2 1/2 year old on naughty step for 3 hours - now asleep!

[kitpuss]

My little boy spent has been on the naughty step for 3 hours, refusing to say sorry. Now he's asleep on the floor next to it.

We only had 10 minutes of tears during the whole 3 hours, he sat there pretty happily but kept saying "not say sorry".

I've not really used the naughty step much before and now have no idea what to do when he wakes up.

So to any experts on naughty step procedure - should I just forget about it and get on with the afternoon or should I still be trying to get him to say sorry?!

The OP's son sounds cool. He sat there for 3 hours and repeated "not say sorry". That is a boy with an iron will. Bless him.

BitofFun your post is exactly why I got deleted! I referenced the same post - she talked about the naughty step for a 2 year old with her elder child, and in reference to something that the rest of the posters wouldn't consider 'naughty' behaviour. And I said that I thought it demonstrated that she had inappropriately high expectations of two year olds.

But I expect there was a REALLY good reason for my first deletion. Perhaps saying that someone should re-adjust their expectations of their children is a personal attack?

When you use the naughty step you are not labelling the child as naughty, you are labelling the behaviour as naughty.

I don't enjoy using the naughty step either (what parent enjoys any kind of discipline) but it is effective for DS1 (3.5yrs) and I rarely use it now. He is a seriously determined, feisty, strong willed child, anything less did not and would not work. He does not care if you tell him off or say no, only having all attention removed worked/s. It is not cruel- different things work for different children.

There is nothing wrong with calling naughty behaviour naughty behaviour. I actually liked the ideas behind attatchment and unconditional parenting but in reality they do not work for my child.

More than anything I want my child to be happy and well adjusted- he needs to understand what is and isn't acceptable behaviour in order to get along with his peers. Ignoring, distracting, firm 'No's'- none of this worked for him.

Some children will test boundaries WAY MORE than others and for children like this the naughty step can work.

For those of you who imply it's cruel or ineffective, well, maybe other things work on your children but don't assume all kids are the same and that other methods are inferior. It's arrogant.

Totswilde - strange post considering this thread is 31/2 years old.

Exactly, why drag up a three year old thread?

Totswilde, calling 99% of posters "cattle" is very unpleasant and aggressive of you. Not to mention arrogant. So what if you say you've got a PHd, MA, BSc or whatever, doesn't mean that you now have permission to be vile to other people.

And the irony of saying that you don't post to belittle people - you've called posters stupid and "cattle" in your one post!

I got reported the other day for a one word post that I made over two years ago.

And even MNHQ didn't realise it was a zombie. And they sent me a kind warning - my first ever.

Something is quite strange on MN at the moment.

Hmm... How strange.

It's probably the MRAs again or Ched's little gang. Resurrect a thread, insult MNers en masse, and try to pick off the posters who have been around awhile and have opinions not resembling a doormat.

linerunner and this is why we don't want chat threads to hang around forever.

Amen to that.

Ha, totswilde has all those spare letters aye right but doesn't seem to know how to capitalise her sentences. Highly amusing.

totswilde

"despite having children AND a relevant PhD, MA, and BSc (which by any standard, make me more of an 'authority' than 99% of the cattle who post here).

What a pompous, arrogant, self-important, conceited bitch!

Oh dear. OP sounds like you've made a really bad mistake.

But I doubt the child is going to be scarred for life by this.

Super nanny, by the way, is a complete witch. 'Naughty step' is such a horrible concept. Telling a small child that they're naughty and leaving them to cry? I don't think so.

We do have time outs, go and sit on time out and think about your behaviour type thing, we used to have it for 2 minutes, but now it's more a 'come back when you're ready to be good' type thing to snap him out of certain behaviours. He cries, shouts, sometimes laughs, then comes back in and says 'I'm ready to be good' we say ok, forget about it, and he only goes back on time out if he repeats the same behaviour.

It's a zombie thread.

my daughter, at 32 months

Do what?

Zombie thread alert!

This thread's three years old.

Move along, please. There's nothing to see here.