August Babies...part 2!

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Hi everyone!

thanks wills, I have been told by hv to go to gp for referal to a dietician.
Musica-- hi!! I have been trying to get my house in shape but it's not working.
I too wonder about our babies, They all sound so different, all doing and saying different things. But at the same time there is a similar side to them too.

Really panicking here. I've felt really sick for the last couple of weeks and constant period like pains. At first I was excited - thought my periods were about to come back but now I'm terrified we've been caught out. I've barely let DHnear me since DD2 - cos I've been scared to get pg - and now I'm terrified.

Ijust feel complete now. I can't imagine coping with another one let alone all the implications for money, moving house etc. I don't want to leave here and I can't imagine what DH will say. I feel embarrassed and ashamed like a reckless teenager, but we were really careful. But I just can't imagine how I'd cope.

We'd have had to be SO unlucky for it to happen- we took precautions and we've only done it about twice in year. But I can't think of another explanation.

I don't want to test yet. Partly because if its positive I really don't want to know. But also I can't remember when the act was so want to be sure its more than 2 weeks, otherwise I'll just say a negative is unreliable. I reckon this weekend I should be able to do it so going to get mum moved and then see.

Oh help. How can I be in this mess. This is the last thing I need. And how can I be saying these things after the struggle I had to get my other 3. But thats part of it too. I don't want to expose myself to the risk on another loss. Haven't told anybody my fears yet - not even DH. Justr so scared

Oh my goodness katherine! ((Hugs)) - I hope this resolves in the way best for you! xxx

Oh Katherine, fingers crossed for you, what a worry. Hope your mum's move goes OK.
Wills, the meet-up is on October 13th - can you still make it? It would be great to see you and pics of dds, especially dd2 in her shoes! And catch up properly. We were both pregnant with our dds the last time we met, too briefly...so sorry about work. It must be a nightmare.
Well, it seems to me that there are plenty of dainty sprites on this thread (LOL Champs I was referred for "malnutrition" too, you'd not think it now!). NO idea what dd weighs, think she is heftier than some here as she is in 18-24 months, but that is mostly height and she has great swathes of vest flapping round her body...if all these much-cherished babies are small and light, surely that just shows the charts are not representative?
Dd FINALLY stood up! I am very proud and relieved, as she was the last in our NCT group to get off her derriere (including a boy who is three months younger than her). We are getting lots of pointing and scornful headshakes when we get it wrong, not much new language though.
Better dash, dh thinks I am hanging up laundry . We ought to all CAT each other and send scanned photos, you know!
Take care all.

Oh Katherine! I know I jokingly asked last month, but I really hope it is just your hormones getting started again. and fingers crossed.

Oh KMS, Marina, thanks. I feel rotten. Can't think of anything else that could cause it. But how can I be so unlucky - we've had sex twice in 6mths!. Mind you I checked the condom packet last night and it said 2004/03 so maybe that was the problem. Still really bad luck though when I'dont even had a period.

Just don't know what to do with myself.

katherine--- please try not to be too stressed (easily said I know) I find the more you worry, the longer your period turns up, cos your stressed,iyswim.
hope it all works out for you, and if it doesn't go the way you hope, we are all here for you either way. My periods still haven't righted themselves, it can be months between and I have had some pg scares too. I felt like a teenager too and was sooo embarassed buying a test esp as chemist kept them behind a counter and i had to ask for one funny man in que pointed to his large tummy and said I must need one too!! he did break the tension, bless him

katherine-- just wondering how you are, have you had any news either way (tell me to bog of if am too personal) Hope you are feeling less stressed. (((HUGZ))))

Hi champs - thanks for thinking about me. No news yet but have broken it to DH who was very good and reassuring about it all although deeping baffled and disbeleiving too. Am going to try to get a test tomorrow but been too bogged down moving my mum so far. Was up till 2am on thursday night packing. Discovered the removal men had pinched my bed so had to "sleep" on a futon with DD2 - then got up at 6am. Agghhh. Knackered.

Still the move went OK and she is in now although she fell within hours of us leaving on the first night and they called an ambulance. She didn't hurt herself - just couldn't get up. Not a good start though! Much better than her old house though. Am going to get the Dr to see her next week and hopefully sort out an OT to look at walking frames or even a smaller chair for in the flat. There all day today unpacking and the kids were bouncing off the walls.

Broke my news to DH tongiht and he was lovely - doesn't believe it can be true though. Should definielty get an answer from testing now so hoping to get one in the supermarket tomorrow and we shall see.....

