anyone else think mn aint friendly anymore?

[scottishmumto1]

i feel it aint the same it used to be.too cliquey. i tried to offer wee bit of help and advice earlier to other mnetter and basically got ignored, but when another one of the clique offered advice she was all, thanks yous and asking how she was.
no gratitude these days

Don't post enough nowadays to be able to say whether or not things are getting increasingly cliquey, but this is something that comes up every now and then. Put "cliquey" in your search and you'll soon see what I mean. As for not responding to advice given - I'm probably guilty of that at times, but invariably because my life is so hectic at times that I forget what I've posted or to check if there have been replies. Which is nothing really, the other day I collected DS from school and was half way out the grounds when I remembered his friend was coming to tea. And that's a good day.

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ok names.... if there was a thread for any reason i would be more likley to respond to rhubarb - as she is my bestest friend. i would also perhaps make a passing comment or reply to cam, scummy, noddy,mabs - as i have met them more than once.

i would not do this to the deliberate exclusion of anyone else - however as i have met them at a meet up they tend to stick out. therefore i can understand a mnetter giving good advice and maybe say ...rhubarb saying " i agree with xxxx, you should trap his digerydont in a vice..etc" and me therfore replying
"thanks rhubarb" not to the deliberate exclusion of someone just mainly becuase i know rhubarb. i could be a bit more thoughtful of other mumsnetters feelings but unfortunatley am just your regular everyday f*ckwit who tends to remember people shes actually met rather thant he other 478 regular posters.

Fair enough, Custardo, that makes perfect sense - fwiw, whilst I recognise the names you've mentioned, they'd not be first on a list of MNetters I was writing - simply because I don't seem to see them on threads I read very often.

yes I was suzybonk actually at that time of night, davros
or should I be namechecking and thanking everyone who has posted and read this thread in my post just so as not to seem ungrateful or exclusive? I'm confused, the rules are changing. I thought this was a chat room and posters had free will, remind me what I have to do again?

MN is friendly..... if you dont rub people up the wrong way!!!!

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When you post comments like

"which planet are you on"

you can't expect to win friends & influence people....

i posted a thread on designer clothes once (probably saw it as it was a big thread) and everyone started ganging up on me , i had no choice to be horrible but it was me just being as bad as other people.

just for curiousty sake custardo, whose digerdont should you trap in a vice????, very intrigueing!!!

unfriendly? - oh bog off!

it was something mytwopenceworth posted on a rlationship thread...caught my attention!

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made me laugh that one custardo!

i think what a lot of these clique-knickers-in-a-twisters are forgetting is that now you can see who is posting on a thread then you can choose to catch up with people you know and have a rapport with very rapidly rather than having to read through and thread and keep returning to it to see who was on it, as we used to do in the old days- remember my lovley lovely fellow old girls xxxxxx

rickman I haven't forgotten about your msn addy btw

I post on all sorts and sometimes get a response and other times I don't. When I've asked for advice/help etc, I do try and respond to whoever answers - but sometimes it's difficult. Anyway, why do some people bother to post if all they're interested in as a 'pat-on-the-back'? We're all supposed to be adults - not spitting the dummy everytime someone forgets to say "Thank You".

I've been on MN for about 7 or 8 months and I've never noticed any cliques ... Definition of a clique = "A clique is an exclusive social group formed between a few people who share a common interest." Doesn't that make MN one BIG CLIQUE?

totally agree with the pat-on-the-back threads Joash, don't have time for them at all. It always seems to be those ones that get moany about cliques and then in a right old two-and-eight if they don't get quite the right kinds of pats on their backs.

And I'm not being sly or cryptic or allusional by not naming names, I just genuinely can't be bothered to take note of who is posting just to get patted so to speak.

Snurk.

LOL

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I'm not sure if I should be "off3nded" or not, Cod - I didn't get much of that

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Still not getting it. Can you draw a picture?