2 1/2 year old on naughty step for 3 hours - now asleep!

[kitpuss]

My little boy spent has been on the naughty step for 3 hours, refusing to say sorry. Now he's asleep on the floor next to it.

We only had 10 minutes of tears during the whole 3 hours, he sat there pretty happily but kept saying "not say sorry".

I've not really used the naughty step much before and now have no idea what to do when he wakes up.

So to any experts on naughty step procedure - should I just forget about it and get on with the afternoon or should I still be trying to get him to say sorry?!

Colditz - Was that to me? I was saying the harsh replies were warranted not the punishment.

Maybe she honestly thought this was what she was meant to do.

No PR not aimed at you

I have a toddler of exactly the same age, who is one of the best behaved children of that age I know.

And there is no way in the world that she would stay put for three hours! I mean, I've never tried a 'naughty step' - in part because I don't believe in them, in part because she never does anything that needs 'punishment'. But she'd just get up and walk away, surely? What were you doing, picking him up and returning him every five minutes? Threatening further punishment if he moved? Is he just really cowed?

I actually think that whilst demanding an apology from a two year old is alright, thinking that a refusal is grounds for punishment is a bit off, as well. I can't really articulate what bothers me so much about that, but it's...well, it seems like a power game.

"Maybe she honestly thought this was what she was meant to do"

Which is more worrying that if she didn't, and merely lost her rag, because if she thinks thgis is how you are supposed to treat tiny children, it doesn't bode well for the rest of his life.

Supernanny does make kids wait until they say sorry, but those children are much, much older (and its still borderline abusive and at best extremely controlling IMO).

My DD is the same age, and she wouldnt stay.If this is realy and he stayed there for three whole hours he must be fucking terrified to not have moved.

In that case TheOriginalFab she should have read about it and made sure she understood the technique before using it and ditto threatened DH with 49mins on the back step as no internal stairs the other day as he didn't listen

I'm going to try hijack a little bit if thats okay, as this thread seems to be getting quite a bit of traffic

My DS is only one, so don't do anything at the moment, but those of you with older DCs who don't use the naughty step - what do you do? - I'm not that keen on the idea.

I dont - the naughty step is a shit idea thought up by some self styled 'child expert' who pretends she knows everything while acting like a pompous bitch.

Err google this kind of thing and look into it fully before attempting it. A 2 year old ffs! I doubt the child even knows wtf sorry means.

If she's a long term poster surely she knows how to use a naughty step? Or has she not been actually reading?

I do use time out (we have no steps) with my 2 year old but it's 2 minutes in his play pen (no toys) and then straight to cuddle.

I also want to know how you made him sit there for 3 hours.

I agree Daisy talk about wading in to join a kicking.

I hope the OP didn't come back and read that comment. She'll already be feeling pretty wretched after reading this lot.

Way to support someone who might need a little help people.

Iam not bothered about supernanny but...
Supernanny was actually where I learnt the minute for each year thing, so the OP's excuse for the 3 hours is bollocks.

Can we remind you of the talk guidelines? We'd appreciate it if you'd use the same courtesy when posting messages on Talk as you would use when speaking to someone face-to-face. Please do bear in mind how difficult this parenting business can be, and if there's one thing all of us could do with, it's some moral support.

There was NO personal attack in my deleted post, there was NO profanity, and I want an explaination as to why it was deleted please.

There was NOTHING that I wouldn't say to someone's face in the same RL situation. It was genuine advice. It was nothing along the lines of the poster not deserving children. On what grounds was it deleted?

We use the naughty step and it works for us. I think waiting for a sincere apology means you are punishing a different behaviour than the one dc was on the step for, so becomes counterproductive. When he wakes, just say , remember not to ....... ( whatever he did in the first place) love you. And do something nice so you can both move on and have a good rest of the day. Next time, if he doesnt apologise, just say, thats a shame, I think you should be sorry. And end the naughty step.

Keep going, parenting is hard and we all make mistakes