sharing pictures of children online (not a mother)

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Hello all,

I am new to Mumsnet (don't have children myself, but was aware of the website before) and not sure I am posting in the right thread.
Basically, my brother is divorced and his children (2 and 3.5) were awarded by the court to his ex (who has so many issues that the court decision came as complete shock to us). He has contact once a week and I am often helping him to look after the children when he has them.
I am very proud of my nephews, despite the conflict we have with their mother, and my social networks' picture and video feed is 50% dedicated to them (and another 50% to my hobby, which I am passionate about). Normal videos like playing with toys, nursery rhymes etc, nothing questionable, all comments from my friends and relatives are also very positive and loving.
I received a barrage of messages from the mother last week asking me to remove the pictures and videos under the threat of contacting the administration, police etc. I ignored it at first, but then I thought to consult with the hive mind. Am I breaking any criminal or moral law here? The father gave me full permission to share online whatever I think is appropriate.

Thank you all xxx

I'm sure your FB friends would also be pleased if you stopped putting these pics online - I bet they're not in the slightest bit interested in a constant stream of photos of your DNs .

The childrens mother was a mail order bride. So your brother ordered her and left his fiance, who has now forgiven him and taken him back?
Anything else you want to throw in?

Far too early in the thread to be over egging the pudding like that.

"Sad story of a naive man" Omg you are hilarious!! However now i know why your poor little misunderstood brother got the "wrong " decision in court.

It's all very Jackanory !

Ah I see.

rafals that's what changed it for me too, don't feed it people.

This thread just gets worse you and you're brothers are utter arseholes

Your brother sounds like one of those deadbeat Dads who does the bare minimum but constantly posts on facebook about how much he loves his kids. Except that you are even doing that for him! This impression that you are trying to create for your friends and family, which no doubt have them gushing about how devoted and 'hands on' he is- are they aware that he only actually sees them once a week and needs your help when he does?

And mail order bride- wtf?

I've reported now.

There was no need to go that far.

So your brother dumped his fiance for a woman he knew for two months, married and had children by her, then went back to the first one, can't cope with his own children alone, insults the mother of his children at any given opportunity, has been accused of domestic violence, and a court majorly favoured the mother over him, yet he still calls ss and the police on her repeatedly, or winds you up to do it for him.

She works, looks after 2 kids, may or may not be coping with depression as well and has to deal with repeated malicious calls yet still does her best to try and protect her children from your silly mistakes and SHE is the awful one?

Turnips but it's getting entertaining now. Wonder what's next?

She's a mail order bride... why didn't you say so in your OP... that makes a massive difference to her abilities as a parent!!

FFS I've heard it all now!!!

yea, sounds to me like the mums had a very lucky escape.

mail order bride while he was engaged to someone else eh? and unable to look after his own kids for one day, and family with zero boundaries.....no head scratching as to why she got custody!

it is probably not even true.
No idea why I wasted my precious heartbeats on this one.

And yes to what greatbigwho says. Carry on the way you are and you might find yourself on the receiving end of a prohibitive steps order preventing you from seeing them at all.

Jesus Christ.
In any case, thanks to everyone who made me thinking about the issue. I certainly will be changing the settings of my feeds to private.
I did not mean he has "ordered" her, I probably used a word that is too charged. She came here with no other purpose but to marry him and they met just a couple of times in person before, is it better? They worked for the same company, but different branches (hers being in the third world country).

I started off genuinely concerned but by the time I got to the end of the thread I was crying with laughter. It's panto season apparently

Stop posting pics of her kids ffs!

Wonder if the nephews will turn out to be stuffed teddy bears.

panto season

Love it!

You didn't even consider the issue with your profile being public, you admit you posted identifying info about them, yet she is an unsuitable caregiver? Do you not concede she has a valid point and a right to be annoyed? You sound toxic and I bet you dripping poison in your brother's ear is keeping the drama and hostility going.

I appreciate you just want to celebrate being an aunt but social media is not the vehicle to do this. My sister's never post pics of my kids, even on private profiles. I understand that you feel the wider family has a right for ' news'. Social media is not the lace for this. With the parents permission I think it's ok to send a select few photos each a year to family via private email or preferably something like snapfish or WhatsApp (which has high security settings) but I would probably find this odd coming from an aunt rather than the parents themselves and I would certainly be annoyed if someone was giving anyone, even relatives a running commentary ony kids lives.

OP you sound like my ex and he is an absolutely cunt.

1. fuck off with your entitled attitude towards your newphews and this 'we' crap. They are your brothers children, HE lost. Not you.

2. fuck off with your insistence of just considering the legalities rather than the moral issues of the pictures. If one parent doesn't want pics shared online that is enough for you to not do so. If my ex said to me not to post I wouldn't. You are purposely undermining her here (and being a total dick about it)

3. fuck off with this bullshit about her not being interested becuase she works- she sounds like an absolute hero being a single parent, raising 2 young boys, working and battling mental illness (and having to deal with your shit). Honestly I applause her.

4. fuck off with your judgy pants attitude towards her mental health and ability to parent. My ex was the same, and in fact it was his continued emotional abuse of me that actually caused my MH problems and eating issues.

Seriously OP just fuck off.

Perhaps it was actually YOU that lost your brother custody of his children? Do you know a judge can see right through EA like this (documenting evidence/ discussing legalities rather than morals/ undermining the mother) and probably didn't grant custody on this basis.

My ex was exactly the same and though we haven't gone to court I've been advised that no judge in his right mind would grant custody to someone who (not relevant to your case) has a violent conviction, is aggressive, vile about the mother, EA (this constant need for proof, evidence and only considering legalities is abusive) and continuously undermines the mothers very reasonably requests.

If I was the mother, I'd be going back to court to ensure you aren't allowed within 100 metres of those children.

And I hope she sees this thread.