2 1/2 year old on naughty step for 3 hours - now asleep!

[kitpuss]

My little boy spent has been on the naughty step for 3 hours, refusing to say sorry. Now he's asleep on the floor next to it.

We only had 10 minutes of tears during the whole 3 hours, he sat there pretty happily but kept saying "not say sorry".

I've not really used the naughty step much before and now have no idea what to do when he wakes up.

So to any experts on naughty step procedure - should I just forget about it and get on with the afternoon or should I still be trying to get him to say sorry?!

OK guys, I have obviously got the whole thing completely wrong.

I get the message.

I genuinely thought that was how you are meant to do it, that is how it always looks on supernanny.

I'm not going to read any further posts now, I'm feeling quite upset by some of your responses when I was only trying to do the right thing.

And as I said, he wasn't upset, only for 10 mins, just to be clear I would not have left him there crying for 3 hours.

Some of you can be really horrible to other mothers who are only asking for help while trying to do their best.

Why did the naughty step involve ten minutes of tears?

I doubt the OP is going to come back to this but I'd really like to hear her version of what she thinks the naughty step process is, because it sounds like it has gone spectacularly wrong. I don't use it myself but allow CM to use it for DS as she uses it for other mindees and I don't want to undermine her by asking him to be treated differently. She doesn't do it like that.

OP take these comments to heart, cry, get cross with yourself. Then maybe you can chnage yourway of thinking.

Oh look, she did come back. Briefly.

Seriously, how did you think a three hour long punishment was appropriate for a two year old?

I'm amazed you managed to get him to sit still for that long. We gave up on naughty step as they had to be restrained all the time, kind of messed it up when they both misbehaved or we had to leave the house.

3 hours is way too long though.

It sounds like you're listening too much to other people and not going with your gut and adapting things to your own son. It's good that you're trying to be firm but if you'd stop and thought for a minute you would have seen that your DS clearly hadn't a clue what was going on and probably thought it was some sort of game or something (particularly as he wasn't crying). 2 minutes is the absolute maximum for him to be on the step in one go. Saying sorry isn't essential. You've tried your best but you've made a mistake. Learn from it and move on.

"Some of you can be really horrible to other mothers who are only asking for help while trying to do their best."

The same applies to the way you have treated your child today!

You have been vile to a very tiny child who is only asking for help whilst trying to do his best!

Do not listen to Supernanny. She has no kids of her own. Some of her advice is not asseptable.

Ok, but do you understand it now?

Try not to feel too bad - one of the hardest lessons in parenting is to move on quickly after a consequence as adults remember (and feel angry and hurt longer) than a child - children forget really quickly.

Maybe should have looked into it a bit first befor trying it?

Supernanny always always says 1 minute per year of their life.

tbh sometimes being harsh is the only way to get the point across.

On another point you implemented a method (shit method by the way), you didnt even know how to do?

Yes, some harsh replies. But somewhat warranted don't you think? What was your instinct telling you?

I threatened DH with the naughty step and 38 minutes is a long time..

Pmsl at 'asseptable'.

it can't be a real thread!!!

i'm not really interested in what he did to warrent being there, I cannot imagine it was anything of any note.

But he was there for 180 minutes, which is ninety times longer than he should have been there, if at all.

I want to know what you did to him to make him stay there.

The OP has been posting on MN for years. Unfortunately I think it's real.

Nah...I dont buy it. OP comes out with a totally unreasonable thing which she's done...and then is very reasonable about accepting she is wrong....it doesn't wash.

If...IF...she really thought this was normal....she wouldn't be posting on here and then accepting that it was wrong so easily as someone who thought this ws ok to do...is either abusive or unbalanced. Or both.

so a 3 minute 'sit and think time' involved 10 minutes of crying / distress and a furthur 2hrs 50minutes of sitting alone