Will post as soon as I've got news...

glad your mum's settled in and wasn't hurt by fall. At least you can share anxiety with dh now he knows.

Glad your mum is more settled now. Hope your news will be good news for you, either way! How are you feeling?

It was negative!
Still feel sick though.

How do you feel about that katherine?

maybe you should book an appointment with your gp if you feel ill, could be premenstrull(sp) symptoms at all?

Hi Katherine,

Glad that you had the result you were hoping for or had you come round to the idea???? I agree with Champs. To be honest hearing all that you've been going through don't you think your symptons could be stress/tiredness?

Good luck with everything and thinking about you even if I can't get on Mumsnet so often now.

Also agree with Champs and Wills, Katherine. You have had so much to contend with lately, maybe stress is taking its toll. (Although false negatives are not unheard of...)
Sorry to hear of your mum's fall, really hope she is feeling better soon and settles well.
Wills, are you coming on Wednesday?

Will do my best to be there Marina. Dh is having an op on Tuesday to check he's still free of cancer etc. As long as that goes well I'll be back to work on Wednesday and I'll see you for lunch. Will do my best in terms of photos. Hoping my printer still has ink. DD1 has recently worked out how to use the printer and also has a Barbie computer horse game. Found her printing out the entire stable the other day! Only has 40+ A4 size pictures of horses!!!!

Should have added. She told me they were for her room above the stables when we move house next. Told her Mummy needed to win the Lottery first but she didn't really understand - bless.

Oh, all the best for tomorrow Wills. Really hope for a good outcome! LOL at your dd's printing prowess

Hi all. I would say that I was bracing myself rather than getting used to the idea so I'm really releived. I'm not saying I NEVER want another - but right now there is too much else to deal with and I do feel complete at the moment. So there was a HUGE sigh of releif here.

I think you may be right that it is stress related although it should be subsiding now and its not. Also it might be premenstrual - but if so its going on a long time. There is still a slight worry in that it took 5 tests with DD1 to confirm so I got a 2 pack to repeat in another weak if I still feel bad. But I am pretty sure that I hung on long enough that it should have showed up if I was - and the test I did could be used 3 days before your period so I'd be really really shocked if it was wrong.

Thanks for all your support.

Mum is settling in fine now. I've popped in each day so far which is a bit tying but its early days and I'm sure we'll compromise eventually. There is still loads to do but everything apart from the spare room looks really homely now. And mum is looking better than I've seen her for ages.

Wills you poor thing. My stress seems insignificant. Hugs.

Marina, I'm sorry I'm going to let you down and not be there tomorrow. As if the stress of work and my mother were not enough.... Unfortunately we had some really bad news today. DH's cancer is back. A tumor has been removed and the consultant is 99% sure. Typical I came home to an email from my mother saying that unless I come to her for Christmas and get rid of my Nanny she doesn't want to know me anymore. Not sure she could have picked a worse day to drop that bombshell. Talking of bombshells I am feeling a little shell shocked at the moment. Can't even cry yet. Am not going into work tomorrow cos I really don't feel up to it.

Katherine - don't be silly, stress is still stress and I think you have also been through tonnes. The death of your father, your mother moving, issues with your dh. You sound like someone who is solidering on - well don't - pamper yourself a little more.

Maybe we should all meet up for the weekend - and meet each other's kids

Oh Wills thats awful. You poor thing. What happens now? You must be all over the place.

Wills, oh NO. I am so very sorry to hear this. I wish there was something practical any of us could do for you. Sending you masses of supportive thoughts and prayers. Your mother really is the PITS, what impeccable timing.
I missed lunch too because dd has a monster cold with fluorescent stuff coming out of nose, ears and eyes, and am parked at home.
I will CAT you and the others (maybe in stages to avoid being removed from Justine & co's Christmas card list [wink} about all trying to meet up sometime. It would be lovely - we only had those few minutes of conversation in Ozer that time - and to meet everyone else too.
Give us an update when you can.

Oh Wills, I was so hoping not to read this. All my thoughts are with you both at the moment. Don't worry about your mother's email - there are more important things to think about. And she should realise that. (I know, easier said than done). Seriously though, lots of best wishes from me, and let us know how things are going. xxxxxxxx

wills!! I have just seen this I am really sorry this happened. you must be all over the place. I am glad the consultant has such a positive idea of how it went. please just ignore your mums email for now you and your dh, and kid(s) are what matters right now.
Also sending hus and prayers to you all.

Katherine--- take wills advice and take time out for you.`