MN Little Italy 21

[BananaGio]

Ciao tutte!!

I'm here!!! Munching a big piece of focaccia to fight the cold!

How are you feeling today Gio?

Gosh yes, negativity is so draining... and it destroys you. I really hope I won't make similar mistakes with my dc (my mother is the biggest pessimist I've ever met).
Yes, you really want to shake them up. Also, our parents generation had it so good in Italy (consuming all the resources for us, thank you very much ) how can they complain so much.

Very cold here and foggy. More snow is predicted. Can I say che palle?

agree with parents generation here Franca! When I look at the pension FIL has from a standard state job,it makes me . He gets a third again of what DP earns. And we get lots of "luckily for you I was sensible and bought this apartment so at least your child will have something secure from me in the future" as if the reason he bought and we havent has nothing to do with the fact that a) he could pretty much buy his apartment outright from the money left to him by his Mother and b)house prices now in Rome compared to average wages-don't get me started oh and C) we have to live in one of the most affluent areas in Rome so we are within a few minutes from him.
I think I need to stop with this anger actually or I am going to turn into one of those bitter, negative people I find so draining . Think I am channelling my worry re DP into anger at FIL.
Lovely day in Rome Franca but rain and storms forecast for next few days so will join you in saying CHE PALLE. Also if it is chucking it down tomorrow it will make my plan to meet DP after docs more difficult because will erupt into a how can you bring DS out in the dangerous rain type of argument.

as in I agree with you re parents generation Franca not I agree with the fact they have used up all the resources

Lol at "how can you bring DS out in the dangerous rain type of argument."... my mum has been asking me week in week out: "are you taking the dc to swimming lesson in this cold?"

you evil mother Franca, how could you .

I know, I'm awful

Hello, marking place and laughing about the potentially fatal rain....my niceish-but-bonkers neighbour (remember the one who wanted lessons for the 18mth old) gave birth to child 2 in September and hasn't left the house since! (except in car, for doctor's) She has live-in help (hesitate to say nanny because this is just some poor 16 yr old) to ferry child 1 to school and dance.

Pagella tonight! Anticipate lots of hysteria in the schoolyard tomorrow morning.....

Terrible mum alert .....minirosa took her gloves off ( for the xxxxxx time) and MIl found she had cold hands. She does have a pumino sacco but of course when she is awake she will not keep them in there ! Mind you MIl was brill ieri couldn't have done the crowds without her so I will accept the glove warning !
Pippi Bicarb is fab . I got milk sick out of my mattress ! If it doesn't come out the first time rub some in damp almost like a paste and then leave it to dry and hoover.
Gio I would be out side docs as well and then tell him that you know as FIL blabbed etc and you diddn't want to worry him before the docs appt so you kept quiet but you are nevr doing it again as you felt so shi**y.
SUnny here but a mega cold wind so cold I wanted tights under my trousers as my bum was cold and I had my long coat on !

lol lol lol at your neighbour ... oh gooooooooood. And what about: "non correre che sudi" wtf?

Rosa tell your mil that I didn't even bother buying gloves to my children until they were old enough to understand that they shouldn't take them off (evil)

Hi everyone, just catching up, Gio very on your behalf with your FIL, wtf.

just marking my place

hellooooo

Gio, can I just say at your FIL. I cannot believe doctor discussed your dp's results with his father! what is he, 6? I am really shocked. But you are wise to say that you shouldn't let his negativity turn you negative. And i really really hope that whatever came up in your dp's tests is nothing serious.

LOL at rain! people are bonkers. Mind you I am starting to find that my children are seriously british wild compared to swiss expectations re children. They are expected to be uber civilised at playgroups, for example (nad parents restrain them from playing freely! ), a snotty nose causes consternation, and yesterday dh saw a father put a helmet on a child before letting him on the swings.

Am a bit depressed today . Job search is going nowhere, i think here it's a big mafia you can only get a job if you know someone. and i don't know anyone and i have no prospect of meeting anyone as i am stuck with the children all the time. People are incredibly rude and unfriendly. the whole city is grey, desperately uncool, and disorganised (by london standards). I miss London desperately. I feel completely useless, i can't do anything, I feel lonely, I don' know, I just hate this. Plus having to ask my dh for money for the hairdresser (which i haven't done yet, but will ahve to soon as i am starting to look like Cruella deVil) depresses me to now end.

Sorry. rant over.

Oh MM feel sorry for you and as for holding back children at playgroup !!!!
Something will come up so hang in there and keep sending the CV out What work are you looking for ?
Just loked at the weather forecast and more snow is due mid week...Noooo

lol at helmet on the swings (I thought it was the english who were totally obsessed with health and safety )

Sorry to hear you are feeling so down Masseuse. I'm sure you'll get a job, give it time my dear, you know we are slower on the continent!
Is Geneva so depressing? I've never been, I'd have thought it was clean, and organized, nice shops, a bit bland...

LOL at helmet! And Dangerous rain!
The other day at the playground there was a mother say "no, non andare li, è umido". I mean not even wet, umido! They must think I am barmy for letting DS splosh through muddy puddles. Mind you,I think they're barmy for driving around with their kids with no car seats, so we are even.

MM sorry to hear it's not going so well, you should talk to your DH about finances.

Geneva is awful. it's clean, i'll give you that. Not organised, shops are either ultra luxurious or abysmal (no middle ground), and not just a bit bland, but completely characterless.

In fact, I hate it

MM .

btw what does your dh thinks. Does he like it? I know he has a job and so a purpose but does he miss London as well or is he happy there? How long is this move supposed to be for?

am so sorry you are having such a tough time MM. Was going to ask the same as Pippi, what does DH think? What are you looking for job wise and in what field? What are you doing in terms of sending CVs- are you applying to specific jobs/sending to companies on spec? Have you registered with any agencies?

Dh doesnt have to like the city, he likes his job so thats it as far as he's concerned, dont think he misses london. Jobwise i've applied to 40-50 so far, both direct and through agencies, but only rejections or no answer. There is nothing n my field and the mentality here is not so flexible so change of career/ specialisation not something people understand or encourage. Tbh i dont even want to work, i just need a sense of purpose... Plus my own money to finish laser on legs

mm, sorry, that's sounds very depressing. how long were you planning to stay?

there's no end date, if dh's job turns out well and he doesn't get bored again potentially forever. Although we said that if we don't like it after 1 year we'll go back, in practice i suspect if i don't like it for existential reasons and dh does we'll end up staying.

I am contemplating having no 3 just for something to do (what a great reason...), or possibly starting to take drugs

sorry, i suck, don't show up for ages and then when i finally do i sound like a broken record of self pity

Also, while I'm wallowing, need advice on this dilemma

well, then think that in a year you will go back and see this as your long extended holiday, do a course whilst you you look for work...not sure about no3, won't that send you over the edge , then again if you are really broody....tell dh, you will go back without him and take the kids, and he can be a geneva weekend dad, see how he likes that...

let me check your dilemma