Sept Mums ......part one

[wiltshire]

I thought I would start a new one

very jealous adell of full time school for oldest child, meg is driving me up the wall

great news that little man is drinking his bottles again

Help Girls! What can I do to stop myself from crying on Monday, I go back to work and my baby goes to nursery for the first time. I am so nervous, goodness knows what I'll be like on Monday. Jenny is going to nursery for 4 days, and having 1 day each week with Nan & Grandad.

Oh poor Ailsa, I really feel for you. Do need/want/have to go back to work??? I hope thats not insensitive. They do say kiddies can thrive in nursury with lots more things to do, and they can get into a mess with paint and all sorts , which they may not be able to do at home. Oh worried I sound condescending , its just that my neice is a lunatic and she loved it. She said to my sister , "Mummy can I go to school on Saturday to" !!!

Oh Ailsa, I hope it goes OK. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you on Monday. I think if it was me I'd try to leave a good gap between dropping her off and getting to work and take a packet of tissues and a couple of slices of cucumber as I'm totally incapable of crying without my eyes going puffy and my face all blotchy. Sorry I'm no help.

Melsy, no, not insensitive at all. I'm just feeling a bit emotional at the moment, it's hit home as I made the final decision today about which nursery to use and booked it.

Don't want to go back as Jenny's been a dream baby, but, I need to go back for financial reasons. I've been looking at the finances and we'd still be better off even with paying more or less full time fees, as dh can't guarantee the amount of overtime he gets. They have asked at his work for volunteers for redundancy, hopefully it won't get to the stage of having to make compulsory redundancies, I think they said there will be more definite information about March/April.

I had already decided on a nursery, but something at the back of my mind was telling me that I shouldn't book it. I started ringing round a few more this week, looked at websites, read OFSTED reports etc, and decided on the one I visited today. It is lovely, even MIL likes it. It is nice and bright, lots of paintings on the walls, the children all seemed happy and the staff were happy. For some reason I knew I was going to like it before I visited, even though it's going to cost me £20 a week more for a day less, I am much happier with my decision now.

DD1 and DS both went to nurseries from the ages of 10weeks and 14weeks until they went to school. I'm sure that Jenny will be happy, she had no problem dishing out smiles to everyone at the nursery today.

Anyway, I'm waffling, DD1 is pestering me to let her hamster out for a run.

Adell, that's a great idea, I work flexi-time so, here's the plan for monday morning - Drop DD1 & DS off at MIL's, take Jenny to nursery for about 8.15ish, go to Tesco's up the road for a fry-up, (The diet will be off on Monday - a comfort food day me thinks!) Get to work somewhere between 9.00 & 9.30, finish at 4.00pm, I think I've got a couple of hours owing to me.

The pre-school kids at the nursery are so sweet, it was snack time when we were there, they were all sat in a circle on the floor waiting for their drinks, and one of the little boys was working his way round the circle handing out the biscuits. Then, just as we were leaving the same kids were getting ready to go outside to play, they sat on the doorstep two at a time to put their wellies on, they were so well behaved - no pushing or shouting. The nursery's got it's own bit of woodland and a stream, so they get to wo on nature walks. That's a while off for me, but they've got loads of old coach (?) built prams so that the babies can get some fresh air too.

Ailsa, I have absolutley no advice for you but just wanted to say how brave I think you are. Honestly.
I hate leaving them with anyone, even DH sometimes incase he does something different to the way I do it.
Yes I know thats ridiculous and also I know I need to get a life beyond being a mum!

I sure Jenny will love it, it sounds like a lovely nursery, the sort of place I would choose if I was brave enough.

Sorry, I've probably made you feel worse now haven't I.......sorry, sorry, sorry.

Emma - no you haven't, I've had to get over that one for now as I am trying to decide whether to tell DS that I've just gone to feed his guinea pig and it's died! We had tears from DD1 Monday evening and all day at school yesterday because her hamster died on New Years Eve - she got a new one yesterday, as did DS.

Ailsa,that sounds like a good plan for Monday - I especially like the sound of the fry up bit, will dream about that tonight !. You poor, poor thing with these animals, what a nightmare. DD's cat got run over, she was so upset. Hope things improve very soon.

Hello everyone! I hope you're all doing o.k.
I can't believe people are going back to work already. Has it been that long already!? It seems only last week I was posting about BH.

Good luck at work Ailsa! Look on it as nice break rather than painstaking drudgery.

