She took my kids away from me ,what a good person!

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I have been the prime carer for my kids for years ,but she was jealous because i was too close with them ,so she provoked me ,i shouted to her ,made me arrested ,she left ,took me to court ,invented all sort of allegations,the case continue...

You dont like people pointing out you are wrong do you?

You are wrong and you know this and I know this.

InAmanger i am happy that someone can read the future ,what i am doing is for my kids and for her ,if she decide to get back with me i will be their for her with a new character a new mentality a new way of thinking ,this is what im working for it ,i am concentrating on my kids for now ,i will never married again.

What allegations did she invent? Do you really think it is because she is jealous of your closeness with your DC? What happened in Court?

So did you ring the police? Or was your behaviour so abusive and threatening that a stranger felt compelled to do it?

thats great when things are fine but life is not always fine and then the cracks appear and you go back to the behaviour you know.

Why are you not answering my questions?

Im choosing to ignore the passive aggressive dig at my psychic abilities.

good night every one

He cannot, he has no answers without talking shull-bite imo!

see this is what has happened to my X

I cannot even put a e in front of that, it turns him into a real person again... I now have the delight of having Post Traumatic Stress Disorder,lovely, I thought you had to fight a war to have this, then I realised, I had been fighting a war, actually that is a lie, my Therapist had to break it down to make me believe my the X thing, keeps annoying me in my sleep.

Some terrors are quite good, I am hard in my sleep, I smashed him repeatedly over the heading, with a wedding ornament, he didn't die though....

Anyway Baileys anyone?

Told ya so........

Sorry

Yes it is night.

Leave her alone, leave the children alone.....anybody in this situation should run for the hills taking their children with them. How dare you? You wouldn't like a shouting match with me. Dont you realise how very lucky you are to even have had your children? Many of us MNetters dont have our children....many of the mums on here are bereaved Mums. Two of my four sons have died and I thank God everyday that I still have two children physically here.

How bloody dare you. Dont come here talking Jeremy Kyle language about how you didn't mean it. Grow up, shut up, and leave them alone.

From what I've read here and on the other thread you had. The reason you got arrested: is not purely for shouting, you stated in your previous thread she had a restraining order out against you.

You cannot expect this woman to give you another chance and asking her would be a very selfish thing to do. You need to let her heal and live a happy life without you.

I hope you do change and you continue to grow and change into a man someone could be proud of, but if you truly love your wife do not ask her for a second chance.

I hope you get help with your kids but instead of blaming her, prove yourself to her that you are a great dad and your kids will come to no harm with you. That's all you need to do.

If you love your wife as much as you say you do, then leave her to get on with her life without you.

Ah dear, you need some amount of abuse for a restraining order tbh! I think you may be lying a tad.

I do agree with greek though you are lucky your wife let you near the kids. I'd of ran fast and far to get away.

Of course it was her fault.... us abuse victims are unbelievable,I was shagging the postman, my neighbors husband, my friends husband, the milkman, the man in the sop, men via a PC on Mumsnet, I think I may have had bisexual tendencies as I wasn't even allowed friends, I was gonna start on her too... then the fucking dog... I am a sex siren ya know!

OP. Why did you think this forum was the best outlet given your previous?

Didyou actually think someone was going to rock up nad post 'There, there OP. You poor poor thing'

This is a place for women (and men!) who can post and get advice on hideous situations. We've seen it all. Honestly. There will be people who have been through it and will advise first hand.

Others will have read the first class advice others have given and then passed it foward to others.

You post and post and post. And despite responses you feel are in the wrong.

Nothing other than you got you arrested. If the police arrested everyone who shouted they'd be fucked quite frankly.

Leave your ex be. Leave her alone. And accept that you have to ride this out for the moment. It's of your own doing and you have to accept the circumstances.

Passes Wanking a

You cant answer me because we would all know what you are like and we would support your ex. If you dont answer you can convince yourself we know nothing.

Is it working?

Cheers Manger! I could look up this OP previous posts but meh..... that would require effort!

Hope his DexW is okay tbh.

Oh look I have wine on/in my head!

Sorry, easily amused!

I've read both threads & I just wanted to say that if your wife is on mumsnet she could be very scared at you posting here. Do you want to make her scared? Or maybe you think it's a way of talking to her whilst getting around the restraining order? Poor her, why can't you let her have her space? Her support?

If she is on here I hope she reads all the posts from the wonderful, wise and strong women who have gone through hell & back with abusive partners... And got out, & survived, & found out life gets better when the abuser is gone. I've never read a thread where a second (third/ 8th/ 100th) chance reconciling with an abusive partner ends well.

If you are serious about wanting to be a better person then it's going to take years of soul searching & relearning, it doesn't take a couple of months. And admitting your behaviour is caused by you... Not her, or anyone else is the first step, & I'm sorry but it doesn't look like you are there yet.

The thing I learnt (after many years of abuse), is that relationships really are Not That Complicated.. In a healthy relationship, with a healthy person, there is no discrepancy between feelings & actions. People mean what they do, and show through their actions what they feel... if you act nasty but say you love her really... Well, I learnt that's not love, that's abuse.

It sounds like your wife started to listen to your behaviour, & will be safer and happier for it.

Wanking your strength warms my heart, well done for getting out!

Thank you Dancing I wish I had done it years ago tbh!

Never mind onwards and upwards, apparently I still have a half a life to live.

I Cannot trust men yet though, tbh I shake when if I date them, I have tried.. I have no idea what a 'normal' relationship is tbh, married at 21, abused for 15/16 years.

DC do not wish me to ever have a man in the house again, we have a seriously tight, loving family unit here, I also would never want to risk that, I may meet/trust a man when they leave home, in 20+ years, someone to play dominoes/chess and go to the bingo with, or whatever old people do!

I love my DC so much! Very lovely even if I do say so myself, Lots of love in this house, it warms my heart too.

Some ex abusers do come on here and annoy their ex's.... it's unbelievably sick!

Oh OP you are still trying aren't you, you sad little man.

I've talked to your EX wife. I know your deal. I KNOW you're stalking her. I KNOW you're using MN to get to her because she's done the right thing and escaped you in RL.

I told you before. I'll tell you again. Abusers are bastards who deserve every bad thing that happens to them.

The police arrested you because you're a bad person. Your EX wife got a restraining order because you're a bad person. Your children have thankfully only to endure you under supervision because you're a bad person.

You may improve. I doubt it. Leopards and spots.

So you keep posting this threads thinking that you're bothering her. She's better than you in every conceivable way. And you don't like that she knows that now.

People like you don't deserve to have any sort of influence on young minds so I hope for your children's sake that you don't get more contact.

You won't get help here because you don't deserve it.

Yes MrsDeVere, that got a and a from me too.

"i am sorry for my actions" - you have to take responsibility for you actions before you can be truly sorry for them. Anything else is just cheap talk.