Do you say 'Shut up' to your kids?

[Spidermama]

Honestly now. Do you? In what circumstances?

god no, what an awful thing to say to kids!

Not generally but I have done once or twice. It sounds horrible though.

No, don't like it at all, wouldn't want them saying it either. We say please be quiet or sssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssh.!

I do when I'm really stressed with them - I also say it to the cat - A LOT as he has a very persistent mieow.

I never swear in front of the kids though

Good grief! What paragons of virtue you all are! Yes I tell mine to shut up frequently. When they are making too much noise.

But then I am much blunter speaking than a lot of people I imagine.

No. Never dream of it. Soo disrespectful, IMHO.

ONly had to quiten dd once though, with "dd, will you pipe down a wee bit please?"

Worked. But then, she is utterly perfect!

No but do ask them to stop talking though! Having said that, ds1 (11) has just about had it with his 5 yr old brother who is constantly getting him into trouble and interrupting The Simpsons, has just come down in tears and said "he won't f*ing leave me alone mummy"

So we don't say stupid or shut up, but now we can say fuck

DDG - ??

I guess that I'm not included in the paragons DG

how old is she Pann

Yes Pann

Still ???

She is 7 years old.

Iota well, according to your post, you are still a paragon compared with me. But oh well.

In that case I should like to know your secret as my 6 year old won't

ever

shut

up

luckily I am currently deaf in one ear

Yes I've said it. It's not great and not something I'm proud of but there are worse things to say to your children.

What's so bad about "shut up"? I'm asking out of genuine interest, not to be confrontational. It's not the sort of thing I can imagine saying to a child (I don't have one of my own yet - due next month) unless they're being a total shouty nightmare, but there are worse crimes surely.

Well I think so lazyemma. I was just sitting here thinking, I wouldn't even notice how often I say it. But maybe that makes me the worst mother on Mumsnet. I don't know (or care, really). I am sure there are plenty of people out there who say it but don't want to admit it.

Just the one perfect child, is it Pann?

FFS none of you are human or your kids are saints! PLEEEASE, all this "I ask him to be quiet" or "shhhhhhh" You need to live in a real world with four kids, a busy house and a stressed mum. I bet none of your kids are teens are they?!!

I don't actually think it that's bad - there are many many far worse things to say to them,, but it is a bit rude IMO and I don't really want my children to say it, so I try to lead by example.

nope! no teens here yet!

see the vasectomy thread, Greens.

other wise there'd be millions of the little feckers!!

and usually when I say it to the kids they have ignored the politer requests and are driving me insane bickering with each other, especially in the car