Wonderful Mnetters do you have any of these things spare and would be willing to post them to Trinity Rhino

[eandh]

Following on from the thread that started about shoes and escalated to nearly 500 posts and a boden coat Trinty has emailed me back and we have finalised the list of things needed, if people have these things/have sent them could you post on here so I can amend the list and ensure Trinity doesnt get 345 sippy cups but no tights for dd2

Trinity's wish list
Tights - ages 9-10, 4-5/5-6, 2-3/3-4
socks - sizes 6, 8 and 10
sippy cups -
sheets - single/double or kingsize
bedding - single/double/kingsize
clothes 12/14
adult shoes - size 6,
baby clothes for DSS2's May arrival,
towels
forks
asda vouchers,
chick lit
John Grisham
Toys for the dog to chew :-)
Large saucepans (lots of people to feed in that house!!)
Beautiful Boden COat - sorted by fab mumsnetters

If anyone would like to donate funds (we have enough to get Trinity her new coat and a little bit spare) the paypal address is [email protected] and anything we collect now will be sent to Trinity as Asda vouchers to help with Christmas food/bits shop (I asked Trinity how she would prefer the funds spent and this was one of the ideas and she would really appreciate this)

Thankyou all!!

BitMiffedReally....I hate to say this but I can see where your coming from. I also happily donated to original collection but won't be contributing to this one for a few reasons. It's up to the individual isn't it.

Folks - if any of you don't like/agree/feel comfortable with what is going on please keep it to yourselves and hide the thread.

ikindofagree.....

Good God, keep it to yourself love. I will happily give you whatever you donated.

The cheek of a struggling widow, broken hearted and striving to keep her family from falling apart, explaining to her children why they won't see their Daddy again, compiling a list that was begged for to help mners help her, as they all expressed a desire to assist someone facing, most of our, biggest fear.

when I was stuck in Kazakhstan for Xmas and new year 3 years ago some lovely mumsnetters clubbed together and arranged for a parcel of stuff to be sent out to me.

I was so moved I cried.

I'd like to pay that back because it makes me feel good to do it. Thanks very much for making me feel like an idiot for offering some second hand childrens bowls and plates and a few second hand books.

It's not like TR is some flybynight poster who no-one has heard of who's just chancing her arm. Shame on you who feel the need to voice your reservations publically in this situation.

Makes me feel like donating more just to spite you and your mean-minded ways...

and I should add that I has seen planty of threads where people are donating to MN'ers I don;t know or am slightly sceptical of and I've not donated and kept my mouth shut about it.

Would you like to come around and check what charity donations I make - see if you approve of them all?

bitmiffed and ikindofagree

SHAME ON YOU

good post kew

I hope you two are happy with yourselves for probably upsetting someone who already has enough to deal with. You should be ashamed. If you want to think it then thats up to you, but no need to post it.

Trinity didn't ask for this stuff, people offered. She's doing me a favour by helping me to empty the big box of stuff that I have in the spare room that I've never got round to ebaying/charity shop/whatever. I would much rather it goes to Trinity.

Trinity what dress size is dss's gf? I am clearing out maternity clothes, they are 18-20

bet they'll be too big...

I would just like to add that I have met Trinity, and had met her DH previously. She is real. She is struggling, and I added stuff to the list that I know she needs (or would just like, so shoot me) beause I have been to her house since her DH died.

What's the point in voicing your opinion on this thread? dont like it? sod off!

Did we ever decide on wether a boots voucher would be any good or just tsco?

though sating that, tesco is cheaper then boots i think!

Trinity i have a bottle (unboxed) of kate moss's perfume, unused, as i didnt like the applicator (you kindve wipe it using a stick as opposed to spraying it)

Dont know if ou like it but you are more then welcome to it!...was ashamed to say i liked it...and paris hiltons! (damn celebs!)

Dear Trinity,

I can well understand why you would be upset by a couple of the somewhat negative posts earlier down the thread.

Mumsnet is indeed like a massive family, and as such some members are easy to get on with and really well thought of. And some not so. You and I have had little, if any contact, but I have read some of your posts and threads and have thought of you as a fab individual and a credit to mumsnet. Some people have that effect on others without really trying.

When it seemed that your original post was escalating beyond your original request I was more than happy to see what I could contribute. Including to the coat. The empathy that I feel to your situation is overwhelming, and just as people feel so deeply about situations in the news and 'need' to help, not out of any sense of self satisfaction, but out of a deep emotional connection with what an individual is going through, I wanted to reach out to another human being and express that whilst no, I am not in your situation, I would like the privilage of helping, whether in a practical way, or through support on here.

BitMiffed and IkindaAgree, I think your posts are deeply deeply insensitive and totally agree with others that you would have been well served to keep your opinions to yourself. We are all adults here and if those who are so generously 'helping' have chosen to do this for Trinity, it is up to them whether they simple satisfy the original post, or fill in any gaps that must be IMO horrendous to have to face under the circumstances.

