken him on a joy ride or given him illegal drugs. It's not great, but honestly not the end of the world.

I'd be fuming. She has not only gone against your wishes but almost bragged about it?!? What did you say to her???

Assinatedbeauty I was just reassuring the OP most babies don't come to harm from receiving food at 12 weeks.

MIL not being trustworthy is the problem here.

What a wolly🙄, I would hit the roof if mine did that!

Jesus 12 week old babies aren't meant to be good sleepers and they do get hungry a lot so you give them milk not fucking custard.
Wtf was she thinking?!

outrageous! goes without saying no more overnights! this is the reason my daughter does not go to MIL! ever since she purchased chocolate buttons and tried to give her them (at four god damn months old) I will never entertain overnights or even a few hours again!

It wasn't so long ago that 12 week weaning was absolutely normal . Special rice/custard/semolina for first foods. Mine were all weaned at 12 Weeks. They are only early 20's. So not so long ago. I remember custard being a regular staple of their early meals. Apple/custard. Peach/custard. Etc.
Weaning advice changes all the time. She should of asked you though. Other than that I would chill out a bit . She's not been feeding him poison.
Mine all slept through the moment they were weaned. Coincidence maybe - I didn't care. It worked. I guess they were hungry. The same for all three. All bf. Btw all great non-fussy eaters.

It is decades ago that 12 weeks was normal. Advice has been "around 6 months" for at least 15 years. Before that it was 4 months for a long time, and it must be very long ago now that 12 weeks was the official guidance.

Has it ever been 12 weeks. Advice doesnt change all the time. It changed from 4-6 months in 2003 to 6 months

willothewisp17 Absolutely bloody right. The woman deserves prison at the very least. I am glad you wouldn't entertain her grandmother developing a relationship with her grandchild for such a heinous crime. A CHOCOLATE BUTTON AT 20 WEEKS !!! What was she thinking ???