My husband drew on my baby!

[FEJ2016]

I need some perspective from someone who isn’t me- I’ve just gone to change my 5 week old daughter and my husband has drawn in black sharpie marker pen on her stomach (he has drawn a big sun around her belly button). I am incredibly upset with him. I can’t believe he would draw on our child honestly I’m dumbfounded. It looks hideous. And how am I now supposed to take her to clinic to get weighed? It looks terrible. When I have challenged him (woke him up- it’s 3am and I was changing her before her feed) he just said ‘why is there a pen there’ and ‘I was just a bit drunk don’t overreact’.
I didn’t know he was drunk or I wouldn’t have let him anywhere near our child for a start, but seriously, am I overreacting? I think it’s the most irresponsible thing I’ve ever seen I actually feel sick.

I'd be absolutely furious. According to google, coconut oil removes it. Sorry if somebody else has already said this, I'm running late and haven't RTFT.

Larygrylls of course I know the meaning of the word vindictive. It is vengeful behaviour suggesting that he resents the baby and wanted to be cruel to it. At best he is disregarding of his child.

Your dp is s prize dick!

Get that Sharpie and write CUNT on his forehead before he goes to work, and write it nice and thick...like he is...

What a Knobster.

This is grim, he sees her body as something that he can use for drunken amusement? That is what he has done, right? Complete lack of care or regard for her.

This thread is hysterical! God only knows how some of you make it through a single day.

Do you not think it's QUITE weird for an adult to do this? Would you be so blasé about it if they did it to you?

I think it's stupid and immature.

But vindictive and abusive, no.

I think people forget just how tiny and helpless a baby is at 5 weeks. I saw a tiny newborn last week and I was surprised anew at how fragile they are. I just can't imagine the thought process that led to this.

Seriously, to those saying the OP is overreacting - can you imagine taking a baby with a line drawn across her stomach to be weighed? How do you explain that? "Oh, my husband was drunk and mistook our newborn for an etch-a-sketch". It's humiliating.

So clearly the only answer is for him to take a day of leave in order to take the baby to the weighing, and any other healthcare, appointments.

This thread has upset me pregnant hormones.

Your partner has no empathy or respect. That is a disgusting thing to do and borderline abusive. What else does he do?

I would take her to the weighing clinic and bring your dh with you. Tell the HV what he did, hopefully this will be a wake up call and he'll grow up but I personally would LTB if there is a pattern of disgusting drunk behaviour. Jesus wept.

How would people feel about a drunken boatyard painting a new born puppy or kitten?

It's abusive and frankly absurd and disturbed. Yuck.

*drunken bastard

I'd be pissed off too. Totally stupid. Hopefully he's feeling very sorry this morning.

On a practical note, my dd (3 yo I might add) squirted eosine on my 7 week old's face. Argh! Breastmilk removed it! So try that.

Oh, look, there's a sharpie pen - lets draw on the 5wk old baby?

What a complete tool! Then add into the mix of his excuse of being drunk. It beggars belief really.

Hairspray removes sharpie pen from skin - I wouldn't use it on a baby though. Baby oil before bath and it should eventually go.

I hope there isn't a reaction to the pen either?

He's a prick to get that drunk around a baby.

It’s not funny. Who does that. The markers are full of chemicals too.

Id have drawn all over him see how he reacted.

I don’t know how you deal with your man child here sorry. Just came on to say I’m sorry you are dealing with such stupidity.

I managed to mostly remove black Sharpie from toddler DD's face once after she'd gone a bit modern art on it (I had no idea she could climb so high, in my defence).

I used baby oil on clean skin. It came off pretty well, left a slight mark that I could see but to other people she merely looked slightly grubby for a few days till the remainder went.

What the hell was he doing getting drunk while in charge of the baby anyway? That's far more concerning

This is such a weird thing to do. Could he have taken drugs maybe?
And why is a drunk person looking after a baby? I agree that's the real issue

It's not really a problem unless your baby folds in half and tries to lick the sharpie off her stomach and somehow ingests it.

I'd tell him he's weird for doing that but I'd find it a bit funny.

Funny? Jesus. Not sure the person at the clinic weighing the baby is going to agree.

Yeah, I'd be cross about this. It's careless, and I felt so protective of my babies at 5 weeks I still wanted to bite strangers who got too close etc.
But in terms of actual harm, it won't have done any and the baby will be fine.

Wow!

What a prick!

Oh come on! It's a bit funny.

Draw a spunking cock on his face whilst he's asleep as revenge!