My husband drew on my baby!

[FEJ2016]

I need some perspective from someone who isn’t me- I’ve just gone to change my 5 week old daughter and my husband has drawn in black sharpie marker pen on her stomach (he has drawn a big sun around her belly button). I am incredibly upset with him. I can’t believe he would draw on our child honestly I’m dumbfounded. It looks hideous. And how am I now supposed to take her to clinic to get weighed? It looks terrible. When I have challenged him (woke him up- it’s 3am and I was changing her before her feed) he just said ‘why is there a pen there’ and ‘I was just a bit drunk don’t overreact’.
I didn’t know he was drunk or I wouldn’t have let him anywhere near our child for a start, but seriously, am I overreacting? I think it’s the most irresponsible thing I’ve ever seen I actually feel sick.

I'd be furious at DH. I'd also wait til he was asleep and draw all over him.

Christmas pudding onesies aren't ridiculous?

It's not the wisest thing for someone to do, but it probably is the kind of thing a squiffy bloke would find amusing..and he was probably egged on a bit too..I'd bet there was at least one witness to it happening, and that they were a squiffy male too. He's been a twat, no doubt..but abusive? Come on. I grew up with an abusive parent. I wish that had consisted of a sun being drawn round my belly button. It's not even close..let's be real people.

Christmas pudding onesies are not as ridiculous as drawing on a tiny baby. Bizarre thread.

I'd be fuming, he sounds like a right knob head and definitely agree with furryelephant, see how he likes being drawn on with a sharpie!

Bahhhhumbug, I had that done in hospital with cellulitis.

By a medic not your pissed father presumably Mrs

pictish

Nah. I don't fantasise that a stupid act is a stupid act. And that people who do one such ill-judged thing are likely to have done it before

Likely, not certainly, but likely.

But you did fantasise. You just painted a wee scenario in your head and posted as though you had insight. You don't. You made it up.

I find it quite funny. But it's a long time since I had a newborn.

I would love to know what the correlation is between people who are outraged in this thread and people who vacuum their houses daily and use antibacterial hand sanitizer.

It say “non-toxic” right there on the Sharpie.

mavis me too! Lots of Comedy baby moments with wigs and a stick on moustache. No toxic sharpies in sight. I don't think dd will mind when the photos surface in years to come!

I'd love to know what the correlation is between people who think drawing on your baby with permanent marker is amusing and people who find Mrs Brown's Boys hilarious.

@wingerkite Zero for one here, it's terrible.

Anyway, I said I thought it was odd, not amusing, but hardly something to inspire the level of pearl-clutching going on in this thread.

The concern isn't the chemicals in the Sharpie - it's the fact that he felt it was OK to draw, whilst drunk, on his five week old.

He needs to grow the fuck up doesn't he?

pictish

Nope. Expressed an opinion. As you are doing. Obviously

Winger nooo can't stand Mrs Browns boys!

pictish

Nah. I said I doubt his judgment has never been in question before. I was wrong, as it turns out. I sometimes am. I hope he never does such a dikish thing to his child again.

dickish

I don't care that some people don't find this upsetting. The baby's mum does, and I do. I tiny baby.

Drawing on the baby is funny as a one off.
Gently rubbing it with olive oil should help get rid of the pen if you're worried about HV.

I'd be less amused about him saying that he did it because he was drunk.

I hate Mrs Browns Boys btw.

Be interesting to hear what his mum says!

@FEJ2016

I'm so glad your DH was mortified when you spoke to him this morning and showed him most PP's responses. Dd is not a toy for his amusement, drunk or not. And drunk is not good.. she's a 5 week old baby... It's lovely to hear that MN helped you discuss it with him and that he is usually great x
Lol that his DM is a health visitor. Tell her and let her put the wind up him! (Just so he never forgets, even when drunk, what a twat he was to do it).

That is incredibly stupid. I'd have been furious. You don't know what's in those pens. She could be allergic to the chemicals. What an idiot.