Sams back at playgroup tomorrow The last time I left that place, ds1 was screaming and I was nearly in tears, I don't know if I can face those people again. I have quite enjoyed having him at home actually so I'm more than tempted to keep him at home. Sorry thats a bit o/t. Babies! Right well hes getting chubby! Maybe hes preparing for crawling I don't know, we'll never really know because he never gets a chance to be on the floor long enough. I'd hate to think what ds2 might do to him if I left him to kick about.
Still no teggies. They are really bothering him now.
He had his first taste of pear the other day when he grabbed mine and started knawing on it, he was covered in it, I don't know if any of it ended up in his stomach though.
Anyone thinking about solids yet? We are going to leave it a couple of months yet, I think. he seems to want to join us at meal times though and I feel really guilty.
Is anyone still breastfeeding? Angelmother where are you?

bekkikay?.....is that you cherubs/pixidust? got a bit of an identity crisis going on have you

I was trying to put off weaning for as long as poss but the last 2 nights James has woken at 4:30am for a bottle and that's after draining most of them during the day so maybe my plan has been scuppered!

I was chatting to Wilt last night on MSN, she's fine, so we just need to find Angel now. Where are you Angel?

Yeah big time crisis. It won't let me go back to Bekki now.
Emma apparentlyy ou just have to go with the flow when they are going through their third growth spurt and not turn to solids. Easier said than done though.
Has anyone seen the thread on pregnancy? Theres a new Sept pregnancy thread. Can you believe its been that long?

Bekki, I posted a little note on the new Sept PG thread. I'm really jealous of them!

I tried James with a tiny bit of rice today, and I mean tiny. Suffice to say about 80% of it was dribbled or spat out but he didn't screw his nose up at it. I doubt it will make any difference to his sleeping as it was such a small amount. I'll leave for a while now I think as he didn't seem to bothered about it......mind you he wouldn't would he he's never had it before. Silly me!

hi everyone! miles started on babyrice on tuesday after a week or so of 40oz hungry baby milk a day and still not content. He greeted it like a long lost friend - from the first mouthful he had a HUGE smile on his face and ate the lot without getting ANY on his bib! Today (day 3) he had a MASSIVE bowl, and so he is moving onto 2 meals a day and pear tomorrow!
Was a bit sad when he had his first mouthful - where has my newborn gone? Also couldn't believe it when I say the "due in Sept" thread.... sigh

Well, my plans to delay weaning a bit longer have had to be scrapped.
I went to the baby clinic today and James has only put on 3oz in 11 days! The HV said that this is probably a sign that the milk just isn't enough anymore.
Gutted really as I wanted to keep him a 'baby' as long as possible.
I made him a bit more than a teaspoon's worth and he ate it all, without really spitting any out, and the whole bottle has gone too. Hopefully he'll put on loads before the next weigh in.

emma, if you don't want to wean him, and he is happy and content, then don't! why are you still getting him weighed anyway? I've never been to the baby clinic, and lent my own baby scales when ds2 was 10 wks (as he was obv fine). Now if I'm a bit interested, I weigh myself, pick up ds and weigh myself again - so I know vaguely how many pounds he is. Should I be weighing him and paying attention to how many oz he is putting on if he is 17 weeks and obviously thriving?

What do all the rest of you do?

OKay ...I admit it.......with all 3 I have been one of those obsessive mothers who gets them weighed every week! I'm being very good this time and managing to limit myself to fortnightly. Think I should chill a little bit really, don't I?

Don't know what to do about weaning really

I have been to the baby clinic once so far, when he was round about 11 weeks. I'm working on the principle if he looks and feels bigger than he's probably doing OK. If you didn't know how much weight he'd put on Emma, would you still feel that he needs weaning from his other behaviours ?

Sorry about the name change, mentioned MN to a few people recently and thought I should change.

Adell

BTW PPH, I love the long lost friend thing!

I really didn't want to wean him yet but after today I think that maybe he did need it after all.
Over the last few days he hasn't slept very well during the day (a week or so ago he'd have one long sleep of about 2 hours and a few little 15 minutes snoozes) we've just had lots of little 5-10 mintues naps.

Today after his lunchtime rice I could hardly keep him awake, and he's still drinking all his milk so it seems my little man has taken the descision out of my hands.

where has my tiny baby gone........

every week?!! I'm just TOO lazy for that. Bad mother!
The pear today was funny - baby rice he just accepted (presumeably because it just tastes like formula) but on the first spoonful of pear he looked incredibly shocked! He spent ages with his nose wrinkled up sort of chewing it over in his mouth and looking very dubious, but by the third mouthful he had decided it was delicious. Cue enormous smiles again.

I think he is going to be a pie-eater

Ailsa, just wanted to wish you luck for tomorrow, will keep my fingers crossed. Let us know how it goes.

Ditto Kitty......I was thinking about you today Ailsa, hope it goes well tomorrow.

Thanks Kitty & Emma, I've changed my mind now and I'm going to work straight after dropping Jenny at nursery. I had a phone call from nursery to arrange a settling in visit for Jenny, that was Friday, so I left her there for an hour and went into the office to make sure I'm going back to the same desk etc. On my way out, the section manager walked past and asked if I was looking forward to coming back, I just looked at her and said, "Do you want a truthful answer?" She said not to bother answering! I just hope they've got plenty to keep me busy, if there's one thing I hate it's not having enough to do. I've also booked Friday off so that I can go to the Birmingham meet-up.