MIL fed 12wk old....

[sleepymama15]

My MIL has watched DC2 overnight a couple of times as he’s a terrible sleeper. She watched him last night and said he’d slept great which is unheard of. She then said she had given him custard before bed. She said she knew we wouldn’t be happy about it but did it anyway. AIBU by being thoroughly pissed off?!

That's disgusting. I would 1000% stop overnight stays and reduce contact massively. If she couldn't cope with night feeds she shouldn't have taken a newborn off your hands. And custard really? Full of sugar and crap not to mention ingredients that your LO could be allergic too. How stupid is she! OP I'm sure no harm will come to your LO that's what you need to focus on right now, please try to relax about this and don't let your anger and stress show to your baby xx

But you know therefore that there is stuff you are doing with you child/ren that will be wrong, considered dangerous etc. Which bit will that be? The sleeping? the feeding? Makes you think, or it should before the outraged responses .

Clearly you can never trust her to take it your children if she does things that she knows "you wouldn't be happy about" without giving two shots about parental autonomy. Never leave her unattended with your children.

....No. it doesn't make me think. The guidelines right now are as safe as we can get. I follow them. If someone didn't follow them then I would be annoyed.
If they progress in the future then Greta but I plan to go forwards. Not backwards.

Custard is basically just sugar, cornflour, and milk right? Unless fresh with eggs.. it is unlikely to actually cause any harm.

She may just not realise why this is not a good idea. No need for hysteria, outrage, etc. Just ask her not to do it again and explain why.

Weaning advice does wax and wane, similarly to advice on e.g. eating peanuts/ gluten/ lots of other things in babyhood.

It should make you think.

thinking is going backwards? Really?

@ProperLavs stop being so ridiculous.
Science is constantly moving forward. I live in the now so o trust current advice. I'm not going to worry about what the advice will be when my grandchildren are born. Just accept that my knowledge will be outdated and I will have to be educated all over again.

Tell her you're stopping the overnights.
She was totally out of order.
If you don't nip this undermining in the bud now, she'll be hell when they're older.

completely random and very off topic.

But I'm just getting used to some of the not so new features like tagging.

Why when is tag @ProperLavs does it have OP next to it?

Weaning advice hasn't changed for 15 years, and before that it wasn't massively different. This idea that guidelines change constantly is really odd.

As is the idea that because some things that are advised now might change in the future, that means it's ok to stick to outdated advice that we know is wrong.

It isn't about the one off instance of custard in itself. It's about the fact that the MIL knew it wasn't the right thing to do, knew the OP would be upset and then did it anyway. That's the issue.

That’s terrible! If baby had been over 6 months it would have been rude and irritating but at 12 weeks it’s totally dangerous! I’d be explaining to MIL that its no different to giving a two year old wine and that she will need to earn trust and apologise unreservedly!
Outraged for you.

NM it's changed again. So it's basically the last person who posted. Sorry!

quite, so you should, but rather than the nasty comments on here people should realise that one day their outrage will have been for nothing because the advice they were given was wrong anyway. And since it WILL be wrong at some point there is no point becoming hysterical when someone does not strictly adhere to it.
Sure follow it mostly but don't blow your gasket over a bit of custard.

Hahaha it's custard not crack!! I weaned my 19 year old at 6 weeks!! He's absolutely fine. Calm down

And that's your decision to make about YOUR child, in what world is it ok to make decisions like this (which go against current advice) about someone else's child?! It's bonkers!

All babies were adopted. At 6 weeks quit sleeping through the night. Gave a few teaspoons of rice cereal and formula. Now slept through the night. All my friends work full time as I do and went back to work at 6 weeks (we don't get paid in US for maternity leave). Works great and no harm done per doctor.

Yeah he's fine. Living in London at the mo studying politics. Very clever lad. Very proud of him

So you know it's wrong? You have a Crystal ball and can tell? Have you even researched virgin gut or open gut?

The 6 month guideline has been in place for ages. Longer than a lot of people like to admit.
So clearly it's pretty good.

Stop reaching.

I don't understand tagging.

I would start giving baby custard too

It's hard I'm only just learning. I thought OP was original poster but it's just the last person who commented.

I thought OP was the opening poster or post?

And me! But apparently not :/

what does it mean then!?

"OP" is the Original Post/Poster. Definitely not the last person who posted.

Tagging is not very exciting. All it does is send an email to the user you have tagged (with the @ symbol before writing their username). But, you can turn off the emails, so anyone who has done that doesn't get the notifications. It does make their username bold in your post though, even if they don't get the email.