Well dd is 16 months and i'm a sahm mum. Although dh & I have gone out for nights together and left dd in bed with either set of parents babysitting we have never left her alone during the day..
Well tbh there have been a few occasions where we have gone for baby scans (ds2b due Jan07) or a mw appointment (left with my mum) BUT generally she has never been left in anyone elses care.
I am fine with this and I thought dh was until today. In a conversation this morning he thinks maybe I am quite protective of dd and maybe we need to llosen things before ds2b arrives, mainly so dd doesn;t stress when we need to leave her with my mum to go into hospital.
TBH she is fine on the odd occasion she has been left with mum and is quite a confident outgoing happy little girl. So I don't honstly see there being a problem, once pointed out dh agreed we shouldn't have a problem.
Friends of ours with kids both work and leave their kids in the care of nursery & gp's and do this on a regular basis. Not just while working but once finished at work, when they fancy a night out or even a lie in. The topic was brought up by a friend this week and I was made to feel bad coz dd has never stayed out over night or never stays alone at gp's/family etc.
I explained that as a sahm "this is my job" and one I enjoy. To send dd off to gp's to give me a break or at w/ds is not something I would consider. DH works long hours during the week so his only time with dd is w/ds, time we enjoy as a family. TBH is dd did stay out we would have no sleep for fear of worry about her etc. Typical parents concerns I think.
I'm not saying dd will never go anywhere without me but atm I feel that I want to be her main infulence and I want to enjoy precious time with her.
I'm a PND (and AND) sufferer and this is one of my side effects if you like. .
Does anyone share the same views as me ( and possibly dh).? Why should I be made to feel like a bad mother because I want to be the one who's around when she wakes, or when she goes to the park or to watch when her face lights up at big cook little cook..?
I just feel I am in such a honoured position where I don't need to work atm and I don't feel like I want to either. I want to remember my days with dd as a baby and lo and not feel like I have no control if she stays with gp's etc..