sharing pictures of children online (not a mother)

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Hello all,

I am new to Mumsnet (don't have children myself, but was aware of the website before) and not sure I am posting in the right thread.
Basically, my brother is divorced and his children (2 and 3.5) were awarded by the court to his ex (who has so many issues that the court decision came as complete shock to us). He has contact once a week and I am often helping him to look after the children when he has them.
I am very proud of my nephews, despite the conflict we have with their mother, and my social networks' picture and video feed is 50% dedicated to them (and another 50% to my hobby, which I am passionate about). Normal videos like playing with toys, nursery rhymes etc, nothing questionable, all comments from my friends and relatives are also very positive and loving.
I received a barrage of messages from the mother last week asking me to remove the pictures and videos under the threat of contacting the administration, police etc. I ignored it at first, but then I thought to consult with the hive mind. Am I breaking any criminal or moral law here? The father gave me full permission to share online whatever I think is appropriate.

Thank you all xxx

You would have participated in tearing two little boys away from their Mum due to your desperation for this bloke. That is pretty shameful, and you need to take a long hard look at your own motivations for going along with it, even despite your reservations.

Out of interest is he at least paying a decent amount of maintenance? Just wondering how much of a deadbeat he is.

stitch he either won't be paying because he's 'self employed' and lying about income, or he'all have been forced to pay through CSA but he'all be hard done by about it - money grabbing bitch went throughout CMA to take my money when she only lets me have one day a week.

Who's up for betting?!
This is literally shit dad/abuser bingo

Don't know what all the he"all auto corrects were all about there!!!

Then he disappears completely, until knocking on my door three years later in tears, telling me about the grave mistake he made marrying this woman

OP, I mean this kindly, but what did you do during those three years? Did you date? Have a relationship? Had you moved house? How did he know where to find you?

Because it seems to me that this man has far too much influence over you.

After cheating on you, despite all the heartbreak you had been through trying to have a child, he arrives on your doorstep years later and you not only accept him back into your life, but you unquestioningly believe his explaination, and trust him absolutely, remortgage your home, and even when you discover he has withheld info about a second child, you continue to accept his version of events regarding his wife and children. Please think carefully about why that may be.

Really hope OP start a thread in relationships to get advice and support about leaving the cuntbadger. Otherwise they'll have a "chat", where he'll spin her more lies and more thing she wants to hear and she'll keep wasting her time and money on a useless piece of shit.

You are posting children's pictures to the general public when they aren't even your children?

I'd be hopping mad.

Children and the internet were a massive part of my PhD and I can't begin to say how wrong you're being.

"We" lost custody?

How many people are present in this parenting unit?

there is something weird about the mother who does not want to show her children to the world, and indeed hide them in the dark.

Option 1: reverse
Option 2: the thing we aren't allowed to name or spot on here
Option 3: OP is a loon and quite bizarre

Op this will all end very badly for you I think.

To answer your original question it is perfectly normal to want to keep your kids photos and videos off social media and I suggest you take them off your account.

But all the other stuff-Jesus! The only evidence you have that this woman is crazy is the word of your cheating, lying fiancé. And the fact that she's from a 3rd world country .

I see your starting to question it now. Go with your gut and run away before this guy impregnates you and you become the 'crazy' one.

She does not do anything like that with them at all, just chucks them in the nursery and goes to work

You nasty nasty person OP.

I feel so sorry for this woman, she has left her own country and presumably family and friends only to be left on her own with two young children. Then her ex decides he wants full custody and to take her children hours away to live with his new fiancé. I hope she has a good lawyer. I also find it hard to believe that any lawyer wound recommend domestic abuse as an excuse to stay in the country.

You mentioned earlier about going back to court next year to retry for custody. Please don't waste your time ( and your money by the sounds of things) on this.
The mother will have proof that the father spends half his custody time with his fiance and not his children. It will just cause grief for everyone all round.

OP, please spend some time with a therapist. You need to somehow see that he is a dick, and has used/mis-treated you, his wife and his children. And his sister.
Are you still clinging on to him in the hope he can provide you with the family life you possibly feel he robbed you of before he left you?

This thread is so sad.

OP I feel so sorry for their mother, and also for you (though less because I think you've brought it on yourself to an extent).

Just step back for a minute. He cheated on you. He lied. He left you for someone younger. She says he was physically violent towards her. He gets her pregnant twice. He leaves her and comes crawling back to you. He lies to you yet again (at least by omission in not mentioning second child). He accuses the mother of his children of terrible things in court. He gets you to pay for this. The court doesn't believe him and only lets him see the kids one day a week. On that one day he will often leave them with his sister, who then photographs and videos them and posts it all over the internet with no privacy settings. And you think the mother is mentally ill???

He is no good OP. You deserve better. And it sounds like the social media stuff is an attempt to create some kind of false image about what a great dad he is, to be used against the mum later, which is pathetic and totally ignores their right to privacy.

You know he's a liar - about the affair, about how many children he has - so why do you believe everything else he says without question?