I am sorry Trinity for the long post. I very rarely get 'angry' but am completely incensed on your behalf. PLEASE try not to let these opinions affect you and know what we feel honoured to be able to do what we are doing here. I think the extent to which people wish to help is a true reflection of how highly you are thought of it on MN.

Take care Trinity, and God Bless xx

Mitts.

Tigerfeet think she is 12 and a 14 regarding maternity clothes - it has been asked previously - several pages to trawl back through but I am pretty sure she was that size. Can someone please correct me if I am wrong.

MilkNoPoisonPlease. Don't think we have an answer re boots/tescos. If you have a boots one then just send it? If not maybe donate to eandh's paupal? Whatever you want to do would be great. I am sure Trinity or DD1 would like the perfume - my daugter steals my stuff all the time. Have I already sent you the address? If not just shout please

TheMitsubishiWarrioress that post is totally beautiful. The last few posts of support for Trinity have been magical - I really hope she gets round to reading them when she can to know how highly we think of her and how we all want to help.

I personally think it's lovely that a simple request to buy some shoes generated such a heartfelt response, and it's reasurring to know that such kindness of spirit and willingness to help someone in trouble still exists.

There will always be self-absorbed bitter little assholes around but happily they are in the minority.

Thanks stressed, i dont have paypal so cant contribute that way but thought if i popped a small voucher in with a strict note to spend it on no one but herself(!) that might be ok?

And i will send the perfume to

Think eandh sent it to me...well someone did anyway! ty

MilkNoPoisonPlease that would be a lovely thing. I am sure it will be appreciated. Thanks for being so generous.x

I've just seen this thread for the first time, having had no internet access for a while. I don't know Trinity personally but read with tears in my eyes the original posts when her DH died, and like most people on this thread, shudder at the very thought of it. None of us can imagine how awful that situation must be in itself, let alone having children to care for and no income.

I've not gone back down the thread to read the offending posts that have caused so much upset, because they sound like they don't even warrant me spending the time on them - from everyone's responses, it appears that their comments were cruel and unnecessary.

EandH, and Stressed, I'd love to help if there are items on the list still needed - I've literally just had a wardrobe clearout (the bags are in the hall waiting for me to take them to the charity shop as I type!) and am a size 12 - 14 so if my clothes would be any good please drop me an email and let me know, I'll happily pass them on to Trinity. My email is susiwhite at mac dot com.

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I'm wondering if Bitmiffed & kindofagree are one and the same person. I hope to Christ there aren't two people out there that

a) are that mean spirited and
b) so cowardly they have to namechange

I've sent a paypal donation to TR's fund. I can't begin to imagine what her and the children are going through

I am almost scared to post now
I have been kiked in the teeth by the nasty posts
they have made me out to be a money grabbing bitch and I already felt guilty enough

the kind post from all you wonderful people who are helping me are helping so so much
thankyou from the bottom of my heart
neil would know that you would help me
thankyou

Fuck 'em Trinity. Just two mean hearted bitches from the hundreds/thousands who post on mumsnet.
You don't need them - they don't even have the guts to post under their orginal names

If they were in the same position as you are now do you think they'd be turning down offers of support just because they already had plates & cups? Me arse they would.

Good post FAE

Well said

Unbelievable

How dare you come on to this thread and make this wonderful woman feel like crap!! You spineless horrible people. I am so

As many of the other posters stated, she did not come on here looking for a handout, she was after some shoes for her children - she was going to BUY them.

The wonderful ladies of Mumsnet wanted to GIVE her shoes for her children, then other MNetters asked if there was anything else she needed and decided to send her stuff they no longer needed/used.
It is a wonderful thing, and Trinity has been more than grateful for the help, as I am sure any of us would be, if we were in a similar situation to her.

You are making it out to be something that it is clearly not.

It is none of your business what Mumsnetters do with their unwanted items, whether they give them to charity or a friend in need.

Trinity - you are a wonderful woman.I think you are incredibly strong and seem to coping very well after everything that has happened to you and your family. You are amazing Do not think for one second that anyone else on this thread thinks anything otherwise.

I am more than happy to contribute towards your family in any way I can, because you need it more than me and I feel good because I am helping out a family who needs it.

That is all quite garbled [angry typing]!!

Trinity don't be scared to post and don't feel guilty.

I understand why you feel like that. I've had periods in my life where things have fallen apart horribly and I couldn't cope. I've got some wonderful friends who rallyed round and helped me so much, which at the time I hated because I felt so guilty about not being able to cope and really bad at people having to help me. I didn't want to feel like a burden or charity case. My friends however, didn't see it like that. They saw me in trouble and were only too glad to help me through it.

This is exactly the same so don't feel guilty, You just concentrate on yourself and your family.

Trinity, ignore them please. If they don;t want to help, that's fine, there are plenty of us who do. Please let me know if DSS2 and his gf are having a girl, as I really want to send these clothes to a good home - it's all the pretty dresses and things I was sad to part with [sad git emoticon] but it would make me feel good to know your stepDGC was wearing them.